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>> Psalms 50:15 says, "Call on me when you are in trouble, and
I will rescue you, and you will give me glory." Matthew 11:28,
"Are you tired? Are you worn out? Burned out in religion.
Come to me. Get away with me and you'll recover your life." James
5:15, "The prayer of faith will save the sick person, and the
Lord will restore him to health." God will rescue,
recover and restore.
>>BAILEY: Welcome to the FAITH ALIVE SHOW. My name is Bailey
and I'll be your host on today's episode. Pastor Brent is
finishing up his series on Discipline and Correction. We've
been learning that it's important for us to not only
give discipline properly, but to receive discipline and
correction properly so that we can be the best sons and
daughters in the kingdom of God. Before we enter into today's
episode, let's remember to check our hearts and our ears so that
they're ready to receive everything God is saying to us.
I'll see you at the end of the show.
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>>BRENT RUDOSKI: You know parents your job is not to be
your kids friend. Your job is to tell them the truth. The hard
things about life. Amen. Come on. Tell them the hard things
about life. Don't let them think weird, stupid, strange, stuff.
Go after, that's right. You're called to train up your children
with godly correction and nurture and admonition of the
Lord. That takes work. That takes time. That takes effort.
And as they get older they will suddenly realize that one day
just how smart you really were, might take them 35 years, most
men don't grow a brain till they're 30. It's what I've
heard. Then after that they get smart, real smart real fast. Up
till the end they're still trying to figure life out, you
know. Proverbs 12:1 says, listen to this, "Whoever loves
discipline loves knowledge." How many of you love being
disciplined? In other words, you love to learn. The idea of
correction is to point out the folly of what you're thinking or
you're doing, and show you the right way. And as you see the
right way, the light comes on, the command, it gives you a
light and a love and also, you know what, you're smarter than
you were yesterday. Hallelujah! That didn't go very well, did
it? We should be happy about that. We should be happy we're
getting corrected because now I can learn the truth. And if I
learn knowledge, then I get wisdom. "Wisdom is the principal
thing," Proverbs tells us. With all your getting, get wisdom.
How do I get wisdom? Learn how to take correction. Come on. It
said, whoever loves discipline, loves knowledge, but one who
hates correction is stupid. Now, before you think that's a
Brent-ism or my thing. That is what God wrote in there. I just
want you to know that. My wife always told me, "You shouldn't
say those things. Don't say that." I said, "Well, God says
it. Jesus said it." Who am I to bark with those guys? Who am I
to break tradition? Right? So, the truth is, teenagers they
don't, they're immature and they don't wanna be viewed as stupid.
The problem is the more you try not to be stupid, the dumber you
still look. Right? 'Cause that's what it says here. If you hate
correction, you automatically are class as stupid. So while
you're fighting not to be stupid and you're trying so hard to
show how smart you are, and you're trying so hard to be
grown up and mature. The truth is the other side actually comes
out and you actually look really dumb, because you won't take
correction. So the moment you start to bark at correction. You
start to fuss at it. You start to depend yourself. You start to
get mad. You start to hate it. You start to tell reason why
that's not right. You become stupid. I didn't say that. The
God said that. I'm just explaining it better than He
does, right? Come on. It's not true? Yeah, and so you gotta
learn how to take correction positively. Turn to somebody,
"Positively." It's hard though, isn't it? To take it positively.
And maybe you were discipline improperly or harshly and
sometimes if feels harsh, doesn't it? My mistake in
disciplining my kids, I was pretty harsh sometimes. Firstly,
when I first got saved, very harsh, very dogmatic. Now you
learned as you get older to have more love and then throw more
love and there all that kind of stuff and not to over
discipline. Over discipline is no good either, right? Because
that leads to problems in the children. They'll hate you and
hate the system and hate everything. A lot of times,
children are just turn off because they're overly
corrected. You know, we have zealous Christians. You know,
that wanna do the Word of God and raise up their children. And
so we beat them half to death with instruction and, you know,
I've done that and that doesn't always work out right. Because
then they got upset. They got mad and we cause them to be, you
know, angry and downfall and then discourage. That's not what
we're supposed to do. There's supposed to be a balance there,
right? Say, "Balance." Balance. But don't get the idea that
discipline and correction is wrong or that it's hate, because
it's not. It's love.
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>>J.D. KING: Hello, I'm J.D. King, pastor, author. You know
we look around us and we see such duress and problems and
crisis throughout North America. It's affecting in the, you know,
some in United States. It's affecting families in Canada as
well. We have, you know, our children angry, bitter,
fighting. We have all kinds of, you know, economic breakdown,
turmoil. Marriages having great issue. You know, it grieves in
my heart. I'm sure it grieved your heart as well. I mean, you
know, we have a crisis of epic proportion. We have families
that, you know, that don't know where to turn. You know, a lot
of this obviously is rooted in spiritual issues. But really,
it's an issue of a lack of families, lack of fathering,
lack of guidance, and boundaries. We have society
without boundaries, without any guides, any direction, ends up
being in disarray, ends up being, you know, violent,
bitter, angry, perverse. You know, we have that going on so
much. I've been reading studies over the last number of years. I
want to share some of them with you here about how, you know,
our lack of fathering, our lack of guidance and boundaries are
really creating problems that we can't even begin to imagine. You
know, you probably know this but children that do have fathers
that guide them, that shape them their environments of guidance.
They do better in school. They began to develop better
emotionally and have the ability to be empathetic to others. This
is being confirmed all around through studies. Children who
have, you know, guidance and wisdom and those helping them
make their way forward are less involved in risky behaviours.
They don't get involve with drugs. They don't actually get
themselves in situations where they're in financial ruin. And I
wanna share some stats with you here. You know, there's a whole
lot more I could share. But, you know, we've got to do something
about this. We've got to rethink, you know, the problems
that we have throughout North America. But right now, did you
know that 63% of youth suicides come from children without
fathers and the family. 85% of children with behavioural
disorders are in households without a dad. 80% of rapist are
raised in one-parent homes. 71% of high school dropouts come
from fatherless houses. 85% of youth in prison come from, you
know, home without a guidance, without wisdom, without someone
actually giving them direction. 90% of homeless and runaway
children come from homes without a father. 71% of pregnant
teenage girls come from homes without a dad. You know, I'm not
just making up these stats. You know, they're in the Center for
Disease Control. They're from the Bureau of Census United
States. The U.S. Department of Health and Human Services. This
is truth throughout Canada, truth throughout America. We
have got to be a culture with that begins to re-embrace
discipline, guidance, fathers that are actually giving
direction. If we don't have, you know, someone speaking and
helping and shaping and guiding, you know, we're gonna see great
duress. But, you know, children and others who have discipline,
who have guidance, who are given of, you know, an understanding
of what it means to truly live and function, do really well.
They excelled in life. They moved forward in amazing ways.
So we've gotta get a hold of this. I think it's very fitting
what the writer of Hebrew said so many years ago. He said this,
this is from Hebrews 12:11, "No discipline is enjoyable while
it's happening. It's painful. But afterward there will be a
peaceful harvest of right living for those who are trained in
this way." You know, it's time to actually apply the truth and
principles of Scripture. That guidance, wisdom, and fathering
will give us a future. That's what we really need.
♪ [Segment Music] ♪
>>BRENT: You know as a boss, as a leader, you may have to
criticize. You may have to correct somebody. You may have
to reign somebody in. You may have to change something. And
over the years I've had lots of different reactions to it. Some
reactions have been good, people have taken it. And then
sometimes they'd come back to me with their own criticisms. You
know, they feel like if they can find fault with me, then what I
said to them holds no water. So then they start to say let's
fight, let's do the equal game here. And if I can find fault in
the leader with the authority figure which kids can easily do
because they know you parents like nobody else, right? So now
they'd say, "I don't need to listen to you because you too
are faulty. Why should I listen to you? Let me ask you. Is that
the right platform to stand on? No, it's not. And so we
understand that. I've had some people come back to me or some
people become immediately defensive. They just right away
the shield comes up. And then they're mad and right away their
heads go on and blah, blah. Why? 'Cause it's going to their
self-worth. You're correcting them for something simple.
Sometimes it's not even big deal and they're getting mad at you
and they're angry and they're defensive and blah, blah. They
go away, their whole week is ruined, you know. Life is over.
It sucks, you know. And so some people attack, you know. They
feel it attacks their intrinsic value. And some will use
comparisons to depend their position and then they attack
the one correcting, you know, with these comparisons and
things like that. And so we need to understand this is not a very
good idea. It's not a good idea. Amen? So if you're being
corrected or disciplined and it affects your self-worth. It just
proves that you have a level of immaturity that still there. The
whole goal of correction and discipline is to produce
maturity in the person. Right, that's why it's there. It's not
there to hurt you. It's there to help you and grow mature. So if
we don't see ourselves in the proper manner, in the proper
light, then that means we need more instruction and correction.
Which we have to realize, right? So the next time you get
corrected or your boss evaluates you or somebody disciplines you
sometimes, again you get mad. Stop right there and go, "Where
am I at?" Proverbs 9:7 said, "The one who corrects a mocker
will bring dishonour on himself and the one who rebukes a wicked
man will get hurt." And so you have to be careful who you
correct, just be careful, right? Don't, you know, be very, very
careful. But I wanna say this again being corrected or
discipline is not abuse. It's not hate. Turn to someone and
say, "It's not hate." Listen to this, Psalm 89. This is God
talking about the children of Israel and their sons. He said,
"If his sons forsake My instruction and do not live by
My ordinances, if they dishonour My statutes and do not keep My
commands, then I will call their rebellion to account with the
rod, their sin with blows. But I will not withdraw My faithful
love from him or betray My faithfulness." So even though
God disciplined Israel, right? How many even know He
disciplined them, tried to correct them. He never withdraws
His what? His love or His faithful covenant. And that's
what we need to realize that even while we're getting
corrected or we're getting discipline. The person
correcting you and disciplining, he still loves you. Your parents
love you. The pastor loves you. The police guys, well, I think
they love you. You can ask the guys here. How many of you know
what I'm saying? So we need to understand that and even in our
marriages we might, you know, correct each other or try to
help each other. Don't right away get mad and upset. Let's
just listen to the other person. They're doing it because they
love you. They've seen a level of immaturity and they're trying
to help you. If you reject it, then right away you're not gonna
get better. It will cause more troubles than just listening to
it and say, "Yeah, I think you're right."
>>BREN: Hey, I'm Bren and I'm your personal trainer. Over the
years I've coach many different types of people who want to
increase their level of fitness. Some of those people grew and
matured in skills that surpassed mine in a fraction of the time
it took me to achieve it. Others hit a plateau or they're
stagnant and never really hit their full potential. What was
the difference? The ability to accept correction and unlearned
from it. Many people in the Bible have made mistakes
admitting correction, but some of those people get a second
chance because of how they took that correction from God. Jonah
for example was told by God to go Nineveh and warn them of
their impending doom. Instead he run and got swallowed by a huge
fish. Now, Jonah could have given up and ended it all right
there but instead he took his correction and got a second
chance. That second chance by the way save the city of
thousands from certain destruction. Often when we're
being corrected, it feels like we're dying. If we don't accept
that correction, how we'll ever grow and succeed? However, if we
do accept that correction with the right attitude. It will
produce great life and maturity.
♪ [Segment Music] ♪
>>BRENT: Hebrews 12:6, says for the Lord disciplines the one He
loves. Say, "He loves." How many of you are loved by God today?
Eight of you. Come on. How many of you are loved by God today?
You are all loved by God. That means you have correction and
discipline coming your way. Hallelujah! Something to be
joyful about. Joy in the hard time. Joy in the good time.
Remember that song we sing? I wonder what he's gonna do? Oh, I
think he's gonna make you sit under a pastor. Someone say,
"Can he just talk to me?" No, he tried that. You don't listen.
How many of you know God can talk to you? I've had God talked
to me and I'm like, "Geez, I don't wanna talk to Him like
that again." I'd rather have you tell me. I'm like somewhere in
the Bible tells me, let the righteous smite me. It will be a
kindness. Deuteronomy 8:5, says the Lord deals with you as a
father deals with his son. That's what He told the children
of Israel right off the bat. The Lord deals with you as a father
deals with his son. So they all knew, hey, our God. This is our
God operates. Right, it's not man's idea. It's God's ideas. So
it's doesn't matter how old you are, how long you've been a
Christian, or how except you think you're from correction.
It's gonna come for you. I'm not gonna tell you how God does it.
I know the number one way God corrects, is through His Word.
That I know. Number two way is by His Spirit, right? And I
think the number three way would be from leadership and authority
and things like that. Your boss. Do you know God could use your
boss at work? That God could use that person to create in you a
better character? I remember I used to work at the Sheraton
Cavalier. I worked, start it off as night security and then I
worked at the desk and we looked after the hotel at night,
check-in and all that kind of stuff. And I had a six-month
evaluation and, you guys have heard this. I've said it before,
but for those of you who've never heard it. Back in the day
when we were considered King's kids, you know. We still are
but, we had kind of an arrogant attitude about it. And I
remember I got the evaluation and my boss sat there and he
said, "You did good. Oh, just one thing you need help on and
he told me about it. And I went home and was driving in my car
and I was like, I was all mad. Like, who is he to tell me? I'm
a kid, I'm a child of God. I'm the King's kid. Who's that
sinner telling me, evaluating me of all people? I was going to
preach here at the church that time, you know, Sunday night. I
preached here. You know what I mean? And as I was driving home
the Spirit of God came up to me, like right in the car and he
said to me right away. He said, "You know that guy is right."
This deflated me. I was angry and I was like, and then I
realized, you know what, he was right. And God says you know I
may use that guy, that thing to help you and grow you and mature
you and increase you. So we need to realize that wherever you are
sometimes right now is a good place to be. Even if it's hard
sometimes. Even if you're under the last sometimes. Even if
you're-, You're supposed to endure it as discipline. Endure
suffering as discipline. In other words, you're gonna become
a better person through it. And part of that is where God trying
to make us better people. How many even know He's trying to
make us better people? It isn't about five things. It isn't just
about saving you, healing you, delivering you, and prospering
you. The main goal of God is to create everyone who is made in
the image of His dear Son. That's the ongoing general
purpose of God. All the time 24/7, all the time God is trying
to make you into a son or daughter that looks and acts
like Him.
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>> Last January, I had plans to, I was going on a course and back
out east. And while I was on a course I've had made
arrangements with my family that I wouldn't get to come back
Saskatoon. We've been married for six years. It was always a
struggle. It was always hard. I was always miserable and my
heart was always hard towards Bren, mostly because I felt like
everything was his fault. And because of that I got more and
more bitter every year. I hated him more and more every year. I
started to withdraw from the church and I started to withdraw
from our family. The course got cancelled so I didn't have a way
to get home and I was really mad. So we just kinda, we had
gone separate ways so he would come home from work and I would
leave. And eventually February came around and I decided to
take off for the weekend, so I went to my cousins in Edmonton.
It came to a blow that weekend and I talked to Bren on the
phone and we're just like, "You know what, why are we doing
this?" Like, "We're done." Like, "Why are we struggling to keep
this marriage together? Like, for just the fact that we can
say we're still married." And so we were just kinda like, "Yeah,
you know what? Let's separate. That's a good idea." For some
reason, I texted his dad and I said we're separating. And so
we're back and forth through it all of it and I wasn't very
positive on it. So I went to sleep that night. I felt great,
can't wait to get my new life started not being married
anymore, and I woke up at three o'clock in the morning. I had a
dead sleep and I had this list of really pointed things in my
spirit about things that I had done. I'm sorry about the
boogers.
>> Where did this list come from?
>> The Holy Spirit and I knew it was God because they're not nice
things that I was hearing about myself. Stuff like, you never
loved Bren. You've never given him your heart. You've never
given your heart to being a mom. You've never given your heart to
being a wife. You've never given your heart to God fully. You've
done your own thing and tried to be independent. And I cried and
I cried till six o'clock in the morning, and I phoned Bren and I
tried to tell him the stuff. And he's like, "You just can't call
me up, tell me all the stuff after we decided to separate. We
were both happy with that. And so I, that was Pastor Will and
Dorothy who came to the church, didn't make
up to stairs 'cause I'm bawling. I don't think they ever
saw me cried before. And I don't even know how much
I got out in the office. Like, I don't really
talk that much. I just cried and cried and cried, then goes seven
days into it. Bren finally broke. He just, he hugged me and
we repented of the sin that we were both involved in. We hugged
each other all night. Never since then people who know me,
know that I don't like to cry. God's completely changed the way
that I look at our marriage. He's completely changed the way
that I look at love and vulnerability and trust and how
much I've hurt people just by being so selfish and hard,
thinking that people don't care if you're there or not and
deciding in not being involved. And it's obviously still
working, because this was a year ago and I still can't talk about
it. But God's completely changed me.
>> Through every wilderness your fire leads. When chaos rages,
it's your peace we breathe. Right in the centre of the storm
we sing. We have this hope. You are our hope. In every barren
land Your promise grows. In every desert place Your mercy
flows. You're always faithful, God, in this we know. We have
this hope. It's about to get beautiful. We're expecting a
miracle. What our eyes cannot see with faith we believe. It's
about to get beautiful. We know nothing's impossible. What our
eyes cannot see, with faith we believe. It's about to get
beautiful. It's about to get beautiful. Leaving our fear for
us, our patience come. Our confidence is in the risen son.
We walk through battles knowing we have won. We have this hope.
It's about to get beautiful. We're expecting a miracle. What
our eyes cannot see, with faith we believe. It's about to get
beautiful. We know nothing's impossible.
>> Has any of this message that you've heard today sparks
something inside of you that says, Jesus I need to know you?
If so, say this prayer with me. Jesus, I know I need You. I
accept You as my savior. Help me to receive Your correction as I
walk in Your ways. Amen.
>>BAILEY: What an incredible series on Discipline and
Correction. It's not something we always get to hear about, but
it's so incredible how God is revealing Himself through that.
It's all over God's Word and He is helping us to be like Him in
every way. I hope that you'll tune in next week to the FAITH
ALIVE SHOW. Have an amazing day.
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