You're supposed to dumb down,
if you want to be an actress.
We started Fancy Pants
about four and a half-five years ago.
What I was selling as a Bolllywood girl
was tits and ass, dumb blonde.
So the other day, there was a lady
who was so uncomfortable
wearing something that was looking stunning on her.
Oh, this celebrity couple. Oh, they really have it together.
No, they don't.
No, no, no, no, no!
Hi, I'm Malini and welcome to
another episode of #TheGirlTribe.
More power to all the girls out there who are
a part of MissMalini's Girl Tribe.
Hey, everyone! So, I'm very stressed about how to
do the Sameera Reddy intro
because she specifically said
not to introduce her the way normally people do.
The beautiful, the wonderful, the gorgeous...
that's what everyone does, right?
So, I'm going to start by telling you
something you don't know.
She knits amazingly apparently.
What happened? One day you're just like,
I'm just gonna try knitting
and then you turned up to be amazing at it?
Actually, no. It's like,
it was in school that we had a choice of things to do.
and then knitting was the way of getting out of
worse things to do
Like what?
Like they had running and stuff
and I was like a really fat kid okay.
I did not.
Like who's going to run?
I shall knit.
And it's actually a big deal. It's majorly de-stressing.
Yeah?
It's superb! So that's something I still do.
I just can't picture you like sitting at home and knitting.
I'm in my vanity van wearing this
sexy Bollywood dress.
So, I'm really happy that you're here
And it's very difficult actually to get people in this
industry to come and have conversations.
So, let's talk about this.
And I remember you putting a story up about
even when you were growing up in school.
Somebody played a prank on you.
I was one chubby, teenager with chashma.
And I used to stammer like hell!
Couple of game changers for me was one,
when this prank was played.
And you know how we crush...
I was crushing on this guy desperately
And then these girls thought it'll be funny
to send me a note saying,
he wants to meet you. It was Valentine's Day
and he wants to like...you know?
Yeah.
And I landed up there,
of course, dressed in my Sunday best
and he never came, and then they all laughed about it
for weeks to come.
But you know, there are few things that
which stay with you, as young girls.
Yeah
And maybe this is one of them.
I don't think I'd be an actress today,
if I hadn't had all these
morons come and push me in the wrong way.
Really? But what's the connection?
The connection is that it happened
because of that negative push.
It's like I just decided to like...
Like, I'm gonna show you... show you all!
No, you know, it happened very naturally.
It happened very naturally.
Funnily enough, nobody knows this
but I started to audition because
I had a very bad stutter.
And I'm not kidding, I couldn't get
through one line without going, "K k k..."
And my therapist said to me,
"What freaks you out the most?"
And I said, "I cannot publicly speak."
So, that's how the auditions started.
Wow!
And so, the stammering and the getting over the
stammering is what pushed me into it.
And that's how it all happened. It just kind of...
It's funny though, because then,
I mean, now I can go in front of
a hundred thousand people
And you can just do it. Yeah!
Because the brain is such you know? If you
just loosen it up, it has to give in.
You have to overcome that fear.
This is such great advice also
for the girls in #TheGirlTribe,
that the way to get past something is just to go and just
do the thing that scares them.
Just jump in that deep end.
Jump!
One of the things that I feel so often happens
is that you're supposed to dumb down,
Yeah.
if you want to be an actress.
Why? Why is that?
So I remember in 2009, when Race came out
and a couple of good films came out,
and I was doing well,
a very famous actor told me,
"You know Sameera, what's your problem?"
He's like, "You're too bro!
You know what I mean?"
"You're too like, you know? You come across a bit smart
and you're a little intellectual.
And he's like, "You need to become a little...
become a little dumb blonde."
Wow!
Do that
and you will actually get more work.
And I said, "Really?"
And I actually tried it out,
and unfortunately, it worked.
It really works?
It really worked because in my interview
I was like, "Hahaha!
You know, I just wake up everyday, I feel like this."
It was no thought process
or natural me.
What I was selling as a Bollywood girl was
tits and ass, dumb blonde,
I don't know anything, please save me.
I think a change is coming, I hope a change is coming.
But one of the other things, and
people talk about this so much
on #TheGirlTribe especially is,
and I really think it will be
amazing for you to bust this myth,
is how do you deal with people judging you
for how you look after you have a baby.
I think you talked about it.
And they...I know, people are so cruel.
What is wrong with them?
You were telling me how you decided...
Tell us. Tell us the story!
Oh God!
First of all, I always had this vision that
I'm going to be this fashionista mommy.
You know wearing these heels and
getting out of my car.
It was blown into pieces
because I had a lot of issues getting pregnant.
And it was a normal pregnanacy but to keep it
I had to do alot.
And I put on 34 kilos.
Wow.
I have it all gone, okay?
So you can understand.
It was like...
That's like half a person.
It was literally half a person.
And
It still didn't hit me I think, until the baby came out
because till then, you know? And people were a little
rude even towards the end of the pregnancy
when I was trying to go out.
And you know one thing's weird
I have to say this to you Malini, is that
it was women who came to me
and sniggered and said shit,
which is what I didn't, couldn't ever understand.
I'm like, "You're a woman. You're a mother,
you know? How?
It was never the guys!
Yeah.
It was always the women, you know?
I'd go to Joggers Park and I remember the first time
after I had Hans and it was one month,
and I had a C-section,
so I needed a month to recover,
and I'd push him on the pram you know, with my friend.
I was like, "I'm out there doing my mommy thing."
And this woman, she comes up to me and says,
"You know,
Sameera!
Aapko kya ho gaya?
What happened to you?
Itni moti ban gayi.
Wow.
And my friend lost it and
she was like can't you see she's had a baby.
And people didn't understand.
And for one year I just
I feel so sorry because I wasted
one year of my life hiding
And I shouldn't have done that
And I wish there was maybe,
If I would have heard
someone like me say something.
You know unfortunately
actresses just have babies and
they are like back!
It's unreal!
Looking better than ever.
And I didn't have that luxury,
and to be honest,
I didn't go down that space.
So I feel, unfortunately, a lot of
young mothers are looking at
you know actresses coming out
and just looking gorgeous
and they feel like shit.
They feel terrible!
But I'm trying to tell you
I'm an actress and I absolutely fell
into pieces.
And I,
for that one year was miserable.
It took me a lot of time to get up.
I also had to Post-Partum,
you know? I used to cry for no reason.
And bless my husband,
who really stuck by me and he really was there for me.
I felt so bad for even Aishwarya Rai
she was fat-shamed out of town
saying like, "Oh my God, this that and the other."
But she just kept quiet about it,
I get it. It was a dignified silence.
But it felt like
she's being torn apart.
Do you know the amount of times
people came and told me,
"Why are you doing an Aishwarya Rai?"
And I got that many times!
And it used to piss me off because I'm like,
"How dare you
take her name and use it as like a term?"
As like a slur.
Yeah.
Honestly, there are different kinds of shaming, right?
So you have fat shaming, you have height shaming,
whatever it is.
You know, I struggle with this myself
because I work in social media. I have to put up pictures all the time.
And I find myself using filters.
I find myself doing crops.
And I think I struggle with it because
you're afraid you're going to get that mean comment
because now it's a two-way conversation.
Yeah.
You know?
But that's what everybody is doing,
so you feel compelled because
everybody is portraying this
perfect picture. It is not perfect
I guarantee you! Everybody has cellulite,
even the skinniest people are so insecure.
They're like... You know taking...I love this,
everyone is like, "Top angle, top angle."
So they look skinnier and skinnier and contour.
I actually got mortified when I suddenly... I mean,
I got onto Instagram a couple of months back
and I was shocked.
Because everyone looked amazing!
All the time.
All the time. And I was like, "What?" You know?
I would like there to be a balance.
I'm not saying that don't use the filters
but don't make it look so... it's not aspirational anymore,
It's fake.
And I'm sure...I don't know if you get this
but every time I go to a skin specialist
she's like, "You know, you're now
entering the end of your 30s,
do you want to do a little
botox right here?
And I'm like, "No."
I'm scared to go to the dentist.
Yeah!
We're not putting no needles near my face!
That's the thing!
And she's like, "But everybody's doing it, Sameera."
"Just one little titch and you'll just look couple of years fresher and younger."
And I'm like, "Listen, I will try my best
and age gracefully."
And I'm not against people who do botox or do anything
because I'm like, whatever makes you happy.
But truthfully, I'm trying to say that
everyone portraying this thing, that you know when...
And you know that feeling of feeling bad,
and that feeling of feeling small.
It's such a sick feeling.
Yeah.
And everybody is getting it, mostly women.
You know, they sit on their phones
after a hard day
and then they're seeing someone looking fabulous
and they're like "Damn! My life sucks
and my husband doesn't talk to me."
"Oh, this celebrity couple, they have it really together."
No, they don't!
No, no, no, no, no.
It's all part of a good PR plan that works
but it's amplified so that you'll buy into it,
so that they make more money.
Okay, so I'm gonna ask you to do something for me.
I have a Girl Tribe pledge wall
And I would like you to make a pledge for women,
for yourself and we're gonna put it up there.
So I remember it.
You know, I'm going to write down what I think.
Let me just do this here.
So, my pledge would be...
Lets all live, a real unfiltered life.
You know, let's try and not fake it.
Which I think we all do to a certain...
I'm gonna make a promise to you.
That's fine...
It has been absolutely amazing.
Thank you for your honesty. Thank you for being here.
No, I'm happy to be here and really I have to say that
I'm so happy that you have taken this platform that
you built and you're doing something good with it.
I appreciate it because I think that a lot of people
are not using it to this point that they could.
They are stuck in that race of
trying to promote themselves, and trying to increase
just this whole zone that they're in,
and you're really doing something with it,
and that shows you've become more mindful,
and you have a shift going on within you,
And you're very lucky to be there.
I'm very lucky and I feel so like...
I used to feel hollow and I would be like
what am I doing?
You know I have this great brand, I have all these people
but something is, there's a piece is missing and
I couldn't figure out what it was
And now I come to work everyday,
excited to shoot this show.
You have a namesake, Samira,
who helps produce the show.
She comes smiling everyday saying we're doing something that matters
or something that we're doing that's important.
So, thank you so much for being here.
And now, ladies from #TheGirlTribe,
as always, the spotlight's on you.
One of my favourite parts of the show
is celebrating all those strong-headed,
talented women entrepreneurs who have broken
through the glass ceiling and made it big.
Today, we have one such 'fancy' story of two
girl bosses, which will surely inspire you.
Check it out!
Hi, I'm Jankee Desai.
Hi, I'm Stuti Desai.
and we're the co-founders of Fancy Pants.
We're sisters. We started Fancy Pants
about four and a half-five years ago.
We just decided one day to do something on our own.
fancypantsthestore.com is basically an
online fashion portal.
We sell all the international trends
that are available globally in India
at very, very affordable prices.
We just opened our first store in Juhu, Mumbai.
We started this business mainly because
we were so passionate about fashion
and we wanted to sort of,
see that translate into other people's lives as well.
And the main meaning is just that, you know?
Creating a brand that basically stands for strong women
who want to try new trends,
who want to experiment with their style.
We really try to embody that sense of finding their own
fashion and expanding their own comfort zone, per se.
So, the other day there was a lady
who had to go for a pool party
and she was so uncomfortable wearing something
that was looking stunning on her.
So she came in not less than three times.
Everytime she came in, she felt a little more confident,
she felt a little more comfortable.
We styled her completely!
She looked amazing.
And she she said she got a lot of compliments.
So to have customers come in and realise
that they can dress better for themselves,
feel more comfortable in their own skin,
that for us is giving back in a great way.
The coolest thing about Fancy Pants
is that we're an all girls team.
Of course, we'd like to think that
we have touched a lot lives.
We are very proud of the fact that we
collaborate with a lot of women and we work with them.
We've just started manufacturing
our own products in India.
We are working with women in Jaipur.
We're working with women right outside of Bombay,
who have set up small kaarkhanas,
where they can manufacture our clothes.
So that is the most amazing form of collaboration
because you know, they are doing
all this handmade embroidery for us.
We're helping them create their business and grow it.
If we look at ourselves now from where we stared,
of course, we think that "Ya, we've created a brand
that we are very proud of!"
and we'd like to think we are successful
in making a lot of people fancy.
But it's an ongoing process,
We're never at a time where we feel complacent that
"Okay, you know, we've achieved everything we could."
Because that's not true. There's always a new goal,
there's always something more that you can do.
There's always a way to improve your business.
The only thing that you need
is to be so passionate about what you're doing.
It needs to be the only thing that you think about.
The first thing that comes to your mind
when you wake up and literally, the last thing that
you think about before you go to sleep.
Because that's the only way
that you will stay behind it.
No matter how difficult things get.
I'm Jankee Desai.
I'm Stuti Desai.
and we are the Girl Tribe.
So if you've seen my Instagram, then you know that
I'm absolutely in love with Fancy Pants, the store.
Everything fits me like a dream
and is super affordable.
So thank you so much Stuti and Jankee.
You are my Girl Bosses for today.
Thank you for sharing your story.
You're going up on my Girl Tribe wall of fame.
And that's all I have time for on this episode
I hope you enjoyed watching it as much as I enjoyed making it.
Now come find me on Facebook,
Malini's Girl Tribe.
And I want to talk about this obsession
with the female body.
Skinny, curvy, waif-like, supermodel, real girl.
What is it? Who made these rules?
Which one should we be following?
And which one should we throw
out the window for good?
Tell me what you think so we can all learn from each other.
And finally do something about it.
Start by joining Malini's Girl Tribe on Facebook.
And till then, keep those good vibes coming.
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