GUEST: - And I have lived my life I feel like in such a way that I...
My strongest desires were for positive healthy relationships
You know, abundance and those kinds of things have come easier to me since I understood that but...
But, relationships....
So, I've had situations in my life...
And tragedy
Upset....
Things that I can't tell you, I feel like I helped to create
If I do have to take all that responsibility...
My question is: how do I stay in love with who I am?
ABRAHAM: - Because your inner being has stayed in love with who you are
And your quest is to seek harmony with your inner being
In fact, every time you judge yourself or condemn yourself or feel bad
That's your indication that you're off the mark if how source feels about you
And don't you think source ought to know?
GUEST: - I do get that. I think.
But it has to do more with...
Is there a line?
Because I've been in touch with a therapist...
ABRAHAM: - Nope! Nope!
[Some laughs at the audience]
[The laughter grows louder]
GUEST: - Can I give you an example?
mmm I don't where to begin, but...
ABRAHAM: - We do!
[Some laughs at the audience]
Relationships are significant because you're interacting with others all the time
And how you feel has a lot to do with how you perceive others
And there's an inordinate amount of care from you and almost everybody
About how others see you
So, there has been for all of your life a tremendous amount of futile attempt
At contouring your life to please others
Which has messed up your own sensitivity to your own guidance system
Almost everybody we would be same pretty much the same thing too
So, as you've been following us here
And we're going to get right to what you're talking about it
Just relax and trust it this is all going to smooth right out for you
As we've been talking here today about this path of least resistance
What most people do
Without even knowing they're doing it
Is that you try to make a path of lesser resistance for that one and that one and that one and that one
And in the process of it, two things happen
One is: you distract them from their own guidance
And two is: you distract yourself from your own guidance
And 3 out of 2 and 4 out of 2 and 5 out of 2 and 6 out of 2
Is it backfires one hundred percent of the time anyway
You just kind of got to let people figure stuff out
and not try so hard to be the factor that makes it better for all of them
And once you decide that that's how it's going to be
And you begin translating that into behavior
Things just get better and better
You can be so good to some that you disable them completely
You can be so good to some that they become almost demanding of more from you
It's like you start a trend where they get used to their sustenance coming from you
And then if you have the nerve to stop it in some way
Then they become sometimes outraged
Because it's like you've cut them off from the good that they deserve
And that they have demanded through you
Well, it's time for you to allow them to discover
That like you and like everyone
They have a stream of care and attention and resources that is going directly to them from source
And you're going to let them discover that for themselves
And you stop holding yourself responsible for things that you can't control
That were never any of your business to begin with
You'll feel way better
Once you start recognizing that
GUEST: - My husband committed suicide
ABRAHAM: - Good for him.
[Some laughs at the audience]
Because every death is suicide. Every death is.
Every death is. some are just more deliberate about the way they go about it.
But every death is a response to that vibration between who they really are
So let's talk about that!
If everything that we say is as it is, and it is.
It all is as we say it is. It is.
It all is as we say it is.
It is.
So, as he's living his life he's putting all of this into his vortex
And, without meaning to, like so many holding himself apart from his own vortex
When you've created a masterful vortex
And you hold yourself so definitively apart from it
It is very hard to take!
So one of two things happen
Either you find a way to find alignment while you're still in your physical body
Or you find a way to find alignment when you're not in your physical body
But in any case, you find a way to find alignment
And everything that we were saying to you
In that sort of hypothetical sense, is our message to you
That you could not have stood on your head in enough different ways
To have made any difference whatsoever
It is not about you. It is not about you.
It is not about you. It is not about you.
It is not about you. It is not about you.
[applause]
GUEST: - I didn't help created that!
ABRAHAM: - So, did every other person on the planet.
If the cat and stop peeing on the couch...
[The audience laughs]
GUEST: - What it created is my family fell completely apart
I have two daughters that are... In a religion
That if you're not in that religion, they have a hard time understanding you
ABRAHAM: - Almost every religions like that.
GUEST: - Yeah! ABRAHAM: - In other word...
Let's just start there: almost everyone has a hard time understanding almost everyone
And the reason for that is
You did not say: "I'll go into this time-space reality and I'll understand everyone"
That would make you crazy!
That's what Facebook is doing to you!
[The audience laughs]
You're so involved in everybody else's lives
You're completely unfocused about your own
GUEST: - Do I just let go though of my grandchildren?
I have eight grandchildren and two daughters
And I can't seem to get to a place where I can accept I don't get to see them
ABRAHAM: - Here's the thing:
Don't get to the place where you accept
That's like we don't want you or anyone
To ever get to the place where you accept that something that you want can't be
But something that will soothe you today, this minute
Immediately
Is if you can accept that you have a vibrational relationship with them
That you can focus upon and get a feeling for all day every day
And don't let the absence of the manifestation
Just because the manifestation isn't the way you want at this red hot minute
Doesn't mean that what you want does not exist
You got to focus unconditionally for a while
And it's our promise to you: when you focus unconditionally for a while
So that your tuned-in tapped in turned on, feeling better
The Universe will orchestrate a way for you to rendezvous with the things that you want
It must be! It is Law!
But that isn't what you've been doing
You've been focusing upon the reality
That's tearing you up keeping you from being in vibrational alignment with your vortex
With what you want
And so what you're getting is what you're a vibrational match to
Its ok!
But it doesn't have to feel so bad. You see?
GUEST: - I get that!
ABRAHAM: - How else are you going to sort it out?
You're going to say: "All right well you, guys, belong to religion..."
"That believes the way that I don't!"
"So, something's got to change either you got to join me or I got to join you!"
And all of you stand there and say to each other: "na na na na na na"
"We're not going! We're not coming."
And so, then you say: "Okay. Then that's got to be the end of it."
"Because if we can't make peace in this."
When we say: no, it's not the end of it! It's the beginning of it!
Because in all of that discord you're launching rockets of desire
You're remembering who you are.
Do you know that as you came into this physical experience as these clusters
that not only are you eternally tied to these children and grandchildren
But all who have come before are also tied
And they are all non physically focused and looking here too
In other words, to be in a place where you have cut yourself off
From the attitude of love
And you're using some bogus thing as your justification for it
You don't want to perpetuate that and then
You don't want to stand in resistance to them
You don't want to wave the red blanket in front of the Raging Bull
And cause them more discord from who they are
If you love your children. And we know you do.
And you love your grandchildren (we really know you do)
But if you love your children (and we know you do)
And you love your grandchildren (and we know you do)
And you love your children (and we know you do)
If you love anyone (and we know you do) then your dominant intention is to help them
As best you can find alignment with who they are
And opposing them and making them wrong and staking your claim
And join them where they're wrong is not the way to go about it
You just got to remember who you all are as Source
And you got to remember how you felt when they were little
And how you felt when they got married
And how you felt... And how you felt... And how you felt...
This is the best opportunity that we have ever seen
Not because it's big and not because it's tragic
And not because it's a big burden
This is the perfect opportunity to discover not just the relief of unconditional love
But the power of it.
When you blame yourself
You're walking around with this advertisement that says:
"I'm to blame! I'm to blame!"
And weaker people who haven't learned about focus
And they don't really care that much about how they feel
Pick up on your vibe and blame you
So you keep getting blamed for stuff that you have nothing to do with
Not because they're looking for a way to blame you
But because you have been carrying that around
Someone who feels guilty will attract someone who has a propensity to blame
This Law of Attraction thing
So, what we want to help you to do is to acknowledge that you've been doing just fine
And that the Source within you adores you
And that this person who made his transition into non-physical holds no blame whatsoever upon you
Or upon himself
Because now he's in a place where he understands what's really going on
So as you relax little by little and get feeling better
And letting yourself like yourself more in the natural way that you will
What happens is...
We may be channeling Taylor Swift
[The audience laughs]
♫Haters gotta hate, hate, hate, hat,e hate♫
♫Haters gotta hate, hate, hate, hat,e hate♫
♫And you just got to shake it off, shake it off♫
[The audience laughs and applauds]
Because you cannot please them
You can't understand
The only thing that you can do is to come in alignment with your Source
And when you do
The return to that steady consistent love
See the thing about relatives is that you got to catch them on a good day
[The audience laughs]
The thing about Source is it's always a good day
But you got to be in the vicinity of the good day that Source is always flowing to you
So as you find these thoughts that are easier for you to hook up with Source
So that you become addicted to that connection
What will happen is you'll find yourself unwilling
And eventually not even capable of focusing upon those thoughts
That have been putting the resistance on your trail
And this is going to be hard for you to hear but it's the reality that we want you to know
It's not the decision of your children that is keeping you from your grandchildren
Is the resistance that you've put on your own trail
In response to what you think they mean or what you think they're saying to you
Feels like it's a reality that they are creating
Because these are demands that they're making
These are edicts that they are putting out there
But that's never what is really happening
Your response to them is just causing you to pile more and more and more stuff on your trail
On your path of least resistance
That's preventing you from what you want
But as you get your attention off of that and on other things
That will begin to dissipate more and more
And then it will one day just feel logical to them
These children are not going to be that old before they begin a requesting time with you
And in their alignment, their connection to Source
Their power of influence will be much greater
And that rendezvous is a sure thing it's a done deal
It has happened many many times in the vortex
And it will bring itself all the way to fruition
You've just got to stop being sad in the meantime
We really want to make that statement to
Anyone who wants anything that hasn't yet manifested
You got to stop being bent out of shape over the fact that the manifestation hasn't happened
Because you're being uncomfortable about the fact that the manifestation hasn't happened
Is what's causing you to put all the stuff on the trail
And preventing it from happening sooner
It's not possible for you to not get what you want
We just don't think you should have to croak in order to get your resistance to go away
That is extreme, but it works!
But we don't think you should have to do that in order for your resistance to be away, you see?