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Hello, and welcome to Episode Eight of Deaf Poynters
where I talk to you, give concerns, rant about,
answer questions about deaf
and/or disability related problems.
Jay has left a question, so here we go.
"Hi Rikki, my name is Jay.
"I am a lot like you in some ways.
"I can speak and I learned sign later in life
"but I have had some attitude
"from the Deaf community where I live.
"I hate the label 'hearing impaired.'
"Just because I can talk doesn't mean that I am 'hearing'.
"How do you view this? In your own experience,
"have you had problems with your own Deaf identity
"because you can talk or is this the media
"that educates people to think that deaf cannot speak?
"Take care, hope all is well, Jay."
This is gonna be a whirlwind of emotions and stuff.
You are me when I first got into this whole thing.
You are me when I left anonymous messages turned on
on Tumblr, okay.
I'm gonna try to get to the point
and not run around this whole thing or get too...
Um...
What's the word? 'All over the place', that's words.
So I feel like there's some stuff missing
from this question, like does the Deaf community
call you hearing impaired instead of anything else
which is what I would find strange
because the Deaf community generally does not
like that label, so I'm very confused about that.
But what I can really answer is the "Have I had
"any problems with Deaf identity?" because I can talk
and because I've grown up talking, right?
Yup (laughing).
Listen or read because
I can make deaf ear jokes all day, but anyways,
when I had anonymous messages turned on on Tumblr,
right, I would...
Every once in awhile I would get a message,
a few messages, sometimes a swarm of messages,
that was more rare, but I would get messages
every once in awhile that would say I was faking
or you know some other bullshit about how I wasn't
really Deaf or any of that because I wasn't fluent.
I've had people on my Facebook page say
that I was faking, that I was using deaf people for money,
which is completely barbaric, by the way.
First of all, let me tell you,
there's been no money in this anyways
so that alone, that statement alone was silly.
But anyways, no, there's no faking involved in here.
So when I was first discovering Deaf culture,
because I grew up being the only deaf person that I knew
besides the one that I got it from
and I felt extremely alone, so it's like...
Not hearing enough, not deaf enough,
hard of hearing, I guess.
No wait, my hearing loss is more than that now.
And I have a video that's called "Too Deaf
"For The Hearing World, Too Hearing For The Deaf World"
or something like that.
It's a very, very long battle.
So yeah, there are moments within, you know, in the last three
something years where when
I've struggled with myself in the middle of learning ASL
when I get these kinds of comments, I would shut down
and I'd be like okay, well you know what, fine.
I'm not gonna get involved in this anymore,
I'm not gonna learn ASL anymore.
I'm not gonna get involved in this community anymore
because if you want to make me feel like shit about it
then what's the point in continuing this if like.
Well, I guess you're right, you win, I'm not deaf right?
No, it's just crap now really.
This is something that I've had to remember
and this is something that my friend Jules Dameron
has reminded me of constantly, every time
I get these kinds of comments because every time I did
I would go to her and I would rant.
If you come across a group of people in this community
and they say that you're not deaf, you're faking,
you're not deaf enough for us, you know.
That whole screw you attitude,
you're not a part of us thing,
they're not your friends, they will never be your friends.
Forget about them and go find someone
who will be your friend.
While the Deaf community is smaller
than the hearing community, the Deaf community is still
bigger than we think, and, if that makes any sense
and you will find somebody who will accept you.
They will accept you for who you are,
just like my own friends have accepted me for who I was,
my residual hearing, my clumsy signing and all.
However, to answer another question, yeah,
the media has, not just the media, but you know
science has taught hearing people
that deaf people can't really speak, you know.
Not all of us but like, generally, generally.
But as to whether that has anything to do with this,
no, I don't think so, I don't think those two relate really.
So let's just move that aside.
It's an annoying thing, having people, having attitude
from some people in the very, you know,
having attitude from people who are like me
at least you know, medically
has, you know, been a pain,
but you just... Fight back,
pay them no mind, do what I do, get over it,
and actually you know what, we don't have to get over it,
they can get over it.
Now I'm not saying that I don't struggle with this anymore.
There are...
Every once in awhile, there are those little moments
when in the back of my brain it's like
oh shoot, oh no and then I feel like very
not confident in myself and I don't accept it,
I don't accept myself, but just...
That's when it's time to remind yourself
that there are very good friends out there
and future friends that do and will accept you
for who you are, which will also help you
learn to accept yourself but first and foremost
you got to love yourself before you can love anybody else
and before they can love you.
Or no I guess, people loved me
before I accepted myself, right?
I don't know, but yeah.
So, hopefully that gives you a little bit of perspective.
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