In today's video, I'm gonna teach you the ONE LINE that you can recite to anyone
when starting small talk that's gonna have them eating out of the palm of your
hand... no I'm not, but you know what I'm gonna tell you? A line I used three
minutes ago when coming up for my elevator so you can see what you need to
do to engage people in small talk I put a video out a few weeks who have called
the compounding value of small talk I'll put a link right here we haven't seen
that go back and watch that it's gonna be a good prep for this but I want you
to hear what I say and I want you to think in your head Wow barons a social
coach and that's all he said I can do that I can probably do better than that
I want you to realize that these are the things I use in my own life everything
you learn on my channel are things that I use there's nothing this strategy
online and it sounds great these are things I use every single day if you run
into me in the street you'll probably pick up on a few things that I've used
that I've taught you that's awesome right I'll put the money where the mouth
is now if you haven't gotten the social invincibility checklist it's free it's
right here this is gonna teach you one small thing about small talk the social
invincibility checklist gonna get you a nice broad paint stroke of how to
improve social you can go to charisma matrix comm forge /s I checklist and
download yours there all right so what I'm doing I'm going out to the elevator
I got my trash with me or I'm a big trashcan filled up and I go into the
trash chute dump my trash in there and there's like all kinds of junk going on
in there there's like there's all kinds of like bags of trash and pizza like
normal but this time there was like a full wedding cake that didn't even look
like he'd have been cut into it's like three layers high it was like leaking on
to the trash for some reason under the ground in this apartment complex people
have something where they just feel entitled to not even put their bags down
the trash chute so they just open it and throw it in there it's pretty ridiculous
but anyway so I walk out of the trash you have it thrown mine down the chute
and I see a girl who lives on my floor that I've never met before right so we
get in the elevator together what do I say what am I gonna say what's the
genius line I'm so nervous why is she gonna like me what can I say that's so
funny and smoke all I said was mana trash shoots a mess
today okay is that hard no I'm talking about something that just
happened what else could have I said man I opened up my were the s'mores cold out
there today anything anything at all but how do you think I said it I didn't say
man the trash treasure is dirty no I said it company like it was a great line
man that trash dudes a mess today right a good delivery because what I'm saying
doesn't matter I do hope you'll say all the time the words you say don't matter
I'm saying it confidently okay so what she said back I didn't remember when she
said that she's like yeah she's like it's bizarre how people just stack their
their bags of trash and that whole thing right I was just going down two floors
and it was over in the conversation was over fine
not genies can you do that can you do that can you tell someone what happened
the last five minutes of your life that's a reference if you have nothing
to say what did you do in the last five minutes well I went to the trash chute
well I opened my window and got some fresh air you know two things that I
could comment on and comment on competently okay now one other thing
that I want to point out that sounds very easy and that's good that's the
crux this video I want you to understand you can say anything as long as deliver
confidently and the next time I see her maybe tonight maybe in a week maybe in a
month there's gonna be way more familiarity there's gonna be that
rapport it's gonna be easier to actually build a friendship off of that or you
know just get to know somebody a little bit better but what a mistake I don't
want you to make is what I have been tempted to do in that instance
I actually was I had I had actually a lot of really good things to say cuz
that like that wedding cake that was still in there that was melting on there
it's like a three layer wedding cake that's pretty interesting I that's a lot
more interesting than the trash chutes dirty but if you don't know someone how
did that sound it how do you think that would have sound of us said to her man
you know I was in there the trash room was absolutely crazy there's like a
wedding cake in there it's too much it's way too much coming at her she's just
trying to size you up she's trying to feel your energy and and I say she cuz
it was a she but if it was a he would be the exact same thing don't bombard
people with a bunch of complicated stuff cuz they're gonna wonder why is he
telling me this right people understand small talk is there to break the ice and
start a conversation but if you start spewing all these different things man I
was walking down the walking up a hallway and I walked in the trash chute
there was a melting a melting wedding cake in there what's going on she's
gonna be like oh yeah super super aggressive right it's too much going on
so so so rest assure that not only do you not need some fancy thing to say but
sometimes dumbing it down I knew I only had do floors and have a long time to
talk I never talked before is even better so now take that stress out of
your mind of having to come with something to say and realize sometime
the seemingly Dumber more basic stuff is actually better than the stuff that you
think may be better because it needs some great story it doesn't need to
start she doesn't care about the wedding cake either right she wants to see what
you're all about with that first line so dumb it down don't ever go too far by
saying more more things the less the better and if she wants to engage and
let's say we were going walking out to our cars together well then you can can
you continue the conversation and if she's like yeah she's like it's crazy
let's talk about what you might want to say at that point she says yeah that's
crazy people just throw the bags in there now
we're still walking I might get off I'm saying yeah you know I've seen some
really wild stuff in there before but today I may have taken the cake I pry
shouldn't say that's pretty ridiculous but this one it's the worst ever there
is a melting wedding cake coming down melting all over the top floor that
that's have you seen anything like that that's appropriate because you have
buy-in from her right she's responded to you but if I would have started that's
way too much for one line you got to give her a chance to respond back into
ping and to get comfortable with you so that's a very basic thing mixed with the
very advanced thing but how important do you think this is almost every single
person that you're gonna meet maybe you're gonna date maybe you're gonna
have a relationship with maybe you're gonna work with maybe you're gonna do
business with it's gonna start with a small talk line unless you're introduced
by a good friend which oftentimes is a small talk line hey you know this is
berrin he's a he's a social coach just moved to Newport Beach okay well that's
going to help but then say hey man what kind of work do you do
it's gonna be small talk so you need to understand this
people who hate small talk too bad you got to do it if you want to meet people
there's no special you can moonwalk in and turn your head and then you can just
bypass small talk I'm a bub small talk I don't want to I think it's a waste and
gets a waste of my time I'm not gonna sink to it cool man
have fun you're not gonna meet people people aren't gonna like you you got to
accept the reality don't push back against it just cuz you don't like it
alright that's my that's my Sermon on the Mount for that by the way you see in
this video if you haven't seen this one you gotta watch this one next I'll talk
to you over hey it's Barron welcome to the charisma matrix listen I don't care
if you were born with no charisma or feel like you're awkward socially
because it doesn't matter here on this channel I'm gonna teach you all the
advanced social skills that you need to get what you want out of life
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