When you look at yourself, you lose the fear of life.
And losing the fear of life will bring you home, in time,
to a fearless understanding of your mind and your ability to work with it.
These mechanisms pop up during a time
in a kind of a struggle to survive.
It's a little bit not right calling them a thing that struggles to survive
because they are only...
They're not beings at all.
They are habits of thought that have come to you in in fear
from the very beginning of your life.
And when you put an end to the arising of new mechanisms that are driven in fear,
that doesn't happen anymore.
Once you have done the looking, no more mechanical
fear-driven things will come in your mind.
But there are... The ones that are there
still are working to do what they think they should do.
They don't really think anything, but what they are habituated to do
to keep you safe from all of the things that could possibly hurt you
and in the course of that,
they cripple us in our lives, and our understandings,
and the way in which we can work with our lives and our understandings.
And it seems reasonable that the more recent ones that have arisen in your mind
go first and you will find, when you see that, that it's quite a relief.
But as the years go by, new circumstances in your life, changes,
relationship difficulties, illness may trigger old hidden mechanisms,
bring old hidden mechanisms to the surface and this can come as a surprise
and can shake our confidence in the process at all.
But if you have control, if you have developed some control of your attention,
it's really true that you can use it to better deal with these old conditioned patterns of thought and behavior
You actually can decline to attend to them, and when you are not attending to them,
they die out more quickly than just to let them hang around until they get starved.
But they will go away, they will be starved, no matter what you do,
because they have no more food.
Their food is the fear that is constantly arising in your mind from the very beginning of your life.
When the fear begins to go away,
they make a lot of noise because they don't have their food anymore
If you don't have food to eat, I guarantee you,
you're going to be unhappy about that.
And again, these mechanisms are not actual entities that have understanding and and so forth and so on.
As they become weaker, they become louder, it seems.
And sometimes it can be a battle. I mean, a real battle
We know ourselves, from our own experience, that once the fear of life is gone,
and the mechanisms are trying to find a way to feed themselves, I suppose...
Again, these are metaphors; there's nothing of that nature actually going on,
but it is useful and not so bad to think of them as entities that are in battle
against the loss of the fear.
And what happens in that case, and particularly,
the older the patterns are, the hardest it will be to free them.
That's obvious, the new ones that have come in more recently are more vulnerable.
The ones that have been around for years and years are well established in your mind,
It's important that you see that just one look is not magic in any way whatsoever.
it's not a magic bullet.
The truth is, there is no magic bullet that will instantly bring to you
satisfaction, and understanding, and fearfulness no matter what you do.
All of the ideas that will happen as we recover from the fear of life can be ignored.
The ideas that it seems like it's getting worse,
you're more confused than you've ever been,
or you're being assailed assailed by misery of one kind or another...
All of that can be safely ignored.
Nothing whatsoever is going to hurt you once you have done the looking.
It can be hard, and it can be not very happy, but it's not going to hurt you.
A common type of expectation that happens once we have done the looking
is that we think that things should be different than they are immediately.
I mean, that's what we have come to believe in.
Things that take long are not worth the effort.
Things that are worth the effort are instantaneous.
And this is just the way the fear has conditioned all of us, the entire human species.
You can remember that expectations, the expectations that just...
The expectations are just thoughts.
The expectations about how it should be magical, the expectations that it shouldn't be hard anymore,
it should be easy, and all of that...
Just decline to pay attention to it.
And it can't hurt you.
Look only at what is here right now, not what has been here for years,
and you are comfortable with.
You can be comfortable with misery, you know?
I mean, really, a lot of people get comfortable in misery.
But just one look gives you a better way to understand your mind,
and actual understanding can bring you better to deal with it.
By looking at yourself, trying to get a taste of what it feels like to be you,
you have removed the invisible ground of fear that underlies and controls your mind.
And that's just the case.
That underlying thing is on its way out.
The look is an act of self-directed attention.
The act of looking is an act of self-directed attention,
in which you are turning the beam of your attention inward,
in a direction it's not accustomed to go.
This starts a process in which old, fearful, conditioned behaviors and patterns of thought
begin to lose their food, which is your fear,
and it is the invisible context of fear that has kept them alive all your life.
In time, these old, diseased mechanisms fade away,
not without a fight,
and newer, healthier mechanisms start taking their place,
but this process can take many years.
It does take many years if you do nothing other than the looking.
It will come true, it will come to be the case
that fear is gone in you, but it can take years, many years.
We have a lot of experience with people who have done the looking,
especially prior to the time when we began to understand the value of self-directed attention.
We have reports from people who looked at themselves many years ago,
and then, after many years, come back to tell us, You know what? Everything is good.
I can't tell you how grateful we are. Everything is good.
But that takes a long time. A long time.
Self-directed attention, on the other hand, gives you a measure of control over the process of recovery
from the fear disease and it also accelerates it.
The more understanding and clarity you have in self-directed attention,
the sooner and more effective will be your recovery.
You must always think about the fact that everything that happens after the looking is recovery.
You're recovering from a horrifying disease that most of us don't even have any ideas going on.
Ant it actually takes your your whole life...
I mean, it gets easier with the years, but it still continues...
Yes, it still continues.
There are subtler and subtler things you discover...
When you acquire some control of your attention, that in itself frees up a lot of mental energy,
since you are not wasting time on thoughts,
not wasting your attention on thoughts that are harmful,
or merely irrelevant in the moment.
And because of that, your attention becomes much more focused and much more effective
in helping you live your life intelligently.
As time goes on, you learn to see your thoughts for what they really are,
They are not you.
That's really important to see, and it's sometimes hard to understand,
but your thoughts are not you.
And because they are not you, you can decline to pay attention to them,
whenever you can.
Just one look will not make you a superhuman, and it will not make you immune to disease and old age,
or death, as Carla brought to our attention.
But I promise you that if you work with your attention in the way that we offer,
you will be much better able to deal with disease and old age,
and in a more sane manner, without so much suffering.
Disease comes; disease goes.
- Old age comes and... - Doesn't go...
- Until the end. - It comes and stays.
But all of that, once you've gotten control of your attention,
which, by the way, turns out to be the only thing whatsoever
that you have the ability actually to do anything with...
Everything else is automatic.
Now, I'm not saying that just one look will heal your body.
It may make it better... You may have a better understanding of what to do
to help your body and help your bodily diseases, or any of that,
but it will not heal disease.
It will not heal disease.
There's no way that that can happen.
It can make you smarter so that you can work with disease more effectively,
but it will not help you get rid of the disease, other than to give you the power
to be more intelligent in the relationship to it.
- John... - Yes, Carla...
I just wanted to put this in context.
We were talking about this...
It's because we have seen that every now and then,
there are people who seem to believe that this is some sort of healing teaching
that will heal physical difficulties, right? We've seen that.
That Just One Look is a form of "healing teaching and it will heal disease."
And again, as Carla said, that's not true.
But I tell you that, once you're free of the fear, and once you are completely in control of your attention,
you have a much better possibility of working with whatever you work with
to heal yourself.
To begin with, if you have a physical condition. the best thing to do is to seek help
from a qualified person, a medical doctor.
That's the best thing to do to begin with.
Because that will give you the access to a greater understanding
of the way in which the disease is working
and what the problems with it are, and so forth and so on...
This work, this self-directed attention is available to all.
Everybody in the world can bring themselves to get control over their attention,
which, again, I say, is the only thing we have that we can actually do anything about directly.
And it requires determination and a good measure of mental strength to see this through.
But you can do it, you know? People do it.
I did it. Carla did it.
And we're doing pretty good, actually, most of the time.
And occasionally, stuff comes up, still.
Yes, stuff comes up.
For me, in my case, I have to deal with menopause stuff, which messes up with your head a lot.
And I use self-directed attention to help me get through it.
Yeah.
And it can be a huge effort in certain moments,
when certain mechanisms take over, and it's a battle sometimes.
And you decline, decline, decline... It can last a few hours, and then it passes.
Sometimes it feels like a real battle.
And sometimes you get...
But you improve, you get better...
Sometimes it might feel, in certain circumstances,
- that you can't do it. - Yeah.
That the sickness is too strong to be able to actually do that.
But whenever you do have the opportunity to do it,
in sickness or in health, every time you do that, you get stronger,
because that's the only thing you can do that can help you at all in the long run.
In your life, for the rest of your life.
And it works.
- But it's not a magic bullet. - It's not a magic bullet.
And it doesn't turn you into Superman.
There ain't no magic bullet here.
Neither John, nor me, nobody...
And again, as I said in the beginning,
If you look at yourself and then run off and go on to do your life,
and we never hear from you,
we have good examples, and good understanding that in five to ten years,
you will have noticed that things have actually turned right.
It calms down, right? You kind of relax.
Get turned around.
You know, if you want to wait 10 years to feel good,that's all right with me,
but I would think it would be much better bite the bullet
Do something hard.
And I tell you that...
It's hard. But it's worth every moment of it.
Sometimes you might get really mad because you can't do it.
- Get discouraged... - You might think it's beyond you...
But as soon as that discouragement leaves, go back to it.
Don't be guilty by it.
Don't think that you're guilty of being stupid or anything like that.
- Lazy... - Or lazy, or whatever...
But when the circumstances arise in a way that you can do it, go right back.
Go right back to self-direct attention.
And do it right. Do it in accordance to the...
instructions on the website.
It's really important to for those of you ho are doing this and are having difficulty,
and think you can't do it, it's normal.
You get periods like that. It's really, really hard.
And you just persist. Decide for yourself, I want to do this.
And when you can't do it , you can't do it. But as soon as you can, you do it.
That's my personal advice.
Well, first of all, I want to give you a little context,
so you know what this is about.
A couple of weeks ago, we went down to an area in LA called Eagle Rock...
We had never been there...
To see a new acupuncturist and Chinese medicine doctor for me.
John dropped me at the office and he went to park the car.
And he was looking for a place to park, right?
And he parked the car, came back, and then when we left the office together,
he could not remember what he had parked.
He had been in such a hurry to come back,
he really wanted to come back to the office, that he didn't even think
of writing down the name of the street or something. He forgot.
Which, if I can interrupt this, is a sign
that having the self-directed attention and doing the work
does not necessarily take away your stupidity all the time.
You can still forget things, right?
So we walked and walked, all around. It's a residential neighborhood.
That's where we were looking, and then there's a big avenue where the office is.
We were in behind, looking everywhere... We could not find it.
We walked for hours and then we just rented a car and drove home.
So I call the police, I did a lot of stuff; we called tow truck companies,
We spent a couple of days doing that.
I put things on Facebook and other groups, I sent a email to our list, saying,
If you live in the area, if you see a van that looks like this, let us know, right?
With the license plate and everything...
That was on a Saturday. Three days later, the doctor called us
to let us know that he had found the van.
And it was parked a block from the office, really safe, in a motel parking lot.
So that's the context in which we received this email a couple of days after after we have found the van.
And I'm going to read it to you .
As much as I'm glad that you found your car undamaged, and that it wasn't stolen,
I do find what happened to you somewhat disturbing,
It may sound heartless, but I wonder how something like that could happen
to a person who rebuilt their mind completely, no longer being afraid of life itself.
Maybe you'd like to talk about it in one of your next monthly meetings.
because your experience made me realize that I'm holding on to deep misconceptions
as to what life without fear really means.
So far, it has meant to me that one is totally effective in everything they do,
from moment to moment, with you two being some superhero poster children
for that way of living their lives.
And now, it turns out that you are, well, just as human as anyone else,
forgetting where they parked their vehicle.
Well, there you go.
We are just like everybody else. There is no magic or spiritual understandings
that can stop us from doing stupid things.
The only thing that can stop us from doing stupid things
is to stop doing stupid things.
When you do one, don't do it again.
The entire idea that what is needed for human beings to be fully alive in their lives,
- Satisfied... - And satisfied...
That they must be perfect in every way...
This is, to my view, a great example of the uselessness of methods
that claim to make you free of human misery.
That you will be forever free of human problems.
- Those things like, that you live from oneness, - Yes.
That you live from presence.
- That you are 100 percent clear... - Yeah.
- Well, good luck with that. - Good luck with that.
We've never seen anybody like that.
Whoever says that that's the case, either you're misunderstanding it,
or they just don't know what they're talking about.
- Yeah, or worse, but... - Or worse.
Or worse.
What we're trying to accomplish here is for everybody who is doing the work with us,
that you stay human.
You're not superhuman; you stay human.
But you stay a human being that is free of fear.
And then, when the fear is gone, and you have some control over your attention,
which is the only thing you can have control over...
If the fear is gone, and you have control over your attention, it's like nothing else.
The whole thing turns around.
And this has nothing to do with understanding the nature of being human,
or you know...
In a metaphysical sense or philosophical sense.
We're not doing that. We're trying to... What we're offering here is practical.
It is to live a life without having the fear control you.
So if you're here, that's what I have to say about it.
I am very grateful for the fact that you sent that letter to us.
It was really useful to us, and probably will continue to be.
But we are nothing but human beings.
Ordinary human beings that have lost fear of life.
That the only thing different about us.
And we are, as I have probably made you see, we are by no means perfect.
And being free of the fear of life doesn't mean you don't forget things,
or go crazy every now and then...
Or have some very old mechanisms show up and drive you crazy for a while...
But then, you can stop, you can see.
You have this little distance that you can see what's going on and you say, Wait a minute.
I declined to pay attention to that.
That's all it takes.
It's just and old, defensive, fearful mechanism.
- And that's it. - Okay.
This business of expectation...
The email has this idea that we are somehow different or special.
And that's just projecting your own expectations onto us, right, and that's what it says.
The person who wrote is expecting that he will be like that,
because if that's what you achieve...
So, those expectations are to be discarded as just another thought
that you don't need to pay attention to.
You don't know what's gonna happen as the process develops.
No one knows.
We give you pointers but each person is different.
So when you have these ideas of what should be, or what it's gonna happen, just decline.
Decline to attend to them and see what's here right now.
See where you were a few years ago, when you started, or however long ago you started.
See where you are now. See what's changed.
That can give you encouragement to continue.
And don't try to predict what's gonna happen, or project
some idea based on...
Sometimes it's really unconscious. You just have this in your mind, you read it...
Especially people who have been involved in certain kinds of spiritual teachings and things like that...
We carry it with us.
Like somebody who was thinking that you live from oneness, things like that.
Oneness is this here, right now, with the computers,
and us talking to you, each person in a different country...
That's the oneness.
There's no point in even talking about it.
- It's just what is. - I am not even sure what it means.
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