how to really direct our states of mind
and emotion we said that everything that
we really want in our lives no matter
what it is whether it be family or
friends or relationship or money or
business success or acknowledging all
those things the only reason we want
them is what we think we'll get out of
them which is a state change a certain
level of feeling within ourselves we
also found out on our last tape that all
emotions every feeling we have is the
result of how we use our body that
emotions literally are nothing but
physiological storms and our brains if
you will and that we learned that by
using our bodies in certain ways by
using our voice our gestures our
breathing our facial expressions we
could radically change our states and we
also talked about the idea if you're a
call of measuring our states where are
we on a scale from zero to 10 10 being
absolutely empowered unstoppable
passionate zero being dead and noticing
are we at the appropriate level for what
we want to accomplish and that for most
cases not all in life but most would it
be nice to little at level 8 9 or 10 or
above on a consistent basis how much
more juice would you have and so you
develop some exercises and discovering
how to move your body not like me not
like somebody else but like you do when
you really are feeling absolutely
excellent today what we want to do is
take on the second way we can manage our
States and the second way to change your
state at any moment in time as quickly
as you can think it is to control and
direct the focus of your mind what do I
mean by that well think about this the
only experience that you have of life
comes in two forms what you're
physically feeling because of the
condition and use of your body at that
moment in other words if you've got
physical pain that's obviously gonna
affect your state there's some kind of
tension for example or if you haven't
had any sleep that's certainly gonna
affect your state as well or if you've
eaten something that's blown your blood
sugar sky-high then obviously that's
gonna affect your emotional states as
well the only other thing that really
controls your state is what are you
paying attention to right now at this
moment I mean let's take an example have
you ever had a headache maybe even a
massive headache that you thought
there's no way you would ever go away
you're really deep pain no what do you
do well most people go get an aspirin
what if instead have you ever had it
happen where somebody asked you a
question or
something needed to be done or something
acquired your total focus somewhere else
outside of yourself and Alamo
immediately the pain disappeared in fact
you forgot about it
and later on when you thought about it
you notice your headache was gone
haven't you had that happen at least
once or twice in your life now how did
you do that see my whole life has been
studying what makes people successful if
someone's able to do something if
they're able to get rapport with
somebody else if they're able to create
the results they want physically in
their life that is lose weight feel
energized if they're able to create the
relationships that they really desire if
they're able to feel as good as they
ever wanted to feel I want to know how
do they do that and so I began to study
how could somebody get rid of a headache
that quickly so we wouldn't be dependent
on some drug like aspirin or Tylenol or
anything else and I began to realize
that what it was is we changed our
mental focus and that whatever
experiencing in our body really comes
from what we're paying attention to
that's what really determines how you
feel and of course how you feel
determines usually how you're gonna
behave doesn't that make sense
when you're feeling really lousy you
don't usually do really well I know
they're exceptions but those exceptions
are because you control your focus you
don't focus on feeling lousy you focus
on what's got to be done there was
tremendous power and controlling the
focus of your mommy now what do I mean
by this specifically well there are two
things we can control in terms of focus
we can control what we're focusing on
that is what we're picturing in our mind
what we're saying to ourselves what
we're paying attention to in our
physical body or we can control how
we're focusing how we're focusing means
let's say the dimension of the pictures
in our mind the brightness of the colors
in our head the volume of our sounds if
we change how we're paying attention to
things not just what it radically
changes our state as well let me give an
example pretend for a moment that your
brain is a camera and you go to a party
how are you gonna feel at that party
well the only thing you're gonna have
feelings about other things you focus on
I mean in that room literally there are
almost unlimited number of activities
and probably emotions and conversations
and things that are going on but your
experience
of that party is based on what that
camera focuses on now if it focuses on
two people that are fighting and that's
what it focuses on for the entire party
you would leave that party saying oh
that party was really intense I mean
people really upset with each other if
your focus was on two people and love or
maybe kissing passionately and say wow
that party was really moving I mean
those people are really connected if
your focus was on some people that were
really boring or bored it's out nobody
really enjoyed that party here's the
problem the problem is your camera that
is the focus that you have does not
usually take in everything
simultaneously your conscious mind can't
there are only so many things you can
consciously focus on I mean think about
how many things right now you are not
paying attention to that are happening
at this moment there's the blood
pulsating through your right ear you may
not even pay attention to it I mention
it now you might focus on it
there's the beat of your heart or you
even noticing that until I mentioned it
there's the feel of maybe some air
coming from an air conditioning maybe if
you're nearby or there's the heat on
your skin or there's the blinking of
your eyes there are unlimited number of
things that are happening right now but
see here's the thing about human beings
since we can't focus on everything and
consciously perceive at all what most of
us do is we become what I call deletion
creatures what do I mean I mean that
most of the time most of us delete that
as we fail to pay attention to or we
ignore most of what's going on around us
at any moment in time so what's the
price of all this deletion well the
price is we walk around believing or
hallucinating might be a better word
that our experience of the world is real
now would you think that if you were
looking through a camera that was
focused on one little portion of the
party that that was truly the party that
wouldn't be very intelligent with it in
fact you know what else is a problem
that camera may even create close-ups
where it makes things bigger than they
actually are where they look bigger and
brighter or worse than they were is that
possible - do you think your brain does
that as well you better believe it does
so the key is if you want your life to
be a party that you're happy with and
not a party that you're upset with you
got to realize that at any moment in
time there's enough going on in the
party of your life that you could find
something to be upset
all you got to do is focus on it all you
gotta do is now look around that party
find out the areas that don't match your
expectations make them big and bright
and close and you'll be upset and you
know what most people are good at this
they've done it over and over and over
again the other thing that's equally
true is that virtually any party at any
moment in time there's somebody having a
good time and if you were to focus on
some area of your life at that moment of
time you can make yourself feel
absolutely great or you could take some
little thing something that's just kind
of nice but make it bigger and brighter
and immediately you can feel better
about it as well
so here's my point my point is if you
want to look at the quality of life and
know what it is it's the quality of
estates that you live in day to day I
mean isn't it really true isn't it how
you feel day to day that determines how
you treat yourself how you treat other
people and how great you feel or how
poor you feel about your life what
determines it one how you use your body
so you want to develop some new habits
and to what and how you focus on things
now that's the only way we can explain
how people have come from unbelievably
painful experiences and turn them around
w Mitchell secret is he has controlled
his physical body specifically the way
he uses his face this man has learned
with what's left of his body to smile
and move his face in ways that makes him
feel incredible and the second thing is
he focuses continuously on what he wants
what he's got what he's grateful for and
as a result he feels incredible now
nobody would blame him for looking
around and seeing you has no legs and he
has no fingers he's got the toes there
instead and he's in a situation where
he's in physical pain a lot of the time
nobody would blame him for feeling sorry
for himself but see he doesn't focus on
that he loves life because he focuses on
the part of the party that's the best
part for him don't you deserve to give
yourself the same gift now take a look
at John Belushi example we used earlier
also how could a guy like Belushi or
Presley or take somebody like Elizabeth
Taylor here's a lady that would have
everything going forward by most
people's standards she's an incredibly
intelligent woman she's absolutely
beautiful she's a great actress she has
thousands and thousands probably
millions of fans to be more accurate
absolutely love her she has as much
money as most people could ever imagine
needing or wanting she has a lifestyle
that's absolutely phenomenal she has
family and friends that care about her
won't do anything for her and yet what
happens with this lady she has not
learned to manage her state and she pays
the price as great as she is great on
the stage but an a personal life over
and over again she has to turn to food
or to drugs to try and take care of the
challenges within herself see how could
someone have it all and still be unhappy
because no matter how good it is
you can always focus on something that
isn't perfect or doesn't match your
expectations and that is called ultimate
failure in life you want to know what I
believe success is success is creating
consistent pleasure in your life and
causing yourself to grow failure is
being able to find pain no matter how
good it is
that's failure the bottom line is you
have that power and you can change it
right now by understanding that you make
decisions about what to focus on now it
may be true that you've got some bad
habits it may be true that right now you
look at what's worse or you look at
what's wrong or you see what's not
working your life and it's habitual so
you don't think about it consciously but
you still make the decisions
you can turn off the automatic pilot and
take control and when you do you can
instantly change the quality of your
life the lady I married my wife Becky
one things I love about her more than
anything in the world the reason I
married her probably more than anything
else is this woman is so incredible at
her ability at any moment in time to
focus on what is great in a situation
what is beautiful the most little things
she and I share that power where we can
be in the middle of anything the middle
of turmoil and upsets and frustrations
and in a heartbeat we can stop and we
say hey look notice that flower notice
that sunset or look in each other's eyes
and say how did I get so lucky to get
you we have that ability and we share we
reinforce it in each other and it gives
power to our relationship and to our
lives you have that control all you have
to do is exercise it so what I want to
do is be more specific with you now and
how to do it now first of all let me
demonstrate this is really true to you I
mean you may say well yeah this makes
sense well let's take a quick example
now this may be an unfair
situation if you're in a place that
you're familiar with but let's try this
right now and if you're in a place
you're familiar with you might want to
try it later on in the day when you're
not familiar with something but let's
take an example here what I want you to
do right now is that like you if you
would let's test the power of something
I want you to look around your room the
room you're in right now or if you're in
your car you can look out the windows
also but I want you to notice everything
you can see everything you can see and
only gonna give you a few seconds that
is brown quick look around the room
everything you can see that's brown look
around your car look outside everything
can see it Brown quickly everything make
sure you don't miss anything everything
sees Brown quick quick quick
okay stop close your eyes with your eyes
closed now close your eyes if you're
driving this is difficult okay so you
might want to try this later as an
exercise but I would like you to do is
close your on it and what I want you to
do with your eyes closed now is tell me
or you know since I'm not there
literally although I maybe you never
know but just for now outloud say
everything that's in this room that is
green oh maybe I hooked you a little bit
huh you were waiting for Brown tell me
out loud come on everything that's green
try this everything in that room that's
blue everything in the room that is
white and everything the room that's red
and now open your eyes and look around
the room and notice everything you can
see in this room that's green come on
take a good look now some of you may say
well there's nothing in this room this
green look behind you there there's
something green behind you that's right
what's blue in this room now do you see
a lot more green do you see a lot more
blue now than you did the first time
unless you're in a room you already are
super familiar with that is you've
already got a picture in your head and
you know it like maybe it's your bedroom
you know everything even then you may
not have noticed everything but if
you're in a strange room or you're in a
place you're not used to what I find is
99% of time people see a lot more blue
and green when I asked them about that
specifically later on in other words
when I asked you to focus on brown
that's what comes up
you notice mostly Brown you tend to
delete a lot of the other details isn't
that true now how does that relate to
life see a lot of people in life stare
at and focus on the brown in law
the shall we say feces of life and other
people they look for the green they look
for it's growing they look for what's
alive that's what you need to do see in
life we get whatever we focus on
whatever you pay attention to that's
what you experience in your body
instantly so how do we control our focus
well that's a good question for years
I've been looking at it you know I read
all the books on positive thinking where
they said hey you want to do good you've
got to feel good that makes sense and if
you want to feel good you cut the buck
yourself good and picture good well the
challenge with that the challenge with
positive thinking is what we've already
talked about problem with positive
thinking is you got to think about it
and it's a little bit difficult we got
to get ourselves conditioned to think
more positive plus I kept asking the
question how do you think positive they
say be positive how well I said you know
make good pictures well how do you get
yourself to do that and so what I've
analyzed for years is what determines
since there are zillions of things you
and I could pay attention to at any
moment what determines what we focus on
well some of what we focus on or most of
it is based upon our beliefs of what's
important in our values and we're going
to talk about that in the next tank but
for right now the thing that at this
specific moment determines what you
focus on is how you're evaluating things
now that sounds like a big chunk but
what do I mean by that well the way we
evaluate things determines how we feel
but what is an evaluation evaluations
are nothing but questions the way I
found this out is one day I was
realizing well you know W Mitchell's
pretty happy because he's evaluated his
life in a way that makes him happy John
Belushi's not here because of the way he
evaluated things he made himself
actually feel bad when he had plenty
could have felt good on if he just
focused on that part of his life's party
if you will so I thought how do I
explain what an evaluation is and then I
noticed that I had asked a question to
try to evaluate how to explain
evaluations and I thought well is it
possible that evaluations or questions
about
that's a question too isn't it no that's
a question isn't it is that really what
evaluation is is a question you notice
that was a question pretty soon I've
whipped myself a no frenzy began to
realize evaluations are in fact
questions and I try to mismatch it that
as I try to look at the opposite side
and I've tested on all kinds of people
maybe you can find the opposite of what
I'm saying but I don't know I have found
that thinking is nothing but the process
of evaluating things you're always
evaluating what does this mean to me and
what should I do
those are two questions your brain is
asking on a continuous basis see if I
take my fist and I go wham and I bring
it within two inches of your face I
guarantee you your brain is gonna make
some evaluations question number one
what does this mean question number two
what should I do
and your brains gonna value it it's
gonna search your brain for your beliefs
about what does this mean do I need to
move is it gonna hit me what does this
mean and what should I do do I hit back
do I adjust what does my body need to do
we're always asking those two primary
questions but the questions we ask
determine what we focus on here let me
be more specific and I'll think you'll
have an example of what I mean I've said
to you so far in this tape that what you
focus on determines how you feel I've
also said that the questions you ask
yourself determine what you focus on
think of questions this way imagine your
brain is the ultimate computer and in
that computer is the answer to any
question you could possibly have and by
the way I believe that that metaphor is
really how your brain works it can come
up with the answer to any question you
ask it Bible says ask and you shall
receive a very true and real statement
beyond what you might believe
religiously even if you have different
religious beliefs it is a reality in my
experience of how our brain works now if
you have this great computer and in
front of you the only way you get
information out of this computer is to
ask for you tap in to this keyboard and
you ask questions and bam and answer the
questions you will get responses on the
screen your brain works the same way you
ask questions you hit the keyboard with
questions and it will fire off the
answers in your brain but here's what's
different about your brain than most
computers whatever question you ask if
you ask it with the absolute expectation
that you're going to get an answer and
if you ask it consistently and you give
it a brain time to search for the
answers you will get an answer
by the way any question you ask you'll
get an answer to even one that doesn't
have a basis in reality in other words
this computer will do anything it'll
search its files and make things up nor
to answer your question what do I mean
well if you go around and ask your brain
why do these things always happen to me
well guess what your brain will search
all its databases and say why do things
always happen to me and it'll take every
possible form of input of what people
said to you in your life what you've
ever said to yourself which you've ever
read or saw on TV and I'll make up an
answer for you it always happens to you
because you're a turkey that's why right
and I'll sure enough now you feel lousy
you see gosh I'm a turkey you feel bad
and everything's not working out see
whatever you ask you to get an answer to
if you say how come I'm so lucky you
know how did I get so lucky your brain
will search all kinds of things and show
you that you're lucky in other words our
questions determine how we feel now if
you've got certain emotions certain
feelings that you have on a daily basis
that you don't like habitual emotions
I'm here to tell you that the feelings
you feel are come from what you focus on
so what you have is habitual focuses and
those focuses come from habitual
questions in other words if you feel
certain ways on an ongoing basis it's
because you're asking certain questions
on an ongoing basis might be useful for
you discover what those are I'll give
you some samples questions that people
ask themselves on a regular basis that
make them feel lousy question number one
is why does this always happen to me I
want you to notice in that question is
something we call a presupposition a
presupposition means you're presupposing
in the question the things already
happen to you that may not be true but
as long as you ask questions that way
your brain will make up an answer for
you hey I'll give you a good example
after the 1988 Republican National
Convention when George Bush selected Dan
Quayle as his running mate
CNN ran a public opinion poll will you
call the 900 number and vote yes or no
to the answer to a question but here is
the question it blew my mind
question was does it bother you that Dan
Quayle used his family's influence to
stay out of Vietnam and again in the
National Guard
now I'm paraphrasing just slightly but
that's what they said now tell me what's
with his picture and challenges they
presuppose that he actually did it they
said does it bother you so your brain
stops evaluating whether he actually did
it or not
and focuses on whether it bothers you or
not does this happen every day with you
do you ask questions that presuppose
that you've got a limited level of
intelligence or skill or ability and
therefore get lousy answers in your
brain listen if you ask yourself
questions like why am I so fat that
question guarantees you're gonna stay
fat you know why cuz you go why am I so
fat your brain will go ok let me figure
out some reasons wham-o here's why
you're fat
cuz you eat continuously and you have no
control your brain goes oh god I don't
need control then you feel useless and
you feel like you're disempowered what
would be a better question to ask
yourself then why am I so fat how about
this one how can I become more thin
right now or what could I do today to
start myself on the road to becoming
more thin and what do I need to do
consistently to create the long-term
results of health that I want if you ask
a better-quality question you will get a
better quality answer or I'll give you a
step beyond that if you ask a question
like how can I become more thin now
you'll get an answer but what if you ask
a question like how can I become more
thin now and enjoy the process ah
magical when you ask that question what
happens now is you literally come up
with only an answer of how to lose
weight but also how to enjoy it and
since your brain likes pleasure there's
a much better chance you're gonna follow
through and they're making any sense to
you I'm here to tell you that the
quality of your life comes down to the
quality of the questions you ask
yourself on a daily basis so if you're
asking questions like well how come I
can't ever learn anything just listen to
that question or why can't I ever learn
anything that's even worse why questions
tend to be what I call endless loop
questions like why does this happen to
me see your brain probably can never
come up with a definitive answer it'll
come up with all kinds of reasons but
you'll keep going into a loop now I
discovered the power of questions in my
own life because at one time my life I
was really really angry and I knew what
I changed my physiology and my movement
to make myself feel better but I didn't
want to you ever been in that state like
somebody said to me well Tony just
change your physiology I said I don't
want to write I was upset but the reason
I was upset is what I was focusing on I
was focusing on somebody who had taken a
bunch of money from my company and
embezzled it and I got pretty upset to
say the least and I was walking around
in a frenzy going how could he do this
how could he have the audacity to do
this I may have even had a next one of
her to who knows and the point is that
by asking those questions I was whipping
myself into frenzy
how could he possibly do this why would
he do this situation to me well guess
what you're never gonna get an answer to
that all it does is whip you into more
and more of a frenzy can you hear it so
finally I said okay doing this is
leading to more and more pain isn't
making my life any better I better ask
myself a more empowering question so I
thought what's something that's
important to me
my answer is I love to learn I already
shared that with you so I said okay what
can I learn from this well guess what my
brain likes learning so it was willing
to focus on that question and you know
what out of that question of what can I
learn from this over the next three
months
I literally developed a whole new level
of understanding about what makes human
beings do what they do I develop
literally a whole new technology which I
call destiny technologies and I now do a
whole seminar called your date with
destiny and when we help people
literally design their life so they are
literally pulled forward in the
direction they want their life to be
rather than having all this
self-sabotage and challenges that come
up for people it's the most incredible
program I do it'll all came out of me
taking a horrible situation and asking a
better question what kind of learn from
this what can I get out of this that
would enhance my life and other people's
as well how can I use this situation to
create much more power in my ability to
help people and help myself asking these
questions allowed me to search my brains
data banks and create tremendous power
out of that situation after I was in
that situation I had other times when I
get upset unbearably when I get upset
it's cuz I was asking a why question why
did this person do this I don't
understand or how could they possibly
have done it because I would never do
that how could they do that I'll never
get the answer based on that so I
learned to ask the question what can I
learn from this now for you that might
not be the right
question maybe learnings not important
enough for you a brain to go while I'm
willing to focus on that now instead of
the problem but my brain I pick learning
or I pick something like well if I'm
angry at somebody I might say well what
do I respect about this person
now I remember one particular guy said
what do I respect about him it was this
guy who'd stolen a bunch of my stuff and
I thought well at least he's using my
stuff
you know I do respect him he's at least
using it he isn't just sitting back
there right sitting on his haunches here
in stop he's at least using it I respect
that what else do respect about him well
well he's at least going for it and you
know and even though I don't think he's
doing for the right reasons he's
probably open a few people who knows you
know and I began to literally feel
better that again ask myself this
question what's actually funny about
this that I hadn't noticed
great question ask yourself what's
actually funny about this they hadn't
noticed now again when you ask a
question you got to be willing to really
search for the answer if you go well
it's great about this that I hadn't
noticed or would notice what's humorous
about this I didn't notice then guess
what there's no way your brains not
gonna go for it but if you ask with a
sincere interest and desire for an
answer you will get one if you keep
asking and so all sudden I started
noticing things about their humors I
start laughing hey listen we've all
heard the phrase someday we'll look back
and laugh on this situation well if
that's really true why wait why not look
back and laugh on it now wait for years
before you can feel good about something
again and the way to do it is change
your focus the way to change your focus
is use questions they're much more
powerful than any other tool I've
noticed I'll tell you why questions
basically do three things when you ask a
question number one when you ask
somebody a question it instantly changes
what they focus on and therefore it
changes the way you feel instantly see
if you're feeling lousy and I come along
and I get you to answer a question like
well let me ask you a question what is
great in your life right now you oh well
nothing I go on I know nothing is but if
there was something that was great you
know what what could be great in your
life if I get you to really think about
it what it makes your brain do is search
your files and you know what no matter
how bad your life may seem there's
something great going on there's no
doubt about it
you know here you are and all your
friends is weaking or skiing but you're
home studying for a big test do you feel
cheated you feel left out you feel hurt
hey listen all you need is a little
contrast for yourself what's great right
now this weekend you're studying things
that can make a huge difference in the
quality of your life forever
these people are gonna work their
muscles and come back and probably
forget about that situation right or
you're not in a Nazi concentration camp
there's a little contrast for you you
get to be learning because you choose to
not because you're forced to
you're studying something that you chose
to study you're actually creating a
future for yourself you're getting me
use your brain there's so many things
you could focus on you're in a free
country
you're alive you've got friends yet
people that care about you there are
millions of things you could feel good
about all you have to do is change your
focus and if you don't you end up like
the John Belushi's of the world think
about it see the choice is yours so if I
ask you a question like what could be
great in your life or what's great right
now if you really think about it you can
come up with something think about it
right now what's really great in your
life right now what's something that you
feel really great about think about it
or what could you feel great about if
you wanted to as you think about things
that make you feel great
notice how it makes you feel when you
think about that what about that why
does that make you feel great how does
that make you feel inside when you feel
those feelings and you know what you can
change your state instantly just by
focusing on that at any moment in time
so the first thing questions do is they
change our focus and therefore our state
immediately the second thing that
questions do is they change what we're
deleting now remember in order to feel
unhappy you have to focus on the things
that would make you unhappy and you have
to delete all the great things that are
happening in your life
isn't that true in other words every one
of us right now could get depressed
piece of cake
all we have to do is focus on all the
tragedy that's happening the world right
now even little pieces of it children
they're dying right now starvation we
can make pictures in our head of those
bloated stomachs hearing the cries of
babies just as they pass off into death
sing flies eating their flesh how's that
for graphic
at the same time every one of us could
be an absolute total pleasure interrupts
that pattern of the picture you're
looking at and think of something like a
great total pleasure and you know what
their resilient things but to do that
you have to stop focusing you have to
delete all the negativity in the world
and focus on things that make you feel
great so you could focus on a
relationship you have you could focus on
how much you've already learned in the
last six or seven or eight days you
could focus on the people that love you
you could focus on your ability as a
human being to change your life at any
moment in time you could focus on what
learning means to you you could focus on
the Sun you could focus on breathing
fresh air you could focus on the fact
you live in a free country you could
focus on the fact that you have a
connection with your Creator you could
focus on anything and feel incredible
you could focus on new babies being born
to this moment they have a greater
opportunity in life than any time in our
history there's so much we could focus
on and feel good about the challenge is
this you must control it through
questions questions change what we
delete we're always deleting human
beings we're not gonna stop deleting
things as long as we're gonna delete
things why not delete the things that
disempower you and focus on the things
that empower you does that make sense
the third thing that questions do is
they help you to get access to resources
within yourself I'm a big believer that
anything you've ever wanted to
accomplish you've already got the
resources inside of you to make it
happen that doesn't mean you shouldn't
go out and learn from somebody else or
model the success of others I'm just
saying the things you need to succeed
are already in your core the resources
are there you just need to get access to
them by asking better questions I'll
give an example
if I ask myself questions like gosh can
I really do this that creates a feeling
of doubt to hear how that does that and
that feeling of doubt will keep me in a
state where I'm not gonna get the most
out of myself but if instead I ask
myself question like how can I make this
thing happen right now more powerfully
than I ever dreamed of and have fun
doing it if I keep asking that question
my brain will get access to more of my
ability because whatever I ask for my
brain will give me but if you ask your
brain can I really do this and you do it
with a tone of voice of doubt you are
gonna get access to the resources called
doubt does that make sense
if you think about it the greatest
communicators the greatest teachers of
all time were not people that so much
taught us as they did ask us they shared
things with us but they got us to use
our own resources they asked questions
all the great speakers have done this
Hey
Martin Luther King asked questions about
a dream John F Kennedy asked don't ask
what your country can do for you ask
what you can do for your country he
wanted you to take the resources out of
yourself and contribute and expand our
country you must learn to ask habitual
questions that empower you I want you to
know that I believe the success in my
life has all come down to one basic
skill state management on a consistent
basis I've learned how to manage my
state and therefore I've been able to
get myself to breakthrough and take
action with very few people around me
were able to do the same they were able
to that's probably not the best
description they weren't using their
power because they didn't have access to
all of it and I've done that by every
day doing things that would increase my
physical ability flexibility power
energy by the way I'm moving the way I
breathe and also by consistently and
daily conditioning myself to ask the
kinds of questions to create the kinds
of focus that moves me towards larger
levels of contribution and joy and fun
and success and passion instead of the
things that would pull me down that
would pull me to areas of frustration
and anger and giving up listen there is
no capability difference between you and
someone you consider to be an ultimate
role model of success the only
difference is they've learned to use
their mind and body with more power on a
consistent basis they have learned a
manager state they've learned to use
their body effectively whether they know
it or not consciously doesn't matter a
lot of people do things without being
aware of how they do it and they've
learned to control their mental focus
remember whatever we concentrate our
focus on consistently and strive to
learn from and make new distinctions
about we will get great at I don't care
what it is if you focus on it daily and
you strive to be better you're gonna
make little distinctions that'll make
you more and more effective every single
day so you better decide what you want
to focus on in your life and what you
want to experience on a daily basis cuz
that's where your power is gonna come
from that's where your power is gonna
emit
that's the genesis of your power I want
you to know that many things that you
think are impossible or difficult are
only difficult or impossible because of
the way you're focusing on things you're
focusing on how it can't be done and you
can remember whatever you focus on is
what you get so if you focus on how it
can't be done you are absolutely right
and no one's gonna prove you wrong so
why not focus on what's possible and
create that I mean that's how I created
things like the firewalk seminar all I
did was hold a new level of possibility
instead of focusing on how it couldn't
be done or how it was a terrible thing
or something like that I focused on hey
this is an incredible example of
possibility and if other people can do
it my focus and my question is if they
can do it then how can we do it how can
I share it with other people how could
it be used as an empowering experience
that's a lot of fun I did the same thing
with teach people wood breaking you know
I teach people how to break wood karate
style not in two years but in about 20
minutes again not to make them this
powerful person but to show them that by
simply changing their mental focus by
controlling their physical emotional
state and by modeling someone's success
that they can get results in 30 minutes
that takes most people two years and
they have what we call a breakthrough
literally I want you to know that you
have every right in any moment of time
to feel lousy to feel bad to feel sorry
to feel hurt I am NOT saying by this
tape program that you should never be
disappointed or frustrated or angry or
anything else because all of those
emotions have their place in their
proper proportion hey some of my
greatest frustrations or angers or
upsets or would have driven some of my
greatest successes because it's made me
search for more but see what's
interesting is the pain drove me but
what changed me from other people who
just gave up is I ask better questions I
found a way to say what can I learn from
this how can I grow from this how can I
expand from this what can I take from
this experience that'll empower me what
can I learn from this so I never have to
experience it again and by asking
empowering questions how can I take
advantage of this what's the actual
benefit in this situation that I
probably hadn't noticed I began to find
benefits whereas other people said why
did this happen to me why does this
always happen to me why did you do this
to me Lord how come I'm not smart enough
to pull this off why do I keep self
sabotaging see that's the difference
between success and failure
want you to know I'm not saying you
can't feel bad I'm just saying and when
you're done feeling bad here's how to
change and you may not want to spend
quite so much time feeling bad in the
future because feeling bad is based on
focus if you change your focus you can
feel good instantly right now at this
moment now
so let me ask you a few questions and
what I'd like you to do for your
homework is designed some questions
every morning my life I wake up and I
ask myself questions now the truth is
you already do this too the only problem
is you're not doing it consciously think
about it when you're shaving are you
thinking and talking to yourself know
that the process of thinking is nothing
but asking and answering questions
you're doing it constantly that's where
your thoughts come from think about it
now you might say well no that's not
true yes it is true if you said no it's
true or yes it is it's because you ask
yourself the question is that true or
something like it see some of the
questions you ask are subconscious your
brain is deciding all the time if I get
in this car if I turn here what's gonna
happen is that car coming too close or
too far you're asking questions
constantly subconsciously but you're
also doing it consciously when you're
shaving or putting on your makeup or
shampooing you're asking questions but
it might be questions like God why do I
always have to do this why do I have to
go to work today think about the kind of
states that those questions create and
what would be some more empowering
questions like what could I do today
that would make today more fun than ever
before what can I do today that would
create a breakthrough in my business
what could I do today to connect more
with my family members
I wonder what's gonna happen today
that'll make me feel total pleasure for
no reason I wonder what I'll see today
that I haven't seen before
see those kinds of questions will
empower you if you're bored it's cuz you
ask lousy questions probably ask
questions like why do I have to do this
why do we do this all the time why do we
always do these things versus looking
around saying hi what can I notice today
that I haven't noticed before see what
can I see to it I haven't seen before
what can I smell today I haven't smelled
before see it's called directing your
computer so here are some questions you
might want to answer right now in your
own mind and notice how they make you
feel question 1 what are you really most
happy about your life right now what's
one of the things you're most happy
about in your life right now answer that
question in your own head what are you
most happy about in your life right now
or if your brain goes nothing
what could you be happy about if you
wanted to be if you ever asked a
question yourself and somebody says well
I don't feel that way or I don't think
that way so I know you don't but if you
did or if you could what could you feel
happy about right now think about it
have you thought of something
well good let me ask you a question what
about that makes you happy
third question how does that make you
feel really allow yourself to feel don't
just go well makes me feel the feelings
what else are you really happy about in
your life right now think of a second
thing what else are you really happy
about in your life right now what about
that makes you feel happy
how does that make you feel
here's the second question for you what
are you really excited about in your
life right now what are you really
excited about in your life right now
answer the question in your mind think
about it or what could you be excited
about if you wanted to be excited about
something think about it oh come on
you've got more things to be excited
about think what about that makes you
excited why has that make you excited
how does it make you feel what else you
excited about your life right now come
on what else what else are you really
excited about in your life right now or
could you be excited about if you wanted
to how does that make you feel here's a
third question for you what are you
really grateful for in your life right
now what are you really grateful for in
your life right now
what are some of the things you're
grateful for what could you be grateful
for if you wanted to be answer the
question honestly how does that make you
feel I want you to notice do you feel
state changes you answer these questions
from where you were a few moments before
that's it so you can change your state
instantly and you can make yourself feel
great there's so much to feel grateful
for if you want my formula for wealth
it's real simple live every day in an
attitude of gratitude see the more you
feel like you have the more you'll
experience in your life and the more
you'll be willing to give see make sure
that you're always trying to give more
than you take back and feel grateful for
everything you have and you will be
wealthy beyond your wildest dreams but
you got to control your focus let me ask
you another one what are you really
proud of in your life right now what are
you really proud about in your life
right now or what could you be proud
about in your life so far what are some
of the things
and what about those things makes you
feel proud how does that make you feel
what else are you really proud of in
your life right now how does that make
you feel and here's a final question for
you
who do you really love most in your life
and who loves you think about it and
don't just go all my mom my dad my
brother my sister did that get some
feeling step into those experiences and
feel what it feels like think about who
loves you and how that makes you feel
who do you love and how does that make
you feel to love that person so much I
had a question for you what if every
morning you started out asking yourself
a series of questions that put you in
this kind of state there's some real
power cuz see the state you're in
affects the way you look at your whole
world doesn't it affects the way you
breathe the way you feel the way you
treat other people and your level of
success see a lot of people teaching
life do bunch affirmations go I'm happy
I met the mmmmmm I'm happy and then your
brain goes B s alright now if you do
affirmations long enough they may work
because your brain may get bored and say
well why am i happy at which time it'll
search your brain for an answer and then
all sudden you'll feel happy that's what
happens when you do affirmations or if
you go I'm happy I'm happy I'm happy I'm
happy I'm happy and you really create
the physiology of happiness you know
what I mean by that by using your voice
that way then what you've done is the
affirmation didn't do it so much that's
putting your body in that state so
affirmations are great but what only
those questions are even more powerful
cuz now you have a reason to be happy
you're not just jumping yourself up and
running around with what I call a
perma-grin where people go why are you
happy and go I don't know but it feels
good
it's better to have all these reasons so
every morning you stack more reasons to
be happy you come up with more reasons
that you're proud more reasons to be
grateful more reasons to feel excited
about life more feelings of love if you
stack those every day you literally
anchor them in your nervous system this
is part of what I call destiny
technology's controlling your state
you're asking yourself effective
questions this is the power of focus and
here's your exercise pull out your
success journal and right now I want you
to write down five question
after you've designed these five
questions what I'd like you ask yourself
to do is this first of all let me ask
you this if every single morning you got
up and asked yourself five custom design
questions that put you in peak States
and they gave you lots of reasons to
feel phenomenal so you weren't just some
guy out there again just babbling about
how excited you are without any reasons
for it I'm not talking about being
somebody who just all pumped up for no
reason but if every day you came up with
lots of reasons and felt these powerful
emotions what would that do to the
quality of your life what would that do
to your days would it be worth
developing some new habits if your
answer to these questions is yes then
I'd like to challenge you to do
something I'd like you to develop a new
habit a one that will literally
conditioned your nervous system to
associate powerful emotions with waking
up in the morning wouldn't that be nice
here's what I want you to do if you're
willing to take on the challenge for the
rest of this program approximately what
twenty two more days each morning I want
you to answer those five questions and
every time you answer them you've got to
create some feelings so if one of your
questions was what am I most excited
about my life you got to come up with at
least two different answers and you got
to think about why you're excited how
great that makes you feel you got to
actually feel the answer the question
two answers to each of your five
questions each morning again this is not
added work you're already asking
questions you just may be asking
questions like well gosh why do I have
to get up at this hour that may not be
the best question to ask when the alarm
goes off maybe you want to install a new
one that empowers you would you be
willing to do that for the rest of this
30-day program now I don't want you to
do this for the rest of your life
because you might get addicted of
feeling excellent for the rest of your
life and gosh only knows what would
happen to you then
so don't go any longer than these thirty
days for sure but at least for the
thirty days would you be willing to try
it okay then go for it
so you know your assignment design five
questions that we'll get resources out
if you make you feel phenomenal each day
that will make you get access to your
real powered ability every single day
also I want to say to you please use
your success journal to write down each
day a little bit about what's happening
to you what are you noticing have you
already begun to notice that your
attitude has changed obviously but also
have you notice that maybe you're
willing to
some chances through your being more
decisive you're taking some actions
you've been may be more powerful in some
of your communication
have you decided maybe to take some
actions like lose weight or stop smoking
and you're in like day three or four of
that or are you just feeling better
about the possibilities of your future
in other words each day you might want
to just keep a journal jot down a couple
of key ideas about what you learn that
day or what you're experiencing in your
daily life besides this program I've
kept journals for years because I
believe that if my life is worth living
it's worth recording and for me what
journals are as a way to go back and
notice my growth because otherwise what
happens for a lot of us is we get caught
up but if you have a journal you can
look and see I you've grown in your
development and your ability and where
you are in your life in addition your
journals and things that you can give
later on to your children someday they
can look back and learn from the lessons
you've learned in your life learn
valuable I hope you'll decide to keep a
success journal on an ongoing basis
after this program but see if you get
yourself in a habit right now for the
next 30 days over the next 30 days
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