Hey Dan here and in this video I want to share with you two stories that I think
you're gonna find pretty entertaining and insightful about how we can actually
solve our problems and make changes in ourselves without overthinking and over
complicating things I was talking to a friend a little ways back to keep it
vague for privacy sake and this is a young single guy and he was telling me
about some some things he realized about his childhood and this psychological
term related to it I'll keep it vague again but he where he had realized like
he'd had these experiences and it involved this psychological termini had
this issue and he was going to see a therapist about it
and kind of instinctively although I was thinking about it I and I know him quite
well I said I think if you see to get laid like be a man and get laid and
that's probably 90% of the issue here and he didn't dismiss it
he was like yeah you're probably right but you know I'm gonna keep up with this
therapy thing and see what happens and we connected you know maybe six months a
year later and I asked him you know how did that go and he told me he saw the
first few therapists and they were quite terrible but the third one was actually
quite a good fit and you know it's really helped and things had resolved
themselves and such and I asked you know what was the advice what did you kind of
follow as your path and it was to embrace my masculine energy so be a man
and to basically get laid to go out and meet girls and have a good time and stop
overthinking things basically to do what men in their 20s are supposed to do
right I would argue all people in their 20s but at least traditionally
definitely men that was what you were encouraged to do I think everyone needs
to get laid more in their 20s like that if I had one message it should be like
dreams around the world get laid more in your 20s really though I and of course
for my religious viewers I mean get laid a lot in a committed marriage to the
first and only person you'll ever have sex with in your life because that's
really healthy now getting back on topic I'm not saying that therapy is bad or
coaching is bad like you should just do the simplest thing but keep in mind that
a lot of therapy like cognitive behavioral therapy is based on change
your actions and very simple solutions as is a lot of coaching now we're
coaching or therapy can come in is actually helping you work through it
process it and take the actions to do it right someone just telling you in 30
seconds that you should do something differently even if it's the right
advice doesn't necessarily actually help change that behavior in the long run and
so again not dismissing those things but kind of funny that ultimately the
simplest solution that pretty much any construction worker could have come up
with was the right solution now this brings me to the second story a story I
heard during some of my early coaching training that I absolutely love now I'm
going off memory here so if I get any little detail wrong I apologize but I'm
pretty positive the important part of the story I have nailed here so this
goes back to Richard Bandler and John grinder who are the founders of NLP and
back in the day they were often called in to psychiatric hospitals to deal with
the patients that no one else could deal with well they weren't necessarily
accepted by the psychological community they were still called in and used when
everyone got desperate and the traditional methods of therapy weren't
working and in this particular case they were called in for someone let's call
him John this patient had been locked up for a couple years believing he was
Jesus nothing had worked he was absolutely convinced he was Jesus now
one of the foundations of NLP is essentially that people are sane and our
thinking is generally rational at least rational if you understand how
irrational we are but there's usually a cause behind things and it's not that
people are just randomly broken that behavior language actions there's
reasons for why people do what they do so they get called in and they know the
whole background on this patient and they they go into the hospital and at
first they have these other men with them and at first the therapist is like
nope you cannot like this is not what we agreed to and then okay we'll leave then
if you know this isn't cool with you okay okay fine fine do what you got to
do so they go into the room at first the two of them and say to the guy yeah
you're Jesus right he's like yeah yeah I'm Jesus okay
cuz we've been looking for you what do you mean just don't worry about it so
you're Jesus the carpenter from above habla this is you like we just saw to
check all these details they go through this motion and guys kind of confuse
because no one's believed he was Jesus for the last couple of years like yeah
yeah that's that's me I'm Jesus awesome great we've finally found you and at
that note they knock on a door and these two huge guys come in with two giant
pieces of wood and they lay them down on the ground and across and start nailing
them together and then they bring out two large nails and the guy's looking
around like what what what's going on here you're you are Jesus correct yeah
yeah but what what are you doing what is this for you said you were Jesus we've
been looking for you and they continue with this song and dance and ultimately
get to the point where they they take this guy and they start to drag him over
and he's freaking out like what the hell are you doing what is this like he's
seen a hammer these big pegs of like metal pegs that are we all know where
this story ends and he starts to freak out and it just finally breaks no no no
I'm sorry I'm sorry I'm John I'm an accountant I'm 38 years old I'm not
Jesus no this is the only part of the story I really got it didn't go into
what was happening in the back end but if I were to think about it I think that
this person that ultimately at the core of this psychiatric issue was a feeling
of insignificance was something where they they created this identity of being
Jesus maybe as a way to feel love from people maybe as a way to feel
significant and obviously it got to the point where it was basically insanity
but that had the basis of it there was some reasoning behind why it happened
and that ultimately the way to eventually treat that was not to keep
studying them and saying wow this case is amazing this person that has thought
their Jesus for you know two years oh my god because that's giving the person
that attention that they wanted that may have been May
again I don't know the details but may have been at the basis for why they
actually created this delusion in the first place and so that the solution
ended up being pretty outrageous but a very straightforward solution of putting
a very painful choice up to this person so you can continue to say you're Jesus
and get this attention and possibly be executed in the next couple minutes or
you can go back to your old self and not die and in that very simple decision or
that very simple choice this person made the decision to be like okay I'm going
to be sane again so just keep that in mind it doesn't always have to be that
complicated I'm going to link to another video here I film back in my hometown
Vancouver a couple years ago where I share another story about keeping things
real simple and finding solutions in that way as well now if you've made it
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