So have you ever told a trans person
that you couldn't tell they were trans?
That you had "no idea"?
Well I'm about to tell you why that's not actually a compliment.
When you tell a trans person
You "couldn't tell" they're trans
You're not actually complimenting them
"Cis-passing" is NOT a COMPLIMENT
I recently experienced this firsthand
where someone told Xander that they had no idea he was trans
And it really bothered me because I feel like
people really need to know that that's not a compliment.
It's almost like completely
disregarding the person's gender and saying
"Oh, so I had no idea that you were 'actually' you know... born whatever"
Or that "you were actually 'the other thing' before.
It's so obnoxious hearing people say,
"You know I never would have known that you were trans."
Or "I had no idea" because it really, honestly, just brings the conversation back to trans people's genitalia.
And back to the idea that trans people aren't ever the gender that they tell you they are.
So trans people are constantly made to seem like we aren't actually the gender identity
that we say that we are.
When we identify a certain way, that is who we are.
It just completely invalidates a trans person's identity.
It's just frustrating to see that people think that it's such a compliment
to tell trans people that they're "cis-passing"
when it's actually not a compliment at all.
A trans person just wants to express themselves
and feel comfortable in their identity and comfortable with who they are
and then to have someone come along and "point it out" yet again
It's just so unnecessary.
I would honestly count it as a micro-aggression towards trans people
It's frustrating
Because it just constantly brings the conversation back to trans people's genitalia
Back to "who trans people were BEFORE they came out as trans"
And that DOESN'T MATTER
It just makes it uncomfortable for trans people
What's even worse is the fact that we are such a cissexist society
It almost makes it to where trans people feel more validated when someone tells us something like that.
So when someone tells us something that is not a compliment, it feels like a compliment
just because we're in a society where we feel like we're not taken seriously unless we "blend in"
unless we conform to the pre-existing societal norms about what gender is
and the gender roles that we have to perform in order to be taken seriously
As the gender that we say that we are
that we claim, that we identify with
To say that trans people have "performed" the gender they say they are well enough
to where you couldn't tell that they maybe didn't always identify with that gender is really frustrating
when you tell a trans person that you "couldn't tell" they're trans
you're basically saying that you are reducing them to their genitalia yet again
and promoting the idea that societal norms for what gender is and what gender roles are
that we have to perform and hold ourselves to and hold ourselves accountable to
are appropriate.
which they're not
I think one of the reasons this frustrates me so much is because
the society that we live in presses
these gender norms on us
so passionately, so furiously
that it's almost like brainwashing trans people
into feeling like
when we blend in, that that's better than expressing ourselves
A lot of trans people don't feel comfortable being able to express the
complete parts of their identity because they feel like they won't be taken seriously.
I know for myself, I didn't feel comfortable expressing the feminine attributes that I have
because I was afraid that I wouldn't be taken seriously
The fact that there are trans people that feel like we have to hide
these aspects of our identity, these aspects of our personality, and our gender expression
in order to be taken seriously
is really screwed up to be honest
And then the fact that someone thinks that coming along and telling us
they had no idea we were trans
is basically just saying we're doing a good job at hiding
the multidimensional aspects of our identity
We shouldn't be made to hide any aspects of our identity
any aspects of our gender expression
It's some BS. It's some serious BS.
So that was a good rant for you all about why telling a trans person that they
"pass" really well or that you had no idea that they're trans is NOT a compliment
So
Please don't tell trans people that.
Okay so I'm done ranting
If you liked this video, please like and subscribe, and comment down below
What is something ridiculous that someone has said to you if you are a trans person
that has bothered you
and they didn't realize that it was transphobic or a microaggression
or they didn't realize that it was ridiculous or problematic
And let's just call out some BS right here on the channel
Let's just call out some BS.
Alright
well I will see you all soon
and I hope you have a great day
Bye!
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