I feel bad for him.
He's an adult who's almost 30 years old,
yet he makes mistakes a little kid would do.
This is how he broke the toilet. He didn't just sit.
He was dancing, then he sank down from the side.
He broke it from dancing?
- He danced samba. / - He danced samba.
- Why did you do that? / - You said you hated samba.
- I was... / - Why would you dance when you poop?
- You can't break it by sitting. / - You should've sit.
(Samba is so exciting.)
What kind of husband do you want him to be?
I want him to manage his stuff well.
- Self-management. / - As a result,
I want him to be skilled at everything.
Is anyone around you skilled at everything?
My brother-in-law.
(Her brother-in-law is skilled at everything.)
(Come on.)
Why are you skilled at everything?
I am?
- She sees me that way. / - Seeing them from the side,
who do you think should be more worried?
I think the cultural difference is too big
- for them. / - I think so too.
Do you think he's so slow that you can't stand it?
No, it's not that bad.
Is your sister-in-law a bit impatient
or is your wife like that too? How is she?
I'm the impatient one.
- You cook. / - Yes, that's why
I clean the house before my wife does.
Have you ever cooked for your wife?
Recently, I cook dinner most of the time.
(He's in charge of making dinner.)
(I envy my sister.)
How much time does it take to make dinner?
About 30 minutes.
(He can make a meal in 30 minutes.)
Even though you're impatient,
he's saying that your husband isn't too bad.
Why do you make so much fuss about it?
When you live with someone,
- you feel things that others can't. / - That's true.
- Also, / - You must live with the person.
even though it's inconvenient,
I can understand, as he's my family.
I can understand because I love him.
However, I'm worried he'll experience disadvantage
from others later on.
That's why I'm quite impatient.
What do you mean by disadvantage?
Even when the customer service was horrible,
my husband always smiles and says, "Thank you!"
I'm afraid people will look down on him.
I'm afraid people will consider
- that he's easy to deal with. / - You'll be worried.
It's a situation where you can complain,
yet he doesn't do that and smile instead.
Can't you express your anger at others?
I don't get angry.
When I worked in an office in Brazil,
my manager asked me
if I never get upset with anything.
I do want to get angry
but I don't. I can't express my anger, either.
- It's that bad. / - Sometimes, I...
(He never gets upset with anybody.)
I'm fine.
(I'm fine.)
"I'm fine."
(I'm patient.)
Is there anything else your wife tells you
to change?
- Yes. / - What is it?
- My body. / - Change your body?
How can you change your body?
I weigh 170kg.
- 170kg? / - 170kg.
(Weighing 170kg is common in Brazil?)
- That's your height? / - I'm 170cm tall.
I used to weigh 90kg.
- That was your weight. / - I used to be super fat.
(He used to be really heavy.)
- He lost a lot of weight. / - I used to be fat.
At that time, my wife
- nagged me to work out, / - "Exercise now!"
so I exercised a lot
and lost 20kg.
(He lost 20kg.)
- She did a good job. / - She did really well.
Show us how much effort he put.
(The husband's miracle will be revealed.)
He became so much more handsome.
- Who is that? / - My goodness.
- Who is he? / - How can he be so different?
(This picture will inspire you to go on a diet.)
- Isn't he a different man? / - He's a different man.
Who is that?
- Is that really Bernardo? / - It's so...
He used to look like Mario.
- He's like Super Mario. / - Super Mario.
I would've never figured out that he's the same guy.
(I look like Super Mario?)
He's become a different person.
- He looks super friendly. / - He looks kind.
He looks totally different.
I have a question.
- In fact... / - 20kg makes this much difference?
He's changed this much from that, including his body.
- Why didn't you praise him? / - He put so much effort.
My wife loves guys with nice figures.
- Built guys. / - Built guys.
"Look how hot he is."
- Who is she referring to? / - Who?
- For example, upon seeing Gong Yoo... / - Gong Yoo.
(She compares him with Gong Yoo.)
- He's Gong Yoo. / - He worked out for 20 years.
(They say you should dream big.)
- That's Gong Yoo. / - Gong Yoo is a goblin,
not a human.
While looking at Gong Yoo,
she takes me for a squid.
(He pretends to be a squid with ten legs.)
- A squid. / - She takes you for a squid.
If you keep doing that, people will misunderstand.
- What, then? / - Hence...
When you lost 20kg,
was your wife moved? Did she praise you?
- No, she didn't say, / - That was nothing for her.
"Well done" or "Great job".
- She thought it's what you must do. / - My wife
thought it's something I must do.
- That wouldn't encourage you. / - You lost weight,
- yet she told you to become Gong Yoo. / - Seriously...
Didn't it make you upset? She should've praised you.
- No, it didn't. / - Come on, it made you upset.
- You mentioned it, as you were mad. / - You were mad.
- Come on. / - I'm serious.
- Come on. / - I want to be angry, but...
- He's such a nice guy. / - He's an angel.
What a nice guy.
Even if you don't get upset, you'd be displeased.
You can complain about that in a nice way, right?
Do you not even do that?
No, I can't do that.
Do you really want him to become like Gong Yoo?
- His body? / - I don't wish him to be like Gong Yoo.
When we started dating,
I didn't care about his looks.
I loved his personality
and I loved how positive he was.
As our relationship became more serious...
Did his looks start to matter to you?
since I wanted us to last for a long time,
I started wanting him not to stand out
even if we go to Korea.
How much more weight do you want him to lose?
It'd be nice to lose 10kg from now
and to build muscles.
- Lose 10kg and build muscles? / - It's impossible.
- Yes. / - Do you take him for a cyborg or what?
Losing two or three kg is already difficult.
It seems she wants him to be perfect.
I once lost my weight down to 59kg.
I fainted about twice
and it was the toughest time of my life.
- It's that hard to lose weight. / - It's really tough.
- He put a tremendous amount of effort. / - Exactly.
He did it for love.
Is there anything you did for your husband?
What did you cater to him?
I don't think there's anything. My husband
wants nothing from me.
- Don't you want anything from her? / - There's none?
- Say anything. / - Say it now.
- What do you want her to cater to you? / - Exactly.
- Say it now. / - Isn't there anything
you want her to cater to you?
When I am tired sometimes,
I want to play games on my phone, take a nap
or watch television but she tells me
to get up and do stuff.
She doesn't like guys who rest and do nothing.
I want him to enjoy productive activities
- if he could. / - If he could, that would be better.
- Yes. / - What do you mean by productive activities?
- What would that be? / - My husband likes soccer.
As there's also a team he roots for with passion,
it'd be nice to play soccer outside and meet people.
- He can work out meanwhile... / - No,
if he has to rest the way you want him,
- that means he has no freedom. / - That's not a rest.
Having to play soccer against his will
is like a sentence of death.
He'd meet people and be productive.
However, he would need to do that once
a week or twice a month, within a fixed time frame.
If he uses the time wisely...
Even now, when you speak,
- you enforce your own standard. / - Exactly.
You're making your husband fit in your standard.
It may be my standard
but I think
that Koreans have expectations for foreigners
who speak Korean well.
If foreigners speak good Korean, they forget how
they're foreigners
and hope they'd understand Korean culture.
(Koreans hope them to accept all Korean culture.)
What she's saying is true.
When I first came to Korea,
my Korean wasn't good. Back then, Koreans cut me
- some slack. / - "He doesn't know very well."
Gradually, they treated me more like a Korean.
Since then, if you can't fit in Korean culture,
you can be a victim of fraud or have a bad experience.
That's why his wife is worried.
For the time he spent in Korea, his Korean is great.
However, his behaviors or his habits
fall short of Korean standard.
He sounded as though he was happier
back when he used to live in Brazil,
for nobody scolded him for not cleaning.
- He was free. / - He was relaxed.
Honestly, do you want to go back to Brazil?
- No. / - Why not?
When we lived in Brazil, my wife
had a hard time getting used to the environment there.
For the two years we spent there, I kept thinking
that she'd be happier and more comfortable in Korea.
- He considers his wife first. / - He's so sweet.
That's why we decided to live in Korea.
(He decided to go to Korea for his wife.)
- How can I find a guy like him? / - He's an angel.
- He's sacrificing himself for your happiness. / - Yes.
- Can't you wait for him a bit? / - Just a little bit.
I always asked
if he'd change once I wait.
However, after waiting for two years,
- he didn't change at all. / - He lost 20kg, though.
- It was before? / - He lost his weight when we dated.
After we got married, he kept gaining weight.
(Do you really want him to be as slim as Gong Yoo?)
You lived in Brazil for two years.
Did you adjust yourself to Brazilian culture soon?
No, it was also difficult to overcome the cultural gap.
- It's the same for your husband. / - She's quick,
so getting used to something slowly would be hard.
That's right. She'd be totally frustrated.
What was difficult to adapt yourself?
If we planned to meet at 7 p.m., people start leaving
at 7 p.m. They'd arrive at 8 to 8:30 p.m., even 9 p.m.
- That's insane. / - Some just don't show up at all.
Without informing you?
- They don't even get upset. / - They understand.
I'd get upset, asking why they're not coming,
and they'll say, "What's wrong? Just enjoy the party."
"They'll come later on."
Anything else you're frustrated with due to being slow?
When I go to supermarkets, as Koreans are skilled,
even before the receipt is out, the cashier would wait
and when the receipt is out, she'd give it to me.
However, in Brazil, a cashier would chat with others
- after scanning the barcode. / - Really?
That will be so upsetting.
I'd be frustrated, fidgeting like this.
Then, she'd scan another item and continue to chat.
- Unbelievable. / - It took forever to pay.
Back then, did your husband
tell you to adjust yourself to Brazilian culture soon?
My in-laws and my husband helped me a lot
to get used to the culture there.
They've never rushed me or nagged me
for not adjusting myself well.
- Then, why do you do that? / - No one does such
stuff there. Nobody says anything for no-show.
Nobody reproves you for not adjusting yourself well.
- They're always slow. / - It's their culture.
Did you first kiss each other soon or not?
- I'm curious about that. / - "Why doesn't he kiss me?"
- I'm curious. / - "Kiss me quickly! Right now!"
"Kiss me right here right now!"
(Was their kiss as swift as that?)
- That's scary. / - How was it?
Did you kiss each other soon or was that also slow?
When it comes to that, we are quicker than Koreans.
When it comes to kissing...
(He kissed her very soon.)
You're cool.
(Brazil isn't only good at soccer.)
- What was the toughest part of Korea? / - Exactly.
- You would've missed your parents. / - My parents
aren't here. When I was in Brazil, for over ten years,
I gathered with my friends, played poker and drank.
- You hung out. / - However, my wife didn't like that,
so I stopped.
In fact, he stopped everything his wife told him to.
Aren't you working right now, then?
He's preparing to work while attending language school.
- I'm preparing to get a job. / - What about expenses?
- He saved up in brazil. / - I saved money in Brazil.
- I saved the money there. / - What about your wife?
She's working.
- Then... / - That's why I wanted to do well at home.
I cleaned up my puppy's dung and threw away garbage.
He talks often about his puppy.
Is there a job that your wife wants you to have?
My wife likes jobs that are recognized.
- Recognized by whom? / - Give me an example.
A corporate?
For example, a global corporation would be one.
She wants me to work at a company everyone knows.
It has to be a job people recognize.
- Even the job is decided for him. / - What about you?
What do you really want to do?
I like creative work
- like advertising and marketing. / - You like that.
I want such job.
Is what he's saying true?
I don't want him to work for a corporate.
Since my husband is a foreigner, I thought it'd be
hard for him to adjust to the working culture here.
That's why I said that but I think he got me wrong.
In order to do that, your husband
needs to adjust himself to Korean culture soon.
That's why he's preparing to find a job now.
- However, if you rush him... / - You're grilling him.
Not all who hire foreigners require fluent Korean.
- That's right. / - My husband can communicate
well enough in Korean and he's studying hard.
Thus, once he starts interacting with others at work,
he will be able to productively improve his Korean,
- so I want him to go out. / - You want him to face it.
Actually,
- he's so sweet. / - He's so sweet.
He's so sweet who does everything for his wife.
You listened to his side of the story today.
I wonder how that made you feel.
I've never considered my husband deeply enough.
Hearing my husband's perspective through the third
person makes me feel that I spared with praising.
I think that I might have pressed him way too much.
Is there any praise you want your wife to tell you?
- There is. / - What is it?
If I work hard for something, I wish my wife
- will praise me, "Well done." / - "Good job."
- "Good job." / - Just that one expression.
- That means a lot. / - That would make me feel better.
My wife sometimes tell me that I'm cute.
I like being called cute
but I actually want her to tell me that I'm cool,
as I want to be a cool guy for her.
- That was cool. / - You want to be manly.
(You're unbelievable.)
Say what you find cool about him.
Honey, I didn't say it out loud
but I always think that you're handsome and cool.
You should say those out loud.
You were really cool to not have given up on your diet.
The way he expresses his love for you in front of
- 200 people itself is cool. / - He's really nice.
Also, the fact that he moved to Korea for you
- is so cool. / - It's very cool of him.
You actually know that he's cool.
The problem is that you didn't express that.
You never expressed your gratitude or praised him.
Without expressing any of that, you made him work.
- "Do it now! Why don't you do it?" / - Exactly.
If you praise and encourage him,
he'll change sooner than you expect.
When you first met him, you loved him the way he was.
Now, after living with him,
you were upset when he didn't live up to your standard.
Love your husband the way he is.
"You're cool. You did well." He really does well.
If I had such husband, I'd make money and have him
stay home while considering that he's a palm tree.
It's because he's like a palm tree that offers a shade.
I really feel this is life.
Is there anything you'd like to say to your wife?
Honey, I'll put effort
- and make no mistake. / - How nice.
It'd be nice to live together until the last day.
Honey, I love you.
(Honey, I love you.)
- He's so adorable. / - How could there be such man?
- Although she nags... / - He can't live without her.
- Look at him. / - All Koreans would marry Brazilians,
- thinking everyone's like this. / - Where can I
- find such guy? I envy you. / - Brazil.
Kangnam, is this a worry or not?
I don't think it's a worry.
I really think he's a cool guy.
His ideas about love are amazing.
- He's cool. / - I also don't think it's a worry.
His wife found a good thing.
Did you say that she found a good thing?
- Where can I find such guy? / - It's because she's
- from China. / - They came this far, as they mix well.
- I wish you happiness. / - I think
- it's a worry. / - It's a worry.
- It's a worry. / - Yes, I thought it's a worry.
If you're displeased with something, say it.
If you two communicate with each other,
you'll get along even better later on.
- Tolerating alone isn't right. / - I agree.
(Bernardo, don't tolerate too much.)
If you empathize with him, press the button.
(What does the audience think?)
- In five, four, / - In five, four,
- three, two, one. / - three, two, one.
- Stop. / - Time's up.
Ma'am, say a few words to your husband,
as you would've learned a lot today.
Please put a bit more effort from now on.
- Just a bit. / - She's a typical Korean.
- We told her so much, but... / - She learned
- nothing today. / - I won't spare with praising.
- Thank you for loving me always. I love you. / - Okay.
- All right. / - That's right.
See how happy he is. Tell him you love him again.
He's so happy. Tell him once again more passionately.
Honey, I love you.
(Honey, I love you.)
(Are you that happy?)
Show us how many votes this story got.
(The result)
Did it get over 100 votes?
It did get over 100 votes.
- Honey. / - 100...
- 124 votes? / - 114 votes.
- 124 votes. / - My goodness!
He got many votes.
(Their story earned 124 votes.)
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