It's been said to be one of the most challenging things that man can have to
possibly do in his life! Go up start a conversation with a complete stranger!
But there are three different ways that you can do it and right now we're gonna
tell you them so right after this video is over you can go out and use them
that's right now let's jump right in with the first one so the first
technique is a basic observation so something that you see about the
environment something that you see that she's doing that you can just comment on
because you need to understand when you're going up to someone that you
don't know you're not gonna have some magical line there's nobody that has
some genius line in their pocket they're just gonna start a conversation that
everybody cuz you don't know anything about them so what can we do we can go
off what we can observe and what we know and the first technique is to go off a
simple observation so if I see her at a party or a networking event I want to go
talk to her what my I observe well she's got a nice ice-cold toe pacheco which is
a water that's popular here in Texas coke actually just bought a few weeks
ago so hopefully you'll see it around the country I'm excited about that but
you're gonna go up and make a comment on an observation that you have now it
could be an observation about yes it could be an observation in the
environment an example I used last time was if you're at a party there's an ice
sculpture like hey what about that ice sculpture right it's an observation
around so here's what that might look like going up to her and talk to her
about something that I can see that I can physically observe hey there is how
you drinking a topo Chico it's funny cuz before I moved to Texas I literally had
never even heard of it and the thing I love about it is you can go to a taco
shop like a grimy taco shop on East 6th people who drink it to of Chico you go
to the fancy restaurant of west 6 if people are drinking that so what do you
like about it well what I love about it is you know it's carbonated obviously
and if you're a big coke drinker and you're trying to get away from you know
the artificial flavors and the colorings like topo Chico's just you know
something great yeah I agree I drink a lot of coke zero
and so I know like that fast for tanks I know yeah I know I know it's not I don't
you know that's better than normal sugar but having one of those as opposed maybe
it's 70% as good as a Coke Zero oh okay so after watching that are you confident
that you can go up and do that could you start a conversation with somebody based
on a basic observation now if not what I would suggest you do is before you go
out think about a few things that you might see okay if you're going to a bar
well people are gonna have drinks people are gonna have wine people are gonna
have the same kind of things so go in knowing a couple things that are likely
to be options for you to bring it up now I'm gonna talk to you about the next way
to start a conversation here in just a second but if you're watching this and
you're thinking man I just want to be able to go out in public and just be
social just like everybody else I want to be comfortable when I'm out I want to
understand what's going on around me socially why people react the way they
do and I do certain things I suggest you touch or click up here in the right
corner and download the social invincibility checklist it's completely
free it's gonna go through five things that are gonna help you get a better
understanding of what's going on around you socially so when you go out you can
enjoy the experience and really focus on these things as opposed to just trying
to fight to keep your head above water against the quickly coming tide it
sounds like a bit of a poem and in this next strategy what I'm gonna show you
how to do is to open a conversation based on what I call a clear commonality
now these next two videos are coming out in the next two weeks so if this video
has been out for more than a week by clicking right here it'll take you to
the video if this videos been out by less than a week it's just gonna take
you to another video and check back next Thursday and you'll be able to see that
one I'll talk to you soon
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