Please read it desperately.
A man sent us a concern.
Hello. I'm a married man in his 40s from Busan.
My wish is...
To eat dinner with my wife.
What? With his wife?
Does she work too much?
"Honey, why aren't you home?"
"I'll be home late. Bye."
Beep, beep, beep, beep.
My wife is always drunk.
She drinks so much that one day,
her stomach felt bad, so she went to see a doctor.
I keep... Blah.
I keep... Blah!
You throw up so gracefully.
(So graceful!)
Doctor.
Is my wife sick?
Congratulations.
You're pregnant.
What?
She drank without knowing she was pregnant?
Oh, no.
But once she had the baby,
I thought she would change.
Sure. Moms usually change.
But...
"Honey, feed our baby."
"I'm hung over. I'm sick."
(Wow...)
"Then do the laundry at least."
"I must go out to drink again."
"I'm busy."
She never does chores or watches our baby,
since she's always out drinking.
Will I ever have a meal with my wife?
That is my wish this year.
It's the opposite.
Isn't this your wives' wish, Chanwoo and Dongyeob?
Have you had dinner with your family this year?
Please continue.
- What about you, Dongyeob? / - Many times.
Don't lie. We're only 15 days into the year.
I had a meal with them... Several times.
Several times.
Your ears turned red.
(His ears turn red even in 2018)
- Your ears are burning red. / - You can't lie.
- You feel guilty, right? / - Yes.
Your ears are red.
Chanwoo. You're feeling guilty, right?
Please proceed.
Let's hear him out.
Please come on out.
(Gwon Daehan)
(Whoosh)
How much does your wife drink?
We've been married for 8 years now.
I only remember her coming home from drinking.
- Almost every day. / - Every day?
It's 4 times a week, except on Mondays.
Why not on Mondays?
She rests at home on weekends,
so she takes a break on Mondays.
She's letting her liver rest.
(Must I say it out loud?)
(The wife cares about her liver?)
She drinks so much,
and it's so hard for me.
It'd be nice if she only drank a little,
but she drinks a lot every time she goes out.
Once she starts, she drinks as much as she can.
So she usually comes home around 1 or 2 a.m.
When she gets home, she doesn't let me sleep.
She... She...
She rips my pants off and...
(Everyone in the studio blushes)
I'll continue from here on out.
(So what? They're married)
We have a 4-year-old daughter.
She didn't know she was pregnant
and drank 3 bottles of soju and a bottle of whisky.
Just my wife and her cousin.
- Just the two of them? / - Yes.
I think it was a few days after that.
She was throwing up, so we went to a doctor.
The doctor said she was pregnant.
You both must've been surprised.
We both cried.
We were so happy.
(What a surprise)
They cried because they were happy.
So she didn't drink while she was pregnant?
She drank non-alcoholic drinks then.
But once she gave birth,
she started to drink beer with friends again.
- When she did this? / - She was breastfeeding....
How can you call it "this"?
(Oh... Breastfeeding)
She drank beer while breastfeeding,
so she gave formula to our daughter
and decided to throw out her breast milk.
So that's what she did.
I've never met anyone who drank that much.
Does she drink on weekends?
Sometimes she leaves our kid with me and goes out.
But she doesn't go out often on weekends?
She drinks every day on weekdays and...
She was supposed to go drink overnight this week,
but couldn't go because of this shoot.
She takes overnight trips to drink?
- A drinking trip? / - There is such a thing? Wow.
Drinking trips exist?
Yes.
What kind of a trip is that?
You didn't know she drank before you got married?
I didn't know she drank that much.
What was she like when you two were dating?
I asked her when we first met.
"Do you like drinking?"
She said she just drank for pleasure.
People who love drinking usually say that.
When we got married, she said that
she wouldn't drink and would focus on our family.
So I married her.
I feel like I was deceived.
(It's unfair)
What chores do you do at home?
You said you do house chores often.
I feed breakfast to our kid and get her to school.
Our kid goes to school, and then after work,
I feed her, bathe her,
and put her to bed. Then my wife comes home.
- You take care of your daughter. / - Laundry?
I'm still wondering about that.
She never does the laundry.
She did it maybe 5 times in 3 years.
You always do the laundry?
I got angry and decided not to do it.
But then I ran out of clean underwear.
- Even before the baby was born? / - Yes.
So you do nearly all the chores.
Right. So I asked her to quit drinking,
but she said that drinking was her joy in life.
But you have a child. What about her?
Even then, her own life comes first.
That's more important to her.
- Drinking? / - Yes.
That's how it is right now.
(He's living miserably)
She loves to drink.
Let's meet his wife. Hello.
Hello.
(Who is this wife who loves drinking?)
What do you think about what he said?
Why are you crying?
Do you feel bad, or do you think it's unfair?
I often cry for no reason.
People who love to drink usually cry often.
What do you think about your husband's concern?
He doesn't enjoy drinking.
So he doesn't understand my point of view.
I don't think it's a major concern.
You said that he doesn't understand you.
Are you saying that if he could drink,
you'd be willing to drink with him at home?
Or are you saying you'd be understanding
if he went drinking after work at times?
I get stressed, and that's why I drink.
Just because a woman gets married
doesn't mean she has to stay home all the time.
That's true.
I work and have to meet people.
I can't help but drink at times.
We just have different perspectives.
But you don't have to be drinking
4 times a week.
I don't drink that often.
How many times a week do you drink?
I would say twice a week on average.
It's more than twice a week.
We have witnesses here.
(Coming soon: They will testify objectively)
I understand drinking after work.
But you drink all night at home with your cousin?
I'm sure many of you know.
Once you start drinking,
- you lose control. / - Drinking leads to more.
One drink becomes two, then three...
But I don't pass out every time I drink.
You're using such professional terms.
He's been saying that he does all the chores.
Is that a misunderstanding, too?
I think it's a misunderstanding.
What do you mean?
In terms of looking after our daughter,
I give her all my attention when I watch her.
We help each other out with chores.
I think he's exaggerating due to the drinking.
Why did you promise to quit drinking?
That's why he says he was deceived.
Everyone makes promises that they can't keep
before they get married.
It's usually men who do that.
I have something to say, too. My husband smokes.
He said he'd quit when we got married.
Then he promised to quit when I got pregnant.
Then he said he'd quit once the baby was born.
But he still smokes.
He likes to play video games, too.
I respect that as his hobby and stress relief,
but he acts perfect and tells me to quit drinking,
so that's why I'm upset.
As someone who likes to drink,
I understand what the wife is saying.
But drinking until late at night is a problem.
What do you think about that?
I usually get the mood going,
so I can't leave early.
I hate that I'm being persuaded by her.
I know. I understand what she's saying.
(Please don't do that!)
Does drinking affect your work at all?
I go to work every morning.
I'm one of the best employees.
How much do you usually drink?
I don't count drinks.
People who drink well rarely have a limit.
(That's not something to brag about)
One of his concerns was that
whenever you drink,
you wake him up and... You know.
It sounds like something a man would do.
Right?
I was in a good mood.
I was in a good mood after drinking, so...
(He can't understand her at all)
Do you remember doing that?
Or do you normally black out?
I don't normally remember things.
Let's be honest. You do remember.
How do you feel then, sir?
I have to go to work the next morning,
and she wakes me up at 3 a.m.
It's tough.
He looked at the clock.
And she reeks of alcohol.
(She even stinks!)
We just fight.
"Please, I'm asking this of you.
Don't harass me after drinking."
How is she when she doesn't drink?
- She never shows affection. / - Not at all?
- She only does it when she drinks? / - Yes.
Your wife said she may not do chores at home,
but she does her best with her daughter.
What do you think about that?
Once my daughter got sick and went to a clinic.
I told my wife I was taking her to a doctor,
and she said, "Okay. I have a meetup tonight,
so I'll be home late."
She has too many dinner meetings at work.
So I fed my daughter and put her to bed.
My wife came home completely drunk.
I have something to say about that.
That dinner meeting was set up months ago.
I called, and he told me that I should go.
So I went and came home around 9:30 p.m.
You got home early that day.
Yes. I control my drinking like that.
You have many dinner meetings at work.
When I used to work, I liked to get together,
so I often set up gatherings myself.
My wife got mad at me, saying,
"Must I raise the kids by myself?
Kids are young, and I need help."
"I'm sorry. I have a dinner meeting."
You often arrange those meetings yourself, right?
You invite people yourself?
Since you're here, let's be honest here.
I don't think you're being forced to go.
They invite me often.
She's the one who gets the mood up.
(Is she not like me?)
You two have very different perspectives.
The wife says she went all in with the kid,
and the husband doesn't agree.
We have guests here who know them very well.
Hello.
Hello.
Please speak into the microphone.
You agreed that they should come on this show?
I wanted to be a good mother-in-law,
so I never said anything about it before.
But my son is having such a hard time.
So I said they should discuss it.
"If you can come to an agreement, don't come,
but if you two keep arguing, let's come here."
- And they kept arguing? / - Yes.
They couldn't come to an agreement.
How did you find out about her drinking habit?
Their credit card statement was sent to my house.
They hadn't changed their address yet.
I see.
I read it, and she spent so much money in bars.
I was so angry,
but my son was in love with her.
So I didn't say anything.
But when you visit their home,
your daughter-in-law cleans so you can't tell, right?
She could visit without advance notice.
You can't do that these days.
I'm sorry.
What did you think when you visited their home?
There was no food for our granddaughter
or for my son.
I wish they could live happily,
having meals together
as a family.
But since your daughter-in-law works outside,
she can't be like other housewives.
- You understand that, right? / - Yes.
I'm not opposed at all
to my son doing chores at home.
But their happiness comes before her job.
I hope they are happy.
What are you most disappointed by?
Last summer,
we went to the beach with the kids and in-laws.
My daughter-in-law just left
- to go see her friends. / - During the trip?
She didn't come home that night.
She came back drunk in the morning.
You must've been shocked.
I was very upset, but I didn't say anything.
I couldn't say anything.
I'm impressed.
We really like to drink, too,
but if we were to travel with our in-laws,
we couldn't possibly go out on our own.
We can't.
You shed tears while your mother was talking.
Yes. Because I'm so upset.
You remembered everything that happened?
(He feels bad for his mother...)
When my wife came home drunk,
I would think of divorcing her.
But I couldn't because of our daughter.
But she won't change her ways, right?
You love her, but this is too much?
As a son, he wants to show his mother
that he is happy.
What do you think of what she said?
Whenever there's a family meeting,
I should keep track of it,
but if my friends invite me to meet up,
I always say yes.
So sometimes, meetings overlap.
You could tell your friends that you can't go.
Even if you go, you should go home.
It's not that I slept elsewhere.
I felt bad for going back to my in-laws drunk,
so I slept at home and went back the next day.
Couldn't you cancel that meetup?
I hadn't seen my friends for a long time.
It's not that. From what I've seen,
she just prefers drinking with her friends,
so she just goes out.
If she were a man, she'd be a playboy.
Her mother is here, too.
Hello.
Hello.
Please hold the microphone.
You must feel very uncomfortable right now.
It must be really tough sitting here.
Oh, my.
Her expression changed so many times.
How do you feel right now?
I'm very uncomfortable.
Who does your daughter take after with drinking?
She takes after her father.
Then you must understand your son-in-law.
Yes. He's such a nice man.
Anyone can tell that he's nice.
He resembles Yoon Dahoon.
The very nice Yoon Dahoon.
He's so kind and understanding.
So I always feel bad for him.
I feel like it's my fault.
Can't you scold your daughter?
If it were my married daughter,
I would smack her on the back.
"Get a grip, you!"
(Why are you smacking me?)
- I do when we're alone. / - You smacked her?
I smacked her and hit her on the head, too.
Because you feel bad?
I told her, "There's no one like your husband.
If he were mean,
he would've divorced you already."
But my daughter has always been outgoing,
ever since she was young.
She shows leadership at work,
and she has the gift of gab.
You seem to admit her flaws,
but defend her as well.
- She's her mother. / - She is indeed her mom.
Your daughter said she watches her child the most,
and your son-in-law said he does everything.
In your eyes, who do you think does more?
My son-in-law can't watch the baby 100%.
I would say it's a 50-50 split.
- What about housework? / - Housework?
My son-in-law does more housework.
What about you? In terms of watching the kid,
who do you think does more?
I would say it's a 50-50 split.
They both said the same thing.
But my son does more chores.
- How much more? / - About 90%.
- He does 90%? / - Yes.
Then he's doing almost everything.
You said that you considered divorcing her?
Things just piled up and exploded.
One time, she came home drunk and cursed at me.
She came home drunk,
so I told her to stop drinking. The she said...
Could you please say it nicely?
Your mother and mother-in-law are here.
They already know about this.
They must've talked during a family meeting.
What else did she do?
She gave me the finger.
This is what she did to me.
I was shocked, so I packed my bags and left.
A few days later, I got a call.
"The baby needs milk and diapers.
Go buy some."
So I bought milk and diapers and went home.
Your wife called you and told you that?
No, she has a drinking buddy.
That friend called me.
Your wife must've asked her to call you.
She always drinks a lot with that friend.
How did your wife react when you left home?
She cleaned the house,
cooked, did the dishes, and did laundry.
Didn't she change after that?
How long did that last?
About 4 days.
After that, she was back to normal.
I get stressed a lot,
so I went to drink a little and came home.
He didn't care about my feelings
and just yelled at me for drinking.
- He was harsh to you? / - Yes.
- What are you so stressed about? / - Tell us.
I've been doing customer service for a long time.
I see.
It's emotional labor.
I always have to be smiling.
Smile syndrome.
(Bottoms up!)
She drank that like it was alcohol.
Did you see that?
(She didn't expect to see that)
She had this snap.
Did you see that snap in her wrist?
Couldn't you talk to her?
Then she could relieve her stress at home.
You could ask her questions first.
I did. "Did you have a tough day at work?"
So she told me what happened at work.
When she finished eating, she kicked the table away.
"Stop this nonsense and clean up!"
- She was sober? / - Yes.
You feel like you can't talk to your wife?
I just cleaned up and left.
(Oh, my...)
This is absurd.
Let's imagine this then.
Your husband played video games and cursed at you.
After having a meal together,
he kicked the table and told you to clean up.
How would you feel?
I guess it would be upsetting.
But he's always frowning at me,
so I just...
So that's why I cursed at him drunk.
You probably don't remember the look you had
when you came home drunk the night before.
It could be terrible.
You said that you're stressed at work.
But you're pushing that stress onto your husband.
This is a vicious cycle.
(A serious vicious cycle)
Something upsetting happened a few days ago?
She had to talk to this show's scriptwriter.
But she went out to meet her cousin.
They probably drank.
The scriptwriter couldn't get in touch with her.
My wife called me from another phone
and told me she'd lost her phone. It was 2 a.m.
The next day, I got a call from a stranger.
My wife got drunk in Haeundae and fell down
and broke a motorcycle. She owed him $300.
We argued on the way here because of that.
I'm glad that you didn't get hurt.
The motorcycle was parked.
You said you don't drink until you get drunk.
But you were drunk if you fell down like that.
I shouldn't ask this question,
but I will.
Are you happy with your married life?
I'm happy when I look at my daughter.
But I'm here today because I'm not happy.
You're here because you want to be happy.
If you think back to why you fell in love with her,
it was probably because she was outgoing.
Isn't that why you married her?
She was an angel back then.
She did everything for me.
When she started drinking after we got married,
I knew something was off.
He didn't know because he hadn't lived with her.
Something was off.
Know someone's habits before marrying them.
He's giving you serious advice.
I'll ask you the same question.
Are you happy with your married life?
Yes.
You'll be happy continuing to live like this?
I guess I'll have to change a little.
Of course. She's here because she wants to change.
How does it feel to hear that he isn't happy?
- Do you feel sorry... / - I'm sure you feel bad.
How should your wife change
in order to make you happy?
I don't ask much. If I tell her to quit drinking,
she says I'm taking her joy away.
So I won't ask her to quit drinking.
Please drink less. Maybe just once a month.
I beg you.
Let's eat dinner as a family.
He asked you to only drink once a month.
Do you think that's possible?
Maybe once a week? Once or twice a week?
Not twice a week.
Once a week? Overnight?
No. I wouldn't drink like that.
Then would you agree to just once a week?
Would you?
As long as she comes home before midnight.
Once a week, and come home before midnight.
How about that?
(No confidence / Okay)
You should try hard.
You should really try hard to change.
Your daughter may be too young now,
but once she realizes the situation,
you'll face even more serious problems.
"I'll quit by the time she's old enough."
That won't work at all.
It'll be one or the other.
Your daughter will either become like you
or start hating you for drinking so much.
What do you want from your wife?
Why don't you say it again?
Look at her while you say it.
Sora, thank you for marrying me.
Drink once a week, and come home by midnight.
I told you what makes me happiest.
I love it when we eat together as a family.
Please keep your word. I love you.
You're so nice.
You're such a great guy.
You feel bad for both your mothers, right?
I'm sorry. I'll work harder from now on.
We'll start with Joon. Is this a concern or not?
I hope you're more understanding.
Try to change gradually.
DinDin.
I think it's a concern.
Iljung.
When we asked him to say something to her,
the first thing he said was,
"Thank you for marrying me."
Your friendships won't end
if you drink a bit less with friends and coworkers.
Before your daughter gets older,
I hope you spend more time with your family.
Chungha.
I hope you don't miss the joy of a lifetime
for a fleeting moment of enjoyment.
So I say it's a concern.
If you think that it must've been
a grave concern for him,
please press the button.
(What does the audience think?)
5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
Please stop now.
Please say a word to your husband.
I understand what you're trying to say.
I'll work hard to change now.
Let's raise our daughter well,
and let's be happy. I love you.
The two mothers must've been nervous.
Please say a word to your mother-in-law.
I was negligent.
I will work hard to become
a better daughter-in-law.
Let's see how many votes they got.
Wait a minute.
Their daughter was asleep.
- She's here? / - She's awake now.
That's why she wasn't out here.
She's so cute.
That's her?
She's so cute.
She is so adorable.
- Hi, cutie. / - She's so cute.
Where's mommy?
(Wah!)
She's scared.
Do you want your mommy, or your daddy?
(Dongyeob holds her...)
She's still crying.
(She's very upset)
You stink of alcohol, so she thinks it's mom.
I'm not a bad guy. It's okay.
Here's your daddy.
Daddy. Daddy.
Daddy. Daddy.
She knows her dad.
(She stops crying?)
(Nope. Second round)
You said you care for her 100%, but it's not true.
Let's go to your mommy.
(She goes to her mommy)
Your mom and I are about the same size.
(Once in her mom's arms...)
(She stops crying)
She must've been scared by your hairstyle.
(How cute)
Mom is always the best.
Are you disappointed that she prefers her mom?
No, I'm happy.
Of course.
How many votes did they get?
"Grant my wish." Please show us.
(Announcing the result)
It ends with 8.
They got over 100 votes, right?
No way.
(They got 148 votes)
They got many votes.
"Nonsense words" is the title of our next concern.
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