What's up guys?
It's Kevin from KreativeVein back here again and today we'll be going over how to stop
worrying.
I'm pretty sure you already know why you should stop worrying, at least instinctively
but just to put my thoughts into words, eliminating worry has allowed me to live a happier life,
made me overcome my fears, and just have that peace of mind rather than allowing anxiety
to make your mind and body sick.
So let's jump right into the first of the 5 steps to stop worrying.
The most important thing for you right now is to understand that it is pointless to worry.
You may be saying -- wait no, worrying has helped me in the past, it's motivated me
right?
Well, I'll give you an example.
Here we have Bob and he has an important project he's working on.
He has to make an advertisement and then he'll have to present it to his boss, the executives
of the company, and overall it's a high stress environment.
So his mind starts to worry while he's driving home, when he should be sleeping, while he's
with his family that oh shit, if I fuck this one up, I'll get fired, I'll be a horrible
parent for not being able to provide, he starts to fill in all the blanks with worst case
scenarios if he messes up.
So, due to all this he's stressed and works hard at it, then goes to work the day of the
presentation and does alright.
He's fine now after those days or weeks and the worry was justified, right?
Well, it depends.
His state of mind and overall enjoyment of life during those days where he was working
was at a very low point, he wasn't enjoying his time with his family, he wasn't really
being creative, instead he was just motivated by fear which was pointless.
Yes, he did end up completing the task, but what was the point in worrying about failing
when he could've just done the task regardless?
Instead of worrying, why not just do the things that need to get done?
Also, and this is the 2nd step, why not be motivated by something positive rather than
negative?
So step 2 is to convert your negative worries into positive thoughts.
This may sound a bit far fetched but really worry is just your brain thinking of negative
ways that things could pan out, with the oh I'll get fired, oh my family will go hungry,
all those things.
Why not, instead of succumbing to that, take step 1, realize that worrying is useless,
notice when you do, and then switch it up.
A better way for Bob to motivate himself to make a great advertisement for his company
is to think of what could positively happen.
What if he does really well and gets promoted?
What if Bob tries a new way of marketing and sales go through the roof, allowing him to
know how to effectively promote a product and do that for himself if he wanted to start
a business?
Instead of what if I get fired, this could be an opportunity for him to learn more and
get higher in his company or get hired for a better position somewhere else.
See, Bob in this light will "worry positively", he'll have less stress, most likely produce
something better than had he been overworked and tired, and will enjoy his life and work
in general.
This is something really crucial to your life.
Just watching this video and understanding that worrying is pointless will already help
a bit, but next time you worry (and I used to worry a ton about the most minute things),
just recognize it, note that it's useless to worry, and then think of the positives.
Instead of being socially anxious when you go to a new place thinking what if I embarrass
myself, how about thinking what if I make some friends, or even if I am awkward, learning
how to not care what others think and being socially free.
There's opportunity in everything, and if you can apply that to your day to day life,
you'll improve in whatever you do and enjoy it that much more.
Step 3 out of 5 is to practice gratitude.
I'll keep this short but FightMediocrity did this is in a pretty funny, yet pretty morbid
way.
He apparently told his friend that to stop worrying, every morning watch someone have
their head chopped off.
Now, logically this makes sense but at the same time I have no clue where he got that
from.
However, looking at the principle, if you see someone have their head chopped off daily,
you probably wouldn't complain or worry about something minor like being late to class or
looking awkward, because if that person getting their head chopped off had the choice between
dying and feeling a bit awkward, I'll pretty sure he'd love to be awkward.
Also, before we move on, does anybody know where FightMediocrity is?
Practical Psychology told me he was coming back but I still haven't seen him.
However, this is the point, enjoy what you have, and know that there's really no need
to be worrying all the time because we have it pretty good.
The 4th and second to last step is to stay busy with things that you enjoy.
This is not to be busy in terms of never having time to relax, but instead doing work and
resting in a way which you enjoy.
For me personally this is playing music, reading a good book, or playing basketball.
When I'm doing all these things that I enjoy instead of worrying, I'm in the present moment
and doing the things I want in this short life.
Why waste your time?
Obviously if this is something important that needs to be addressed don't just go off to
play a video game and never actually deal with the issue, but this can help then too.
It's like when people are overcoming addiction, instead of worrying and trying to think through
their problems when they have an urge to relapse, they can do something they enjoy, clear their
minds, and then come back later to think again with a more balanced emotional state.
The 5th and final step on how to stop worrying all the time is to just know that most things
you worry about will have no real impact on your life as a whole.
So I remember a time where my parents were bugging out.
My grades had been shit, a couple of F's in there, D's, C's, but instead of freaking out
about it and just being paranoid about the day that they would open up the report card,
I just kept running my business, kept working hard, and made a promise to them when they
saw, that I would make my grades better.
The uncomfortable situation of my parents telling me I needed to better my grades lasted
for probably 20 minutes max at the dinner table.
In the grand scheme of things, it's literally nothing to worry about.
Not only can you get into the philosophical explanation of well the moment you born you
are guaranteed to die so there's nothing to fear, but also you can explain it in this
way: the fact that 20 minutes compared to my lifetime is nothing.
So I took it for what it was, used the time to my advantage to make a commitment to start
studying more, and it will probably help me in regards to getting into college and enjoying
my time if I choose to go.
In reality, this can be applied to a lot of situations in life.
You worry about if someone thinks you're weird.
Well, if you thought about your life as a whole, does that really matter to you?
No.
The things that you hold important to you are your choice, and for me, other people's
opinions is not the thing I hold dearest to me.
The most important thing in my life is kreating (haha).
But legitimately I find immense joy in making work that I'm proud of, these YouTube videos,
molding my body, art that I produce, instead of worrying why not just enjoy life and deal
with the obstacles it throws at you in a good way?
That's all I've got for you, at the end I'll recap all the lessons one more time so it's
easy for you to always come back to if you see yourself worrying too much.
But if you did enjoy be sure to subscribe for more, and if you already are you can follow
me on Instagram and Twitter @KreativeVein for daily updates.
Alright so the 5 simple steps to stop worrying are:
Number 1: realize that worrying is useless and just do what needs to be done
Number 2: convert your worries into positive thoughts or "positive worries"
Number 3: practice gratitude Number 4: stay busy with things that you enjoy
And Number 5: understand that most things aren't that important
Thanks so much once again, if you like what you just watched be sure to check out my other
videos as my goal here is to help you become who you've always wanted to be in terms of
enjoying your life!
It's Kevin from KreativeVein, peace.
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