what is the worst the worst is not to
take control of the force that controls
your life and that force is human
emotion I mean I want to think about
this what made the change possible did
you get it did you see it the answer is
simple we change the emotional pattern
that was controlling their life and you
and I have emotional patterns that are
controlling us right now whether we're
aware of it consciously or not doesn't
matter it's the force that is shaping
you it's shaping your relationship it's
shaping your finances it's shaping your
career it's shaping the amount of joy or
unhappiness or suffering or excitement
you have right now in this moment but
it's an invisible force most of us never
take a look at you might want to take a
look at it right now through the eyes of
what we did was Frank and Kristin now
what was the emotional pattern that was
dominating them at the beginning of the
show he could feel it couldn't you and
there was this feeling of death that
there was no future
probably the most common belief system
in people in North America now in Europe
60% of Americans now believed that the
future is going to be worse than the
past for themselves and for their kids
70% of Germans and Europeans I think
it's 80% according to Pew study recently
in France around the world we're
starting to believe that circumstances
control who we are don't get me wrong
circumstances play a huge impact events
play a huge impact on your life but
they're not the ultimate determining
factor the force of human spirit or
emotion is it with the right emotion you
can unleash things you could never dream
of and I know you know this is true so
take a look let's analyze where do these
two live after the accident well where
would you live if you were Kristen I
mean you've lost your future supposedly
there's no intimacy there's no chance of
children you've become the full-time
nurse to your husband who you love but
now you're changing his catheter every
few hours you're afraid to leave the
house because you're afraid what if he
falls over he may stop breathing I mean
there's no life so she goes from the
emotions of feeling depressed for the
life she's lost to feeling angry I call
it a crazy eight we get tired of feeling
sad and then we'll get angry for a while
and then we beat ourselves up for being
angry at ourselves or God
partner and then we get all depressed
again it's a common pattern you don't
have to have something like their event
happen in your life to get stuck in a
crazy a but interestingly enough she's
living in that place and now what what's
Frank doing Frank wants to help his wife
but he's got a limitation we got a
breakthrough he's got a belief all
breakthroughs start with a change in
your beliefs because once you believe
how something is that means you're
certain that's how it is if you're
certainly can't change you're right it
can't I can't convince you no no one
else can she convinced you in Frank's
thinking I'm helpless and I've harmed my
wife stays living with the emotions of
guilt and sadness and depression when
he's tired of that he gets completely
overwhelmed because he says if I just
would have not jumped in or if I would
have jumped in a different spot or a
million of the things that they were
different then I wouldn't have destroyed
my wife's life instead of saying my wife
needs me right now and I don't give a
damn if I'm strapped physically in this
chair my soul my spirits gonna reach her
that's my assignment to get him to
remember that power to not get him
remember it but to get him to use it and
shift his wife and that's what we did
through this process how well the
process really was giving him a series
of experiences that would change his
entire belief about who he is I could
try to tell him oh here's what you can
do
yeah I'm six foot seven and I obviously
have use of all my appendages easy for
me right but if I get him to have some
experiences like I bring him to Fiji and
I show me and get out of the house more
going to the house become a world
traveler and go through all the
challenges that are part of that that if
you watch our little section and the
story behind the story you'll hear some
things that weren't in the show about
that by the way but I gave him a travel
of Fiji and the first thing I got to do
with him is I got to get him to
experience not you know intellectually
but experience he can make a difference
for his wife he is not helpless she
needs him and he can transform he can
take her from crying sad out-of-control
angry - laughing and giggling and
feeling loved that fast it's a beautiful
moment the Shelf you watched and all
this is something called presence
something if you're not clear clear
about do some homework follow up with us
or someone else figure out how to create
that because that's what changes
relationships presents
it works and his Frank starts to
understand not verbally but by his own
experience hey you know I don't have to
live in that sadness or that feeling of
being unworthy or that feeling of being
over long I can I can matter I can
matter to her I don't have to be the
person she just takes care of it was a
huge shift in the experience and I'm
giving you Frank's example because it
relates to yours may be of different
emotions but then we all get the points
where we feel like we don't matter we
can't change something we're stuck and
it's our belief great way to break that
belief get yourself another experience
that's what I do with people in seminars
that's what they do in any coaching
process change it what do we do after
that we take him through the experience
of facing his fears and we get him to do
the skydive together with his lady and
he feels total freedom for the first
time since the accident you get freedom
when you face your fear not just face it
but you push through it I getting phase
separation from his lady for 10 days get
him to be in a room with Olympic
athletes who couldn't move across the
room he couldn't move across through but
now they're incredible and he feels like
he's not enough and he has to push
through that I'll show him how to get
back his dream drive his truck get him
that thing and drive a hundred miles an
hour even though all you got is your
elbows to drive the darn thing and I'm
on the other seat pretty cool thing so
it was a stacking of these experiences
that got Frank to own himself in a new
way to build a new identity a new set of
emotional patterns so here are the steps
and this is what you want to do what I
do with him I did four things that's all
I really did at its core number one for
both of them for Frank and Krista to
transform I identified where do they
live emotionally that's what you got to
do where do they live emotionally well
we just decided we just described where
they live depression anger and one said
feeling guilty feeling overwhelmed
feeling sad on the other there's no way
that can change your life with that is
the emotional fuel to get you to take
action you're not gonna take action
there's not enough intensity to get you
to get through the obstacles or the
tragedies or the challenges once you see
what the pattern is and you tell
yourself the truth this is where I'm
living
step 2 I did William has identified
what's the antidote so
if fear is what's controlling things
right now lean an attitude out called
courage now courage doesn't mean that
you're not scared courage just simply
means that you're scared of death but
you do it anyway
it's an emotional muscle it doesn't feel
good you just exercise it that's what
courage is I mean everybody you know has
different emotional patterns and it may
be hard to see in yourself but I bet you
know what other people I mean come on
don't you know somebody who lives every
day and they're angry all the time when
it pissed off or they're frustrated or
they're worried all the time I mean
haven't you met people all different
times who don't you know somebody that's
always kind of playful or crazy or
cracking jokes better yet do you know
somebody who's not really funny but they
think they are and there's you tell
stupid joke and everything else it's not
even funny but they cracked himself up
so much that you find yourself cracking
up right I mean people have patterns the
question is what yours see if you can
identify the patterns in other people
you can start to see them and yourself
as well and you know what we all do we
all find a way to try to get what I call
home
home is I noticed after 9/11 I'm with
two thousand plus people from I think it
was 45 countries that was in Hawaii the
accidents happened the tragedy happened
you know the the attacks happened and we
got the information at 3 o'clock in the
morning in Hawaii and we had you know
100-plus people 200 people that were
from New York many of which little
worked and had offices and friends in
the towers and all their friends died
there the whole company disappeared I
had to bring these people in from all
these countries with different religions
different backgrounds different belief
systems some people were celebrating
other people are crying and saying was
the end times it was unbelievable I
noticed all this emotion around me and
the biggest thing to put them all
together is I had to say what what's
really going on here and I noticed angry
people got angry sad people got sad
guilty people the nurse she was guilty
she wasn't there helping people but
she's always guilty the angry lady is
always angry we all have a home many
people didn't live in the United States
didn't know anyone in New York City and
they were yet angry guilty or sad why
they weren't angry
you're sad about the 3,000 people a day
that die of cancer and heart disease
they're all mothers fathers children I
pointed out that day you can't be
convenient with your compassion and yet
most of us are or unaware that we use
events as a trigger to get home back to
the patterns we know even if it's
uncomfortable so if you identify where
you live emotionally the patterns are
limiting you the second piece is find
the antidote courage to replace fear if
you're feeling this unbelievable feeling
of overwhelm you need love or support
and not just go get it go give it see
finding that after though it starts to
change the game and then after you
identify it you find the antidote
number three is you got to practice that
emotion I know that sounds weird I'll
explain what I mean in the moment but
you got to do that emotion enough
consciously that you can go from
frustrated or depressed to determined
and you know how to shift that gear and
it's not fake it's not some pump up it's
real and it changes your life when you
can do that like that and it's a
biochemical change it's not some I'm
happy I'm happy I'm happy
positive thinking BS that's not what I
teach I'm not here to tell you go to
your garden and chant there's no leads
I'm going to say there's a weave go pull
it out but you're not gonna pull it out
without determination without passion
without commitment am I making sense so
if you know the pattern if you find the
antidote if you practice it enough and
then the final step you conditioned it
do you practice announce that you can
just automatically go into it that's
when your life changes so what are you
gonna do is your assignment for this
week to take this little 10-minute you
know rant on giving you and convert it
into a massive measurable increase in
the quality of your life I can't do that
for you can do it for yourself if you do
what I tell you here's what you're gonna
do
step one and those will be on the web as
well step one you gotta identify where
you live so where do you live where do
you live emotionally you personally just
like we did with Frank and Kristen there
are thousands of emotions there's 4,000
words in the human in the English
language I should say four different
individual emotions I did the research
on that years ago I'm having you take
out a piece of paper pen take out your
you know your notebook
get a page on one side one column write
all the emotions that you experience at
least once a week that empower you in
some way
love passion excitement creativity
whatever it is peace determinate I don't
know what are yours I want you to write
the emotion as though you don't
experience once in a while the ones you
experience at least once a week a
powerful way and really feel it not an
emotion you feel once every blue moon on
the other side of that page or if you do
it on our little application or wherever
we put it here the other side I want you
to write all the negative emotions are
to be more fair all emotions can be
positive you use them all the
disempowering emotions the ones that
tend to put your state we don't follow
through and I want you on that side to
write all of them and do it
simultaneously just keep making your
list what are the emotions I go into
that mess me up like feeling frustrated
or overwhelmed or lost or alone or
depressed or pissed off and rageful
whatever it is you go and again not
emotions you experience once in a while
once you experience at least once a week
so make a list of all the emotions
experience at least once a week
ones that empower you ones disempower
you on the list that's step one that's
identifying where you live and circle
the top two out of the whole list that
you experience most often that are
empowering and the top two experience
most often that are disempowered
that'll be step one now if you I'm
trying to explain it to you here it will
be right in front of you as well so if
you forget what I'm saying it's gonna be
I'm a little checklist but I want you
know what I mean step two let's identify
the solution so you look at your list
and you see on the disappearing list
I got sadness and depression I got
feeling lonely or I've got filling rage
and anger or I got feeling fear what
emotional state would you like to feel
in that situation that would change your
life if it's fear maybe it's courage
again courage doesn't mean it's easy
doesn't mean you feel you know confident
just means you're gonna do it anyway
maybe it's determination maybe instead
of feeling alone you feel loving and you
go give to somebody else what's the
antidote
what's an emotional pattern that if you
live that will change the game is it
faith is it passion is it courage is it
playfulness you taking things just too
damn seriously he's forgotten
perspective watch the show again see if
you really have a problem see if your
problems are as challenging as the
people you just saw who transform their
tragedy into something tremendous
something beautiful something
magnificent something meaningful
something that can even help other
people that are watching that's the
beauty so that's the second step what's
the answer do come up with your answer
go to motion step three is you got to
practice that emotion I know that sounds
silly stupid kind of weird but if you
came to a seminar with me you'd see you
know three thousand ten thousand people
we do this and we condition that a new
motion till you can shift gears have you
ever heard about the firewalk it's not
about the firewalk I do skydiving all
kinds of crazy stuff it's a metaphor for
how do I go from afraid fires a metaphor
for whatever you don't follow through
and on your life whatever hold you back
to snapping and go in a state of mind
where I just move through it's not this
big mind over matter thing it's mind
over emotion it's shifting and when you
learn how to go from scare to determine
an action what can't you do in your life
so we show you how to do that but for
right now I'll give you a just a quick
example understand that emotion is
really created by motion by the way you
use your body so quick example real
quick imagine a time when you know
someone who's depressed or you were
depressed you ever felt that way I'm
sure you have at some time and think
about what you do with your body when
somebody's depressed they get all
excited talk faster just know everything
kind of slows down doesn't it well that
was your shoulders they drop where's
your head when you're depressed drops
but you're breathing full or shallow you
know becomes shallow you talk loud and
fast or slow and quiet slow and quiet
more hesitant now emotion is created by
emotion we can try and think yourself
and I'm happy I'm happy but if I'm happy
I'm happening your body's like this
nothing's gonna change we can change our
biochemistry by eating by taking a drug
by smoking a cigarette because you take
a different breath you eat food you like
you fill up your tummy and you start to
breathe nice
poor mental emotional state changes
doesn't it so what I'm saying is you
don't need the cigarette you'd only
actually need the food you can just
physically learn to say this is what I
do when I'm depressed this is what I do
on a most determined it's her sister's
gesture I made I remember one time when
I was a kid at one time I got pissed off
and I just what do they do I've made a
gesture I stood taller I look the person
in the eye
I spoke with more authority now my idea
passion determination may be a little
over the top for you and I get it I'm a
crazy mofo and I I I'm a passionate
human being but you can do your version
what do you do when you're really
feeling something like determined what
do you do when you were passionate with
your face with your voice with your body
just practice and make a contrast here's
what I do when I'm sad here's what I do
when I feel loved here's what I do when
I'm worried here's what I do when I'm
determined that's what I mean by
practice and I'd love to have you in an
event but I'm trying to give this to you
so you can do it right now and you can
and it may be this to be helpful to do
with friends so they can give you
feedback and say here's what you do I
see you do this when you're really
strong I see you do that when you're
kind of weak that's the third step
practice now what's the assignment
figure out your emotions where do you
live positive negative what are the big
primary one antidotes what emotions do
you need practice the emotions you need
so you can go into them a few times
sounds a little weird but if you do it
you'll see it's actually quite fun feels
powerful maybe do it with a friend
that's the easy way to do it and
condition it that means take the next
three days do this three times figure
out the difference and shift from not
sure worry to determine from overwhelmed
I don't know what to do to focused and
you just deliberately physically make
the change from one to the other three
times for three days if you're bold do
it for seven but if you do this three or
four times a day for three to seven days
I'll start to get a pattern in your body
and the pattern and your body a new
pattern means a new life our life's a
reflection of our motion patterns if you
live in sadness and depression you can
have a billion dollars in your life is
called sad and depressed if you're
living feeling grateful
failing alive feeling passionate your
life is filled with gratitude and
passion doesn't matter what's happening
anywhere else and you can face any
challenge from those emotions and you
can overcome
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