Hi, this is Paul here from selfhelpforlife.com.
And in this video, I'm going to talk about the ten universal human needs for a happy
and healthy life.
Now, if you're watching this video, you already have water, you already have food, you also
already have a roof over your head.
Those most basic human needs are already met for you.
So these human needs are more emotional and mental.
And, what I've found is that, if you ignore some of these, then that tends to effect your
mindset, you tend to feel depressed.
You might start out addictive personalities or addictive tendencies, like alcohol, because
what you then do is you start using those things to try and meet those human needs in
another way, if that kinda makes sense.
When your life is balanced and all these needs are being met, then that's a key to health,
a key to well-being, and feeling happy and fulfilled, too.
Now these universal human needs have come from the Human Givens Model, which is a form
of psychotherapy that was developed in the U.K.
So, let's kick off with the first one, then, which is safety and security.
So we all want to live in an environment that is free from excessive fear.
And this is important so we can develop in a healthy way.
Now, everyone has some need for this, even people who are very adventurous and take a
lot of risks.
Deep down at some level, we all have a need for this safety and security.
And when our environment feels insecure, when it feels unpredictable, or maybe even feels
dangerous, then our mental health will suffer as a result.
So, safety and security really falls into three areas.
Financial security ... so that's having the feeling that we're pretty confident that we're
not gonna lose our job, or lose our house.
It's also around health, feeling pretty confident that our body's gonna look after us for years
to come.
And it's also around our physical safety as well.
So, that can include living in an area where we feel safe walking the streets at night,
or living with a partner that you know is gonna look after you and is not gonna harm
you in any way.
The second one is autonomy and control.
Now we know that life can be unpredictable and uncertain.
But, deep down we do need that sense of control and autonomy.
We need to feel confident about what can happen to us and what can happen around us as well.
And some people can deal with this better than others.
So, when adversity strikes and something unexpected happens, some people seem to rebound much
more quickly than others.
And that's because they have a good sense of internal control.
And, for me, internal control is really about being able to control your emotions, it's
also about being assertive in relationships, to be able to stand up for yourself in relationships.
And to be able to say what you mean, and say what you think.
And obviously in a way that respects the other person as well.
It's also about being able to make and act on decisions, and it really helps to have
long term goals, that really helps as well with that situation.
And it's also about being able to know the difference between internal control and external
control.
Knowing what you can influence in your life, what you can control in your life rather,
and also what you can influence but can't directly control.
So, I think what really helps with this is sometimes we have to just relax and just take
a new perspective on things.
So when life does get a bit challenging at times, just being able to just step back and
just take that perspective.
And also, if things outside of your control are stressing you out, then focus on the other
parts of your life that are going well and are more within your control.
So, the third universal human need is status.
And this is feeling accepted and valued.
And accepted and valued in different social groups as well.
So, work might be one, family might be another, and it is important to feel important.
And this isn't something you should be ashamed of.
And as I mentioned, status isn't just something that comes from work, it can come from being
a good parent, a good son or a good daughter as well.
And you get this sense of fulfilment by having clear roles professionally.
Whether that's in your career, in a relationship, or maybe it's in the community.
Or maybe it's in your family as well.
And one thing I find that can help with this sense of status, if you can't get it from
work or from other ways, is volunteering or leading something.
So, leading something in the community or helping in the community in some way.
Okay, the next one is privacy.
And this is really having the time and space to reflect on life's experiences.
It's having that me time, that time alone, that time when you can reflect on how things
are going in life.
Time when you can sort of consolidate your thoughts, and just decide what's the next
step to take and that kind of thing.
Just really have that big introspective on life, as well.
And again, the amount varies.
Some people don't need very much me time, some people need a lot more.
But we all need it in some way, and you often crave it when you know you need it.
Okay, so the fifth universal human need is attention.
This is receiving attention from others, and also giving attention as well.
And if you have too much time alone, too much of number four, privacy, then that can affect
your mental and emotional state.
And again, this will vary.
More extroverted people need a lot more attention and introverted people, you probably need
more of that me time.
So it does vary, but we all need this at some level.
So, this could be time with family, time with friends, colleagues, acquaintances, even with
pets.
So, some of things you can do if this is lacking within your life is catching up with friends,
or making new friends.
And this is where meetup.com is great, for finding friends with common interests.
So do check out that if you haven't already.
Also, if you live a long way away, or your friends live a long way away, then use phone
or Skype to interact with them that way as well.
Number six is connection to a wider community.
So this is interaction with a larger group of people, and feeling a sense of being part
of that group.
I think this is important, because it can take the focus off yourself and your own problems.
And it also shows that you're doing something that's beyond meeting your own needs.
Just helping to meet the needs of others, and I think that's important as well, to get
out of your own head.
And this has been shown to benefit your immune system, your mental health, and level of happiness
and sense of fulfilment, too.
So some of things you can do is join a club, meet some like minded people.
You know, that can be a hobby or an interest that you have.
Again, meetup.com is great for this as well.
And also, I think what's really good is think about what you're good at and share that with
other people, to help other people in a way, with something you're good at.
Just that process itself can really give you that sense of connection with a wider community.
Okay, number seven is the need for intimacy.
Now intimacy defined by the Human Givens is, emotional connection with others.
That incudes friendship, love, intimacy, and fun.
And so, with at least one person, have that ability to be able to share ideas, share your
hopes.
Share your dreams, and that will make you feel good.
And typically with a loving partner, it's lovely to be able to do that, to be able to
share your hopes, dreams, and goals and that kind of thing.
But you can do this with a close friend as well.
You know, just someone that values who you are, understands who you are, and is willing
to listen.
And maybe it's someone who wants to share their goals and dreams as well.
And if you're in a relationship, then you have a date night, and use that to talk about
your future, and where you're going and your passions and all that kind of thing.
Try and avoid talking about the usual mundane stuff around money and kids and work and that
sort of thing.
And, you know, if you're not in a relationship, then meet up with close friends, you know,
in person ideally, but if not use Skype again, if you're a long way away.
Okay, number eight is look after your body.
Now, maybe you know this person.
It's the person that believes that they can get away on four or five hours sleep.
It's the person that's always first in the office.
The person that skips lunch, their belief is lunch is for wimps.
It's the person that doesn't go to the gym, doesn't have time for the gym, too busy for
that.
And they probably have a few cups of coffee to get them through the day.
Now, that kind of person ... maybe you can relate to that person.
Maybe that person's you.
You know, that kind of lifestyle is just not sustainable long term.
You can do it for a little while, but not long term.
That will start to lead to psychological problems and stress related illness if you keep doing
that.
So, it's important that you make time to look after your body, and that includes getting
enough sleep, getting good quality sleep, getting enough rest.
Having that time out to relax, also exercising, whether it's just walking or something a bit
more energetic like weights or cardio.
Having a healthy diet, just getting out in the fresh air, and also you know, visiting
the doctor regularly and getting the regular health checks done as well.
You know, making sure you have time to value yourself and your body to do all those kind
of things.
Okay, so the ninth universal human need is competence and achievement.
So this is having a sense of your own competence and your ability to achieve things.
It's about having what it takes to meet life's demands.
So, really it's about having confidence.
It's about feeling that you're making progress in life, and that you're achieving your goals,
you're achieving things in life.
And if you haven't really got much that you're achieving in life at the moment, if life seems
to be very sort of normal and just the same thing all the time, then your first step really,
is to focus on something new.
Something like learning a new skill, go to an evening class and learn something new,
or learn it online if you prefer to do it that way.
You can look back at what you enjoyed in the past.
Maybe there's some hobbies that you did in the past that you seem to have, don't have
the time for doing now.
Maybe you could start making the time to develop that hobby again.
And it's also about setting goals, you know, setting goals in all areas of life, whether
it's ... it could be weekly goals, monthly and yearly goals.
So, setting those regular goals, and then you can have that enjoyment and satisfaction
of watching the progress as you're achieving those goals.
Okay, number ten is having a sense of purpose, goals and meaning.
So, it's having a strong sense that future plans are worthwhile, and that you can achieve
them.
So number nine was about really having those things to strive for, but they've gotta be
worthwhile, they've gotta be something you really want in life.
That's really what this last one's about.
It's also about having beliefs and values that you stand by.
So, having those principles that guide your life, that's important as well.
It's also about having the satisfaction from achieving goals and solving problems.
So, this is where the goal setting's important, so you have that satisfaction as you watch
your goals progress and you achieve things along the way.
And when you have that sense of purpose, goals and meaning, your imagination starts to work
for you.
You start to picture yourself, you start to picture things going well, you start to picture
yourself in those new situations as well.
And what I've found is that when people have no real goal, and purpose or meaning in their
life, that their life feels worthless.
It feels as if life has no meaning.
It feels that there's no real reason for their existence, and that something's missing in
their life.
And then you get that feeling of boredom, or that kind of empty feeling.
And then what tends to happen is your imagination starts to focus on what's not working, it
starts to fear the worst, because imagination is not getting a chance to be used in a more
positive and resourceful way.
So, for this one, what I recommend you do is step back, think about what you want to
achieve in your life.
And then, once decided, create a plan of action to do that.
And another little tip, I'd say on this one, is don't make finding your purpose or meaning
in life something that could take years to find out.
The reality is a couple of things.
One is, there could be many meanings and purposes that could fit you, okay?
So it could be several.
And secondly, your purpose and meaning in life could well change over time.
So just think about what you think makes sense to you for now, what gives you that passion,
what gives you that excitement and go with that, knowing that you can always change and
develop that over time and that's absolutely fine to do.
So, I hope you found these ten universal human needs useful.
I suspect you related to some more than others, maybe the ones that you do a lot of already.
Or maybe the ones that you feel, ah yes, I'm just not doing much of this at the moment.
Maybe that's the reason you're feeling unhappy, or feeling a little bit flat about life, or
just feeling that there's something missing, something more I could be doing.
So, what I invite you to do is to take the time to work on those ones, see if you can
incorporate a few new activities into your life, that's gonna meet that human need in
a better way.
And I really encourage you to do that, so you have a more balanced life, it'll be more
fulfilling, happy and enjoyable.
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