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what are the biggest trade-offs that
both of you consider maybe negative in
order to do what it is you do because
you're both I mean incredibly driven
what I would consider insane schedules
but at the same time you're making
massive contributions to humanity so
what are the trade-offs that you would
consider like you know we work our asses
off we do a lot of stuff but this is
what we had to sacrifice in order to do
it if you thinking it that way I think
if you think of it as a sacrifice then
you're going to build frustration and
resentment
I really don't if you think it's that
question shouldn't do it I think the
challenge is that most people have this
illusion about life work balance and I
did that's you know if you're going to
accomplish it as what people are
laughing is you know right what's true
is life work integration so I was just
in twenty one country or seven countries
21 days but who's with me is my family
who's with me is my friends and I've
done well enough to have a plane and
that rooms and all that kind of cool
stuff makes it but when I didn't we
still we puffed it together and
beginning days it was coach and dragging
ourselves around but I thought it was
great for my kids to have schooling but
I thought an education was more valuable
and traveling the earth was a part of
that but you know we're in the middle of
this crazy schedule but we're it's not
work it's a mission when it's work it's
that I was asked people I said how would
you describe what you do and people I
say because at work it's a couriers
admission and most people of course they
have to work and that's exactly what is
this MP if it's you know if it's your
career it gives you some more but your
mission it doesn't wear you out it
brings energy to you it's fulfilling and
if you can tie your Michigan with the
people that you love it's pretty cool
you know some people assume they're my
friends I see Dean here in the front row
here and it's like we're all on this
mission and we find time to connect and
deal with each other and have a blast
with each other but we're sharing about
things that matter I'm not a person to
go to a party and like you know go on
the corner and chitchat it's like you
want to talk about something deep let's
lock you don't let me go home and be
with my family you know let me go do
something fun that some of that nature
if you can combine your mission with
your family combine your mission with
some of your friends then you're going
to accomplish a million times more but
if you think it's a sacrifice don't do
it
because then all you're doing is you're
going to have resentment later on or
frustration later on and and then you
really aren't contributing because it's
you're you're trading off you're not
giving no great good I think I'm a
nine-year-old kid does you know me no I
am a nine-year-old child in my body
pinching myself every day that I get to
do this shit that I get to do it is
extraordinary I could not would not want
to be doing anything else I mean it's
hard work and it's and it's like I'm
push myself or anybody else but I love
it I love it I love it I cannot imagine
doing anything else
and that's the challenge right the
question is a lot of people are doing
something to get to something else and
that's just wrong
and it's matter of don't do because your
parents told you because you heard on an
infomercial because what if do what is
your highest calling in life and love it
and so I don't work at all I really
don't work you know dan has told me to
get rid of it so I get rid of it well
you know I mean this this room is filled
with some very high achievers and
obviously what I wanted to derive from
you guys is this some insight somehow to
some what it is you do to just give them
you know perspective and stuff and I
carefully chose some questions and this
one is you're both masters at achieving
what most people consider impossible and
I mean really like what you guys do most
people consider absolutely impossible so
when something is considered
quote/unquote impossible how do you
reframe it so it becomes possible in
your mind and how much of that is
mindset well I think impossible is not a
fact it's an opinion when someone tells
it's impossible
I always just look at things buddy
around me knows that they can't do this
that's part of it but if they didn't
know me it's your opinion they'll say no
science shows and I say yeah I know how
many times the science shows something's
impossible now science shows as possible
things are impossible till somebody does
it and so I find that you know most of
your business people you look at
businesses and what does it take to make
a business grow it's not impossible like
the business growth isn't been shrinking
for a long time
or it's been stuck the real problem is
always the chokehold is always the
psychology and the skills of the leader
always an 80% of that is psychology and
20% of the mechanics like if you don't
know how to read your financials and
you're trying to fly the plane of your
your company I mean come on you know if
all you do is go down you look at profit
loss and you see what it is and you have
a beer either way you either celebrate
Express you know something you know
you're going to be in trouble right but
if you have the skill sets that's one
thing but you can get any skill set at
the other psychology and any time of
business is not growing it is not
because it's impossible it's because
they are innovating and they're not
innovating because they're believing
it's impossible I mean if we all know
what does it take to transform obviously
up people it takes three things to
create a breakthrough and anything and
your personal life in your business
anywhere you need a strategy but that's
not the first place you should look at
it's the first place all of us look me
too it's our inherent thing you want to
lose weight well how do I do it
I'm going to grow my business how do I
do it it's it's instinctive we've been
trained to think that way but the
problem is the how-to is usually not
that complex going to come on 70% of
America is what 75% of America now is
overweight is that because it's so
complex that have you fit and strong
right you know only the 1% know the
answer if they hide it from you you have
to work your ass off to not hear what it
takes right and so so you know I never I
went to this I went to a TED med Center
and I watched about 12 doctors won't
have to know to get up and do these
stories about if we could just get
patients to take their medications and
try to figure out the whole thing and I
was just looking and going you're all
talking about strategy and you've
forgotten psychology because strategies
wonderful I'm a strategist so my whole
life sticking out strategy is we both
know strategy could save you a decade
right and business strategy could save
you you know it could make it
interesting success and failure but most
people have strategies available or they
could get them or you could create them
but the problem is you got a story and
your story is why it isn't working and
the story is I've tried what everything
if you tried everything you'd be fit
it's tough you tried everything you'd be
profitable if you tried everything you'd
be there but people think you know I'm
big-boned that's what I said
still big-boned but I'm 38 pounds
lighter than I was 25 years ago and I've
never gained it back right a borrower's
big bone that was my story all the good
ones are gone that's why I'm not in a
relationship or they're gay and I'm not
or again they are whatever the story is
there's always a story and what I tell
people you know if you can just divorce
the story of your limitation and marry
the truth of your unlimited capacity
then the whole game changes but it's
hard to do that because when you're in
your story
you don't even realize it so you need a
third piece for breakthrough and that's
really what my life's about which is
changing people States
because in a different state with
different people you know can mean
people be nice yes or no yes or no
who's there when they're a nice day can
I see people be mean sure I get a mean
stay so really learning to train
yourself to be in an ideal state where
the best of you comes out to yourself
for your family for your mission for
your world for your coworkers to me
that's one of the most important
decisions in life to make just ask me of
all the people I've met all the things
I've seen you know what creates a
magnificent life you know everybody has
goals and dreams that are different some
people want you know picket fence some
want to make a billion dollars some you
know want to have this huge breakthrough
in technology some people want to write
through the poetry whatever is right
through people's what I want them for
themselves I don't want to be like me or
you or anybody else I want them to have
their dream but to have that you need
two skills you need number one to have
the science of achievement it's a
science you have to know how to take
your vision and make it real and most
people assume they've already figured
that out and this guy sure as hell has
and you have and I have so most of us
know and we can all refine our skills in
that area but we know how to take what
we dream about make it real if you don't
you can learn from somebody who does now
the simplest thing is get crazily hungry
for something we all know when you get
so hungry so desirous your brain starts
coming up with answers and then it's
massive action but effective execution
which is all model language if I assume
what this is about find the best example
compress the time let someone else take
20 years to figure it out you do it in
two weeks or two months or whatever the
period is that's we should all be
standing the shoulders the people around
us instead of reinventing the wheel and
then there's this thing called grace now
if you work your ass off
you're totally focused you try to serve
something larger than yourself
and you really are executing what works
you need a little grace might want to
call it luck if you prefer God the
universe but it's there and we got ahold
chief but I think the more important
skill you asked me is to have an
extraordinary as the art of fulfillment
it's an art it's not a science because
there's a science to making money I
don't care who you are if you do certain
things you're going to have too much
financial stress you other things you're
going to have an abundance there's a
science there's a science to your body
everyone here is bio chemically
different different genome but there's
certain fundamental patterns that if you
and I follow them you're going to tons
of energy in the field good if you break
them you're going to pay the price and
I've low energy or disease but
fulfillment is an art what's going to
fulfill you is differently at first next
to you not to learn that from anybody
else you got to find it because success
without fulfillment is the ultimate
failure and I get those phone calls all
the time for the multi billionaire
entrepreneur or politician or business
person or a person just won their
Academy Award and they're depressed and
they can't tell anybody because they got
all their goals but they're not
fulfilled because they really don't have
that sense of meaning in their life they
went for something and they got it they
achieved and if you doubt this one I'm
saying is relevant to you or us or
anyone just think about about a year and
what a month ago we lost what I consider
be a national treasure Robin Williams
how many of you loved Robin lights we're
gonna keep the hands of look and most of
you didn't know him almost everywhere
you go in the world people love Robin
Williams by the way what's he graded
achievement oh my god that guy he said
he want to make become a great comedian
he did I want to make the world laughing
I want to make my own TV show he did I
wanted the number one TV show he did it
I want to make movies he did I want an
Academy Award for not being funny not
his skill set drama and he did it I want
a beautiful family he did it and then he
hung himself
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make everybody happy but yourself not a
good plan so if I had a gift to give you
it would be maybe make a different
decision a decision is that no matter
what happens in your life you're going
to live in a beautiful state a beautiful
state and that could be happy that could
be grateful that could be being generous
those are all beautiful States aren't
they could be curious
it could be fun it could be playful
you're not limited to one state but it's
different than suffering and most people
suffering and all suffering I've ever
seen I traveled 100 countries I've dealt
with presidents of countries and you
know presidents of businesses vo that
dealt with people in prison I've dealt
with you name average people suffering
always comes because you're obsessed
about something related to you you can
only be depressed if you're focusing on
yourself so now I'm depressed cuz with
my kids and and they're not doing well
no you're depressed cuz you feel you've
failed your kids it's about you it's
about how you think you what you should
have done or shouldn't have done or what
someone did to you or didn't do to you
in the past or the future which don't
even exist so I have a simple goal my
goal is help people make a decision that
says I don't know what's going to happen
you might get a divorce even though you
don't think so you might kind of M leave
your family with cancer you might have
your house get burned down or have a
tornado go by and if you live in the
same place it happens every two years
and you move back we should talk but
some people seem to do that for some
reason you can't control those things I
can't control those things I don't want
those to happen to you or anybody I love
or anybody is even a stranger to me but
they're going to happen true not
positively just the truth so if that's
going to happen I say make a decision
now that says I'm gonna live in a
beautiful state and I'm going to find
beauty and whatever Life brings me
because life is too short not to I see a
little buddy over here named Shawn a
member when I got a phone call from the
make-a-wish Foundation so you have a
young man is about to die and he wants
to meet you
so he came to a seminar and then I took
him out after his intime if he coughed
too much they said they said he can't
grab him I said I want to take him
across the fire I said taking cross fire
so to be at the cost he'll break the rib
I said I'll be really gentle we're going
to do this thing and he did it
afterwards i sat down with man I don't
have the answers but if your body is
you're just coughing and it's going to
make you break a rib your body is so
acid I said you should get alkaline let
me put you the other with the doctor how
many years ago is that here in 1980 now
36 I like seeing you here so brother
give him an his beautiful man
that's Shawn but maybe think of Shawn is
Shawn lives in a beautiful state
he could be bitching and complaining and
whining what does he do his whole life
is not about himself that's why he's so
happy he doesn't live in himself he
lives outside himself serving do you
love he still takes care of himself and
he's funny he likes to seduce women and
things like I can't talk about right now
but oh you're married now okay well it's
good I'm glad to hear it's about
fricking time hi John good if you drew
up now the bottom line is this young man
over here who now different stage of
life he's always been anyways I think he
lived because he lived for more than
himself yeah I'm sure he felt pain but
we only suffer when we think about
what's being done to us or what people
are going to think of what they should
have done a patent done and you can't
control that stuff anyway I mean why be
pissed I'm people can do our people
going to be mean yes or no are people
going to be unfair and unjust yes or no
are people going to be beautiful and
generous yes or no just never know when
that's going to happen so might as well
enjoy yourself along the way and I
suggest today if you want there's any
gift I came by to give you it's to tell
you what you know already they get you
to make a decision about to actually
decide I'm going to live in a beautiful
state that doesn't mean I don't get
angry or too tired with you know
suffering arises and you end it the
moment you go I'm thinking about me if I
leave this I'll always be suffering the
human mind is always looking for what's
wrong the human brain is not designed to
make you happy it's designed to make you
survive happiness that's your job and
you only get it if you draw a line in
the sand that's how it's going to be and
I can tell you the few people to do it I
know a few people that have done it to
have magnificent lives and when you're a
beautiful state the best ideas come at
this man lives in a beautiful state
every time I talk to him I love
he was just always on fire about
something but notice you know he's doing
unbelievably well there's nothing wrong
with that but almost everything he's
doing is about more than himself and so
that's why he feels so alive he's not
suffering it out
he's an ecstasy he's not lucky he's
living life a certain way it's a
beautiful way I'm honored to have you as
a friend thank you both
how many met this man before and he was
in a wonderful state let me see her
hands I don't think I've ever seemed not
a wonderful state I've seen him perhaps
of painful challenging places but he
doesn't stay there and look what he's
able to create because of it
he is a nine-year-old boy he was on fire
he's untier to light the world on fire
with what's possible it's a beautiful
thing I honor you
so the contribution I'll make thank you
Tony and I think it was about impossible
and mindset and so forth yeah his the
reality is there is very little that's
impossible
period it just is and and your mindset
as soon as you say something is
impossible then you shut down every
possibility for solving right and we all
know this and the challenge is that it's
really hard not to be in that state
because we get thrown stuff all the time
and what I want to share with you is an
experiment which is to say ok not only
how do I make it not how do I make it
possible but how do I actually go ten
times bigger and you've heard me speak
about this you know moonshot thinking
bold thinking whatever the case whatever
terminology you want to give it and most
of us in our life are trying to make a
10% improvement and we know this this is
I'm trying to accuse my revenues by 10
percent I'm trying to increase money
reduce my sales by 10% save 10% more of
the you know the lens out there whatever
it truly is we all have this sort of
beaten into us by life and by the rest
of universe that you can make these
small incremental improvements but the
fact the matter is that there are those
in the world that go ten times bigger
and you every one of us can be that and
as soon as you say I want to I want to
not only solve this thing but go ten
times bigger in my work in the things
and can I say this in
thing that you're truly passionate about
not just about earning a little more
money I mean it really should be in
something that you care truly about that
is bigger than yourself that is
impacting the world as soon as you try
and go ten times bigger three magical
things happen number one even if you
have no idea how to solve it no idea how
to get there you'll be amazed at what
you come up with and what's interesting
is our legacy our past anchors us to
where we are today
and you have to let go of that you truly
have to let go of all the stuff in your
past what you thought you'd done all of
the heart you know the infrastructure
that you've built to let yourself go you
know when Elon Musk built Tesla the
reason Tesla was such an amazingly
better car is he didn't have a hundred
years of Detroit to hold on to he start
with a clean sheet of paper and imagine
what could be the second thing is when
you try and go ten times bigger versus
ten percent bigger it's a hundred times
the value proposition and it's never a
hundred times more expensive or a
hundred times harder and so you get this
increased capability and then the third
thing is when you try and go you know
ten times bigger to solve a problem ten
times bigger
you've got to reinvent stuff you have to
actually go and figure out okay I have
no idea how I'm going to solve that
you're going to start to reinvent things
so when Eric and I were working on you
know asteroid mining
we had to reinvent we had to have you
know so much computational power onboard
the spacecraft we had to come up with
brand new sensors and hyperspectral and
mid wave IR that didn't exist had never
been licensed because these spacecraft
were going to operating at 200 million
miles away and that forced us to come up
with new kinds of capabilities that were
not currently possible and you'll be
amazed with those capabilities that you
create in your business in your life
enable you to do and so there's this
massive benefit this payoff this
dividend that comes from expanding your
mind and not being anchored to the past
and so
I think that there very few things
they're truly impossible I think that
impossible is a is a state of mind and
I'll say one other thing the people in
your life are part of that anchoring so
how do you anchor yourself with a new
set of people all right I'm looking at
my dear friend Naveen Jane here with
whom we've opened up XPrize India and
are really working on solving women's
and girls issues in India and providing
abundant drinking water in India I mean
so what do you how do you surround
yourself with amazing people who live in
the state of anything is possible
I'm blessed at XPrize at singularity
University of h-line PR I live I
rillette constantly and so how do you do
that where are you doing that
what is your nothing is impossible
community it is truly here and so that's
really critically important because once
you get into that mindset then you start
freeing yourself from that other that
you tell yourself and people tell you
because we are living in a world where
constant amazing miracles happen another
thing because I put my commercial into
this stop watching the news stop
watching the news you could not pay me
enough to have the crisis news network
with a constantly negative news network
whatever you call CNN pollute my mind
really I have social networks I have you
know Google filters and so forth I was
just telling Arianna about this and
hopefully she'll do this I want on the
front page of Huffington Post I said I
want a slider where I can control the
percentage of positive news stories
right how would you like that instead of
because right now
right now it's it's you know it's ten to
one negative to positive it's true it's
like why would you possibly invest in
the world and in the life and all these
things if the world is falling apart if
you know if the crisis new network is
like showing you airplane accent if
airplane accent airplane accent what
problem is that the news networks never
tell you there was no school shooting
today at this school you know or there
was this airplane actually flew LA to
New York and actually made it everybody
survived that's not news and so we get
this disproportionate view and so our
minds are constantly the mindset you
have when you watch the negative news is
awful not it's not going on it's not
that there's this amazing hardship and
and lives that are on the precipice of
of hunger and death around the world but
the world is getting better an
extraordinary rate and you can make a
difference in it and there is no problem
there is no problem we cannot solve
period end of statement
all right so since both of you are two
of the the greatest achievers and
biggest thinkers at least that I know in
the history of humanity in flow honest
to god you know I know in a very serious
way I you know it's funny I can't
imagine there will ever be another Tony
Robbins you re frickin that reek of
nature unfortunate and I mean one of the
most amazing things like when when I
went to date would destiny would he'll
ask how many of you came here you're
thinking about committing suicide and
literally I don't know anywhere from 6
to 12 or whatever I don't know the
amount stand up and you literally take
that shit on I don't know another time
in being that could I mean it's it's my
modeling and you flip it you take a
person in a horrible hopeless state and
they're coming to your seminar maybe is
a last-ditch effort but there's that
hope and you just channel it but then
you share that with freaking thousands
of people live on the spot I mean and
that's just one of like hundreds of
things that you do that my mom everybody
know I see there's no way there's no way
he can do this there's no way you can
stalk how can you possibly and boom it's
done you do it it is it is truly a
blessing to have it on his my nothing I
mean like were you born this way a
stupid question but like it same for
other people like you built yourself to
be Tony Robbins I was your gene sequence
I was a kid from Azusa who had no
certainty who we had no food and had to
be in charge because my mother was a
little crazy and I promised myself that
my future family would never go through
this and so I decide I hated suffering
as I experienced it and I wanted to end
it so I read some books in the air and
human development psychology and
physiology when I was still 17 18 19 to
21 22 years old saying was going to read
a book a day and do that but I still
immersed I went to every event I
listened to everything I got immersed
but when it comes to people you know
I've been doing now I've been doing this
for you know 38 years and I've been with
50 million people so in a hundred
countries so there's nothing I haven't
seen at this point somebody
time's up so it's beautiful it happens
different every time it comes through me
and I really believe in grace I really
believe it's there but I prepared a
level the most most people never dream
of and I also know that there's whatever
human beings feel we are not our
feelings we are not our patterns those
are things we might identify with or not
that and so when I see a pattern it
doesn't work I don't think the person's
broken I don't think anybody's broken
I'm not here to fix people but I am here
to break up the patterns that don't work
and I've never lost a suicide knock on
wood and you know thousands for 38 years
and we follow-up two years later three
years later we're like they're making a
documentary right now so how do you both
deal with or think about or even channel
like extreme levels of stress adversity
criticism public opinion or failure
because both of you have had you know
things that just flat-out didn't work
but you're quite your public figures and
how do you handle it or deal with it or
think about it I really let go of
criticism really fast I actually I I
might you know sort of process in the
moment to try and figure out this is
something that I truly learn from there
valid but I let go of it really fast and
so if I'm in a you know a fight personal
fight or whatever it's like is so time
is so precious time is so precious
failure god I've had a wonderful series
of failures and you know I built a
launch vehicle company that we won this
huge contract and couldn't finance it
had to close it down
I've built a multitude of companies you
know luckily you know a third have been
great a third have been okay and the
third have been life lessons but it's I
have to believe that what I'm doing in
my heart of hearts is the right thing to
do and if I'm doing the very best I can
and I believe it is something because I
take a dollar from synthetic as a
donation or as an investment I and those
of you who are in the room here who who
have supported me or invested in me know
that it's like it's me it's like you got
you got my cell phone number and I care
and I am so
so committed to making you know to
delivering I would do everything I
possibly can so I need to know that for
myself and I can sleep at night if
something fails I know I gave it
everything I caught possibly good and
there are also those times where shit is
hitting you know it's like nosedive and
I will stop everything else I'm doing
out of the laser light on that a hundred
percent twenty four hours a day seven
days a week and I will do everything
humanly possible and it takes that a lot
of times it absolutely takes that life
time so I mean that's for me
awesome Thank You Jose you know I love
to like people up since it's a little
kid I love light people up and so early
on and I was want to make everybody
happy all the time and then I you know I
come in this package I was five one and
then Nixonian on six seven I do ten
inches in a year because I had a tumor
in my brain and and I didn't know it
when I grew some big and so and I'm you
know quite understanding a hard time
expressing my true feelings so it makes
it difficult for people to understand
what I'm really like no I'm fairly loud
and intense and what happened for me in
the beginning as I was trying to make
everybody happy all the time and then I
just didn't realize nobody wants to be
happy and and gradually I began to
realize opinions are a dime a dozen but
impact is all that matters to me so you
know when you've had the impact and you
don't need anybody else to tell you and
you don't need to be able to acknowledge
you you know put put stars in your chart
and you do what's right you know it and
no one could take that from you take
away anything you have but it can't take
away who you become and you become
something unique when you find a way to
grow and you find a way to give and you
do that consistently it creates an
extraordinary life so I'd like to say
that I you know want people I don't want
people to hate me or just like me but we
need accurate said I don't care but I
don't care enough to change what I'm
doing that's what I'm doing is valuable
and I think that as far as failure is
concerned on my god there's so many
failures but I just don't hold it that
way and it's not a technique or being
positive just being intelligent you know
failure is education if you use it maybe
you learn something it's not a thought
if you don't learn to thing then it's
failure but if you learned something I
mean how many of you in this room that's
something out in your life that was
horrific
you hated it you'd never want to go
through it again you
every one something you care about it go
through it but looking back on it five
ten years later you say I'm so glad I
went through that because it made me so
much stronger or so much smarter maybe
care so much more correlate I'm curious
right so if that's true then you know
why not adopt the philosophy that life
is not happening to me it's happening
for me and everything is happening for
me even what I thought was failure and
now my job is to figure out where is the
benefit and use it use it they're
greater good so I could probably list
unlimited failures that I would be
insincere because I don't really look at
it in this failure and that's not
because I'm positive just because I work
my ass out to figure out what can I
learn from that how can I use that and
I'd like to make people happy but I've
also learned in business like I fire
customers I don't need them it's a
privilege to business we left because we
will more than deliver times den and so
I teach my team we so rare we have to do
it anymore but you know you fire a
customer and you say listen we're not
going to be able to meet your needs
clearly because there are there people
out there that no matter what you do
they're going to be unhappy yes or no so
why are you doing business with them and
you can take into life energy of your
organization from it I get rid of them
so fast and then they always want back
in and I never let them back
never and then they become a public
hanging and other people go oh this is
how you play here because it world of
the Internet
we've lost any form of kindness people
say things that are the most harsh
horrific thing or the stuff people write
and all it is is people who feel
insignificant who would never have the
guts to say something to your face but
we've created an environment where it's
tolerated and so I think reversing that
it's really important you have to define
your environment your business your
world your family because we all get
what we tolerate I'm gonna tolerate it
I'll give my soul to a stranger but I
won't tolerate somebody being abusive
any member of my team or two people my
audience or to me certainly not to my
family and you get what you tolerate you
got to decide and you also get me
tolerating yourself and I think if you
can look at what you're tolerating
yourself and say I'm not going to
tolerate that anymore myself that's
easier to lead other people if you just
tell other people you want to tolerate
they look at you and go you ask you
don't tolerate but look how you are in
order to be perfect but people see how
you know you don't know who I am
you'll have to watch my lips move you
can see on my feet of Lube for 38 years
that's Tony Robbins
all right that's probably the best
signature you can give that's the brand
that you put out there it's the way you
live the thing you said the line which I
love life is not happening to me it's
happening for me is that like you know I
mean as part of that a trick you plan
yourself or do you truly believe
everything you have you are able to take
that as is ingredients of this is all
happening for me this most horrible most
Orenda thing from diseases to to
suffering I mean that's that's an
important line and I like it's not just
it's not just a line there's a woman
that I just saw that I had met 15 years
ago and she shows my seminar and she was
suicidal because one of her daughters
had gotten sick and she bought to the
hospital and the doctor said she's fine
she brought her home and the child died
and she was going to kill herself and
she had three other kids so I really
truly had to work with her and I
remember working with her back then I
looked it up as we had almost up I've
ever done on film and I asked her I said
what are your spiritual beliefs and she
said I believe everything happens for a
reason and all that stuff he said so
you're going to abandon what you believe
spiritually because life didn't turn out
the way you want right now
no no I said it did if it's the truth
it'll be a truth when it's painful will
be the truth when it's pleasurable
so I I would like you to say I jump up
and go oh this is happening for me right
now I don't do that
I think what the hell's happening white
and then I catch myself and I go there's
some good in this and my core belief my
real core belief underneath that is
everything I've ever been able to help
people with is because I'd say some
portion of it if I you know have to have
to face a divorce I decided I need to go
through a divorce and I didn't want to
know until you pick your partner after
14 years it was the most horrific thing
in the world but I thought if I can
figure out how to do this
Elliott Lee intelligently lovingly no
matter what the other parties like and I
can help anybody else if I you know I've
had several businesses over the decades
that were you know near the verge of
bankruptcy out of resort and Fiji and
there's a coup you know it's kind of
inconvenient
you know and I'm losing a million
dollars a month Cannell and it's like
and I didn't have a million dollars a
month to be losing at that time just I
wanted to create this great place for
people but it's like in the midst of all
those elements you know I'd come back
and see if I can figure this out I can
help any other business
so almost all my skills have come
because of some thing I had a salt in me
or help someone else solve and my views
if I can figure it out for me I can help
millions of people and so that makes the
problem inspiring as opposed to the
problem being why'd it happen because
we're all gonna experience problems and
the only thing that we all have in
common is everyone yours can experience
severe Bane Alec I rich you are money is
not going to create immunity to pain
suffering can get immunity from from the
decision I told you about but we're all
going to have problems we're all going
to have challenges the only difference
is what the hell you going to do with
them and if we just deal with our own
problems they get really boring and some
people need problems to have drama in
their life to cover the fact they're not
doing anything but I think it's much
more interesting to solve it and move on
and help other people do the same
because you've actually done it not
because you talked about it yeah gotcha
what I love is Robin Sharma who we did a
call with he's in the roomies he has a
saying the 5 a.m. club guy named Hal
Elrod wrote a book of miracle morning
you do priming in the morning I love to
hear what you guys feel are your best
rituals or what it is that you are doing
that just massively impacts you to be as
effective as both of you are if there's
something simple or something that you
just do that makes your life work
starting being a morning ritual or just
anything that people hear is good just
watching cartoons with my kids at 7 a.m.
I count no UV that may be back your um I
mean it's for me it's anchored in my
desiring to make the impossible stuff I
set out happen right it's it's anchored
in this infinity challenge I'm never
bored these problems I've taken on with
an amazing group of people are all sort
of infinite and there's no getting there
so when they're for me they're my
guiding stars so
it's like okay what am I gonna do right
now to move the game forward this day
you know I wish I could say I was a
great meditator or yoga person and so
forth and that will come but not right
now for me it's just its dedication to
the child inside me and what I care
deeply about which is making this making
these succeed and and ultimately it's
it's trying to be clear about what I'm
enjoying doing right it's surfing the
stuff I love versus this is work I'm
probably not good at this work who else
can I find that can do it and doing the
stuff that I truly love better and doing
more of more of that I mean it's it's
there's nothing sophisticated there Tony
woody woody got well um I think anyone
who succeeds has something that they
aspire to there's a mission there's a
direction there's a desire and they
bring it up regularly and you do that
even though you say they'll do it miss
miss Gateway attacking human genome and
and figuring how to get meteors to feed
you what you need is a fairly large
vision somewhat sophisticated our minds
really simple mind simples I believe
that the body is the place that drives
the mind the fastest you can go inside
your head all day long trying to resolve
things and make excuses or freak out but
I learned early on in my life that in
order to make myself do things I had to
trigger this body to feel strength and
to know that when I say something I mean
it and so I have a simple ritual that's
actually enjoyable may not sound joy but
it is now which is I get up every
morning and I'm privileged to have
multiple homes so if I'm in those homes
one of the homes I have a river the rest
of them I have cold plungers and I go
into 56 degree temperature just for
about 60 seconds I jump straight in or I
was just in Sun Valley the rivers 38
degrees a little bit cooler and I took
my nephew and said you're about to learn
how to start your day
and I bring all my friends when they
come like a day they all have to do this
but every cell every nerve in your body
explodes and it's phenomenal for your
lymph system phenomenal for your health
but it also is just a simple discipline
it says I say it happens I'm going to
say I'm going to do this I do it and
I've done it so much there and it's
invigorating and then I do as you said
something I call priming I don't you
know you wake up and you're you know
twenty two hours off your normal
timezone and you've got to get up and
take care of 2,000 people for three days
and nights for 1415 hours
you don't always wake up feeling wow is
this the coolest thing in the world
somebody's wake up and go what universe
is my body in you know and so I do my
physical ritual but then I also do this
priming and priming for me as just I
don't hope that I'm going to show up
with my best I create a state for it
most of you know probably the principle
of priming you know you can they prove
it in so many scientific studies we all
think we make our decisions consciously
when much of our decision-making that we
think is conscious is being made by
contextual environmental manipulation
that we're not even thinking about on
one study they took some people and they
hired actors they'll go to a hundred
people and they walk up to you and if
they are trained to do the exact same
look same expression and they say would
you hold this they hand you a coffee cup
and reach in their pocket and grab their
phone put them back say thank you very
much there just to kind of assume the
action and they would do it the same way
same facial expression 100 people one
way a hundred people out there what was
the only difference cold iced coffee
versus hot coffee an hour later they
come back with some people different
people who've got little caps on their
sing list and we'll give you $10 if
they'll give us two minutes if you read
this paragraph story and give us two
question answers and they read this
little story everyone was the same story
and at the end they asked them how would
you describe the main character what do
they like as a person 80% of people that
got warm coffee said they're warm
they're generous they're loving a warm
is always one of the language patterns
80% like clockwork people got the iced
coffee same story say that they're very
cold that they had they were using
generate language like being obsessed or
being about themselves selfish things of
this nature I give you dozens examples
so what I do each morning
I do a breathing pattern it's an
explosive bring powder I learned in
India breathing breath hand exploding it
out you know from the got out the nose
and I do that three sets of ten paws 3
sets of 10 plus 3 6 10 so it alters my
state and I just do three things for 10
minutes because I have this deal with
myself if you don't have 10 minutes of
yourself you don't have a life
we've lift me on this so I said you know
what I don't I don't need to have 20
minute 30 minute 40 minute meditations I
want 10 minutes and I don't know I need
to meditate I don't know we're gonna
meditate I don't not think I don't know
too many people can do that and I don't
know that I want to not freaking think
you know so I thought what I want to do
is I want to focus on the emotions that
will cause me to be the better me and
the two motions that most people are
messed up by our anger and fear and when
you're grateful you can't be angry try
to be grateful and angry simultaneous
you'll never work and you can't be
fearful when you're grateful so when I
look at people almost all these they're
reacting out of fear or the reacting out
of anger at some version of those two so
gratitude to me is the antidote so I
spend three minutes just three minutes
and I think of three things I'm grateful
for three people three situations but I
step into it I don't know I don't
remember the roller coaster over there
writing and I put myself in the front
seat going of the edge so I feel the
moment and I make sure one of the three
things I'm grateful for is something
really simple like the wind on my face
or something give like my child smile
and the reason I do that is because I
remember you know interviewing some of
the astronauts Buzz Aldrin of these guys
and most of you probably knows you can
imagine you know to be an astronaut if
man knows that meets aspire to do that
and then to go through the thousands of
people and be picked and then to
actually go to the moon and stand on the
moon and look back and see that picture
we've all seen that Bluegreen earth I
mean you imagine then you come home and
what happens there's a ticker tape
parade and you shake the president's
hand now what the hell's you you're 32
what the hell do you do for the rest of
your life
and you know what if you know the story
of many disaster nots most of them have
some major emotional challenges right
some abused alcohol some drugs and I had
a real rough time because they forgot to
find adventure and a smile I thought the
only way to just go to the moon so I
trained myself to make sure not just the
big beautiful things that are part of my
life but the little things and so I feel
that for three minutes then I do three
minutes of a blessing corny as it may
sound I I imagine life God energy coming
into my body healing every muscle every
nerve in my body strengthening
everything is to strengthen
straightening the best of me my passion
my love my generosity my creativity my
humor I love and then I see any problem
that needs to be solved just being
solved because I otherwise I didn't
think I got to do it all and then once I
feel that fully and energy comes through
me and back through me multipliers that
I do a circle of my intimate family my
kids my wife my friends this little
character over here is one of my list
and I just circle out all the way out to
my clients and I send that same energy
Eman and I imagine as corny as it sounds
they're being healed they're getting
what they need energy wise they're
having the life that they deserve and
seeing it multiplied so I do that for
three minutes in the last three minutes
or my three to thrive I think of three
specific outcomes that matter to me and
I don't think about achieving them I see
feel and experience them is done and I
see the impact that it has I see
people's lives touched I see the joy I
feel it as done and I feel grateful and
it's ten minutes but honestly it usually
goes 15 or 20 because I'm having a damn
good time but by having a 10 minute walk
there's no excuse not to do it and I do
it every day and I don't hope I'm gonna
feel good and then what happens is
you're primed you're you literally you
see things through a different set of
filters you make decision some of the
filters and also think of it most people
are wired for stress they're wired for
frustration the wild for feeling lonely
and they you know they got a highway to
pissed off and they've got dirt roads to
happiness so I decided I'm going to wire
myself Rapids I wasn't born that way
I've had my view as I had to change the
whole earth to be happy today that's
different from me now I can just wake up
and be happy because I've wired myself
in a different way neurologically and
then I showed the people how to do this
as well
you guys are awesome I really really
appreciate you both coming to this and
taking attention summer
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