I think the more important skill if you
ask me is to have an extraordinary as
the art of fulfillment it's an art it's
not a science because there's a science
to making money I don't care who you are
if you do certain things you're gonna
have too much financial stress you do
other things you're gonna have an
abundance there's a science there's a
science to your body everyone hears
biochemically different different genome
but there's certain fundamental patterns
that if you and I follow them you're
gonna have tons of energy in the field
good if you break them you're gonna pay
the price and have low energy or disease
but fulfillment is an art what's going
to fulfill you is differently at first
and next you're not gonna learn that
from anybody else you got to find it
because success without fulfillment is
the ultimate failure and I get those
phone calls all the time for the multi
billionaire entrepreneur or politician
or business person or a person just won
their Academy Award and they're
depressed and they can't tell anybody
because they got all their goals but
they're not fulfilled because they
really don't have that sense of meaning
in their life they went for something
and they got it they achieved and if you
doubt this what I'm saying is relevant
to you or us or anyone just think about
about a year and what a month ago we
lost what I consider be a national
treasure robbing wipes how many of you
loved robbing lives look around keep
your hands up look and most you didn't
know him almost every no worries on the
world people love robbed boys by the way
was he graded achievement oh my god that
guy he said he want to make become a
great comedian he did that I want to
make the world laugh he did I want to
make my own TV show he did I'm one of
the number one TV show he did it I want
to make movies he did I want an Academy
Award for not being funny not his skill
set drama and he did it I want a
beautiful family he did it and then he
hung himself
make everybody happy but yourself not a
good plan so if I had a gift to give you
it would be maybe make a different
decision and a decision is that no
matter what happens in your life you're
gonna live in a beautiful state a
beautiful state and that could be happy
that could be grateful that could be
being generous those are all beautiful
states aren't they it could be curious
it could be fun it could be playful
you're not limited to one state but it's
different than suffering and most people
suffering and all suffering I've ever
seen I've traveled 100 countries I've
dealt with presence of countries and you
know presidents of businesses CEOs I've
dealt with people in prison I got with
you name average people suffering always
comes because you're obsessed about
something related to you
you can only be depressed if you're
focusing on yourself so now I'm
depressed cuz my kids and and they're
not doing well no you're depressed cuz
you feel you've failed your kids it's
about you it's about how you think you
what you should have done or shouldn't
have done or what someone did to you or
didn't do to you in the past or the
future which don't even exist so I have
a simple goal my goal is help people
make a decision that says I don't know
what's gonna happen you might get a
divorce even though you don't think so
you might find a family of your family
with cancer you might have your house
get burned down or have a tornado go by
and if you live in the same place that
happens every two years and you move
back we should talk but some people seem
to do that for some reason you can't
control those things I can't control
those things I don't want those to
happen to you or anybody I love or
anybody who's even a stranger to me but
they're going to happen true not
positively just the truth so if that's
gonna happen I say make a decision now
that says I'm gonna live in a beautiful
state and I'm gonna find beauty and
whatever Life brings me because life is
too short not too
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I care about you the fact that you're
not happy has nothing to do with what
you have or don't have the fact that
you're not happy is that your life
doesn't match the way you think it
should be and you have some idea of how
you think it should be and worse if
you're this depressed that for all this
time you feel like you can't do anything
you have no power to change it you feel
helpless
what's any of your life you really feel
happy about I want to think about it for
a moment truthfully
what's an area in your life today that
if you wanted to be happy about it you
really could feel proud about you could
feel like scenario you're doing darn
well in and if you're really hard on
yourself there's still an area what's an
area I want you to think of it right now
I want you to think of that area whether
it's your body or your finances or your
career or your intimate relationship or
your relationship with your kids your
relationship with your Creator whatever
it is I want you to think about why are
you happy with that air of your life
right now today why are you happy with
that area of your life right now today I
really think about whenever you're happy
with the air of your life it's because
right now your current life experience I
call your LC or life conditions
conditions of your life your life
conditions in that area match or equal
to your blueprint your story your belief
about how life should be in that area
when your life conditions when your life
conditions the way you're living your
life today does not match it doesn't
equal
your blueprint your story of how it's
supposed to be then you're gonna have
disappointment frustration or pain if
your life is way different than the way
you think it's supposed to be you can
have enormous pain if it's a little
different you might feel stressed when
your life conditions don't match your
blueprint you're gonna have pain but
here's when you suffered well who here
has been through the dark night of the
soul who's been here in a situation
where you feel like like like life your
life isn't worth living or we feel like
a pain that just will never go away
we have an identity we have a story of
how we're supposed to be and if life
somehow gets in the way of that story we
feel pain but if we feel we have no
control that's when we go into suffering
see it's one thing to say my life
doesn't match my blueprint I gotta lose
weight that might stress you out or my
life doesn't match my blueprint I'm not
in a relationship I gotta get in one I
might motivate you even you might not
like it but you're gonna find a way
together with or my career doesn't
matter I should be you could change it
but when you start believing that your
life doesn't match your blueprint and
you have no control to change it you're
helpless that's when people suffer and
so this week for your breakthrough it's
a chance for you to start to take a look
at your blueprint anywhere you're really
having pain Hey look if you're doing
great in some area of your life
celebrate of course and I'm sure there
are many areas you are but life is
really a series of growth spurts I mean
two things in life make you feel alive
growing and giving because here's your
choice watch this now if you're
suffering if you're in pain your life
doesn't match how you think it should
day and you think you're helpless to
change it
now you have only three choices choice
one blame something these are three
choices when life doesn't match how you
think it should be blame something an
event someone else or yourself as we
talked about earlier in the series blame
games just destroy you there's no
progress in the plan for the moment you
feel okay but nothing changes what are
your real choices you only have two
choices in life if life doesn't match
your blueprint you either have to change
your life that is you gotta say you know
what my body isn't there I'm gonna go
work out my relationship is in there I'm
gonna change you know I'm not making
what I gonna make I'm gonna retool I'm
gonna get a new skill I'm gonna go back
to school I'm gonna start a business I'm
gonna do something you have to do
something to change your life or in
order for you to be happy if you can't
change your life you're gonna have to
change your blueprint usually a life and
requires a little bit of each does that
make sense and if you've changed your
take change your life and change your
blueprint you can have an extraordinary
life because all of us are gonna have
times in our life when what we want or
think life should be like isn't gonna
match how life really is those moments
if we blame our life goes into pain if
we change we can change our life and
match our blueprint but we have to also
know when it's not within our control
and that's how we're able to make a
shift we change what our story is for
our life what our expectations are not
by lowering them but by changing what
that model really is because your
blueprint is just a projection of what
you think you need to be happy but as
human beings were notoriously
ineffective at knowing that's gonna make
us out so much what we think we're gonna
make us happy we get there we go is this
all there is so many things that we
think are gonna make us miserable we can
never deal with we go through it we can
handle it we're not good at projecting
these things
why don't you fulfill your blueprint
regularly why don't you figure out how
to do what you always
you always dream to live a certain way
and now you live in that way living that
way living that way ever again
well the human nervous system human
spirit needs to grow so pretty soon
you'll get bored with that and you'll
come up with a new blueprint that's part
of the part of life that's exciting
see if you and I are from this day
forward are gonna be happy just remember
we've said it takes two things grow and
give a meaningful life comes from
growing that sense of progress and it
comes from having life not just be about
me but about we doing something that
makes me feel connected to other people
besides myself that growth that sense of
contribution fills a deep spiritual need
that we all have if you are unhappy in
your life you've got three choices
really to blame that's not a choice it's
not gonna work don't blame someone else
don't blame you that don't blame
yourself just figure out what you're
gonna do to change your life change your
blueprint you're gonna have to rewire
what's going on inside and that's what
we focus on as well so I hope this
journey has been an interesting one for
you I hope that's opened up your eyes to
what it takes to go from where you are
to where you want to be it takes
changing your emotional pattern to
change bringing presents to your life it
takes realizing you have no problems
compared to somebody else and putting
your life in perspective it takes the
ability to deal with those extreme
stresses that happen in your life by
questioning your limiting beliefs it
takes for you to be able to figure out
how to deal with crisis and how to turn
it around
it takes facing your fear it takes
pushing yourself through what used to
stop you it takes putting yourself in a
position where you connect to what's
more important than just yourself what
you value than just yourself and it
takes I think in this case also the
ability to realize that no matter what
happens to you you're more than that
moment you're more than the story you
think you're supposed to be and that
even when you're not matching what you
think you need to be maybe there's a
reason for that maybe you're having to
find a different part of yourself that's
gonna fulfill you in a much deeper level
sometimes failing to get your goal gives
you your destiny I can't tell you how
many people have known over the years
who have an idea but they thought their
life was supposed to be like and they
didn't achieve it they got miserable and
upset and frustrated and one day an
opening happened and they went oh my god
thank God that didn't happen sometimes
not getting your blueprints the best
thing that ever happened because the
disappointment drives you to find
something more important inside of you
or not getting it makes you look for
another aspect of your life a spiritual
aspect of a family aspect a physical
aspect if you can just trust that life
doesn't happen to you it happens for you
then you can find in any situation a
benefit that can take your life to the
next level I don't care if you're Frank
and Kristen I don't care if you're you
know Mandy and Scott I don't care if
you're Joaquin and Kim every one of us
in our life is gonna feel faced
situations where it feels like we have
total trauma something that's been taken
from us the real question is what are
you gonna do with it some people just
live in the story of what they don't
have and they have the right to do that
if Frank and Kristen lived in pain and
felt bad we'd all say they have the
right to do it it's a difference doing
what you have the right to do and what
you deserve to give yourself and others
we have the ability to transcend
whatever happens to us there's something
called post-traumatic growth very few
people know about it two people go
through the same stress one's destroyed
the other grows what's the difference
the people that grow will not give up
they don't have any excuses they find
the way to break through whatever it
takes and when they do three things
happen number one they realize who they
really are and what they're capable of
they realize there's so much stronger
than they thought they were and number
two they deepen all their relationships
you want to know who really cares about
to who you love and who loves you go
through some tragedy go through some
hard times all your Facebook friends go
away your real friends your real family
shows up for you and you show up for
them and it deepens your relationships
and the third thing happens if you could
push yourself through and break through
whatever challenges life gives you is
each time you ever break through to get
stronger and it almost like builds a
psychological immunity in you where
suddenly all of a sudden it's like stuff
happens you know stuffs gonna happen and
you're not scared of it anymore cuz
after you've been through a stroke after
you've been through you know losing the
use of some of your body or senses after
you lose a family member and you break
through to that you get to the other
side it's like give me your best shot
life it's almost like there's this
psychological immunity that says I'm
ready for whatever life will give me I
don't want challenges but if they're
here I know I can handle them that
strength of spirit is what creates a
sense of freedom and joy in life and
that strength of spirit basically comes
from living a life where you are
constantly a never ending thing you way
to improve yourself and to help others
and never settle for less than you can
be never settle for less than you can
give or you can share
you
you
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