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what is up everybody this is Lyle with no hippie BBQ what I want to talk to you

about today is going to be this brand-new Camp Chef flattop griddle that

I got some of you guys know that I have a blackstone griddle as well and the

people at Camp Chef went ahead and sent this out to me so I could do a few cooks

on it and see what I think anyway I do notice there's a few differences between

this model and my blackstone griddle and I just want to talk to you guys

about some of those differences in no way you're ever going to hear me talk

bad about the black stone griddle I think that is a great griddle for the

price reason I'm doing this video before I actually cook on it is there are a few

people that are subscribed to my channel that were debating between the Camp Chef flat top griddle

or the blackstone grill top so I wanted to get this out as soon as possible anyway I

will be cooking on this later today one of the things that Camp Chef claims is

that you don't need to do the whole seasoning process on this griddle so

we're gonna test that out here a little bit later anyway I'm gonna bring you

guys in close and we're gonna kind of go over a few of the things that the Camp

Chef has and then maybe a couple differences between this and maybe the

blackstone the first thing I like about this is this has a real clean design you

got the little stainless steel look going on and I think they went with the

red knobs to kind of duplicate the Wolfe stoves that are in expensive houses I'm

not sure but I'm just guessing you have two places to store things now one thing

I really like about this is you do have the collapsible sides

let me take this grease trap off so you have the possible signs another good

thing about this before we even bring you in closer let me just set this over

here is once you remove this griddle top and we'll take a closer look at the

grill top there's a matter of fact let's look at this not sure if you guys can

see this or not let me take a look I'm not sure if it's coming through good on

camera or not but you have the flattop griddle but then you almost have like a

heat disbursement system with these little holes that are down here to

evenly distribute the heat anyway let's go ahead and take a look at the top of

this this is where things get interesting

only with the camp shift do you get the flattop griddle but you can also grill

over an open flame so you have your grill grates here and let's go ahead and

set these aside right now as well and I will be leaving a link to this in the

description below where you can take a look at the price on Amazon and compare

it with the price on CampChef but get the grill grates off and here's what I

like about if you're grilling over this open flame you don't have to worry about

getting any grease or food debris on your burners because you have these

things that kind of shield you know they shield the burner so

that's not gonna really happen there you also have a separate grease trap that is

below we'll get to that here a little bit later I'm gonna go ahead and put

this put these grates back on and then we're gonna put the flat top on there's

some really nice things about the flattop as well

we like about this brittle is you have this grease trap and it kind of flows

down you have an actual hole that it goes through and it has a funnel that

drips into this removable grease catch thing right here we also have one under

the grill I'm going to try to show that to you but it may be a little dark under

there but I'll do my best just no good way for me to show you that other grease

trap is just kind of dark down there but anyway that other grease trap is going

to be used if you take this griddle top off and cook over the open flame it's

going to kind of drain down into that another thing that this has is it does

have a leveling system on it I do plan on keeping this on my deck so that's

going to come in handy I really I'm not going to really go into how to use that

yet because I haven't used it and I'll just save that for my review that's

coming some reason you have a hard time lighting your grill the ignition system

isn't working they also have this a little aluminum piece here that's kind

of tied down to the grill you basically just went and light a match and stick it

through the hole and light your grill like that so anyway this is going to be

my preview today is July 1st 2018 as of today on Amazon if you go to Amazon they

have this thing marked down to two hundred and ninety-nine dollars

typically this is going to be somewhere around 350 360 dollars I'm gonna leave a

link to that in the description below I'm also going to leave a link to the

Camp Chef site so you can kind of compare prices and they also have

smaller units than this so anyway I'm gonna get some get some good cooking

going on this and then maybe you know a month you know something like that down

the line we'll do a review on it things I like things I don't like but as of

right now I just wanted to kind of talk about the basics of it anyway I do

appreciate you guys stopping by no hippie BBQ I appreciate it

comment subscribe and I'm out. www.campchef.com

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Harley Davidson's Leadership Will Not Sleep Tonight After What President Trump Just Unloaded. - Duration: 2:49.

Earlier this morning, President Trump speaks on tariffs and Harley Davidson with Maria

Bartiromo on Fox News, Sunday Morning Futures.

President Trump drops a truth bomb on Harley Davidson that let's American's know, that

Harley had their plans BEFORE the tariffs.

The classic American motorcycle company were planning their move out of the Country far,

before POTUS began fixing the unfair international trade practices.

Maria asks the hard hitting question, "You called out Harley Davidson.

And you've been calling out Harley Davidson."

POTUS replies, "It's true.

I don't like that they're leaving."

Then in hopeful prophecy he says, "oh they're not leaving."

Maria states, "But Harley Davidson is saying 'we're going to send some production overseas

because, we can't deal with some of the retaliatory tariffs out of Europe'.

And that's because of our tariffs."

POTUS, in a soft voice says, "Nah."

Maria asks, "Should you be calling out specific companies?

You're the President!"

And in a soft reply he says, "Yes.

Yes I should."

He then continues picking up the tempo and explains, "Look.

I devoted a lot of time to Harley Davidson.

I treated them good.

I gotta tell ya, everybody that ever bought a Harley Davidson voted for Trump.

I don't know if you know that.

They call them Bikers for Trump."

As it turns out, Bikers For Trump – Virginia chapter, showed up yesterday at the Red Hen

in solidarity for President Trump and Sarah Sanders, spearheaded by Senate seat hopeful

Corey Alan Stewart (R-VA).

Click here to read more on the successful Bikers For Trump demonstration at The Red

Hen.

The interview continues and POTUS then tells Maria that the people who buy Harley motorcycles

love that they are built in America and they have "pride in America."

Then Pres Trump lays out the bottom line of what Harley Davidson did, he says, "Now.

We just proposed this a few days ago.

They made this deal at the beginning of the year.

Long before they ever heard the word tariff."

Pres Trump explains, "And I didn't think they should do it.

I think that Harley is an American bike.

It's an American motorcycle and they should build them in this country."

DJT then continues as Maria agrees with him, "I think the people who buy Harley Davidson,

they don't want it built in another Country.

They don't wan't Harley Davidson getting cute to make two dollars more."

What do you think about this?

Please share this news and scroll down to Comment below and don't forget to subscribe

top stories today.

For more infomation >> Harley Davidson's Leadership Will Not Sleep Tonight After What President Trump Just Unloaded. - Duration: 2:49.

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10 Food To Avoid During Pregnancy - Duration: 15:28.

Ten dangerous foods all pregnant women should avoid

Every expectant mom knows there are certain foods that should be avoided during pregnancy to protect the health of their unborn, baby

foods that are too high in mercury or vitamin A can pose a health risk to your baby as

Can foods that are known to cause foodborne illness such as listeriosis and salmonella poisoning in the meantime

We have to start monitoring the things we eat as some foods can aggravate existing health conditions or bring on new ones

Here is a list of ten foods to avoid when you are pregnant

One

See the cheese

pita is a popular form of cheese used in many salads and pastas and adored by food connoisseur all over the world if

You're a cheese lover who craves it even more during pregnancy. It's important to know what cheese is safe

Unfortunately, this type of cheese has been linked to foodborne illness

the most popular food borne illness linked with this particular type of cheese is listeriosis in

General if you aren't pregnant

Consuming foods with Listeria would cause flu-like symptoms and not have any lasting effect or damage to your health

But if you are pregnant avoid any cheeses that have unpasteurized on the label and opt for safer choices like mozzarella cheese instead

When infected with listeriosis, there is risk of a miscarriage premature labor and severe illness

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alcohol

Before we continue this video do not forget to subscribe my channel to see other useful health videos

Pregnant women are advised to completely avoid drinking alcohol as it increases the risk of miscarriage and stillbirth

Even a small amount can negatively impact your baby's brain development it can also cause fetal alcohol syndrome

This syndrome involves facial deformities heart defects and mental retardation

Since no level of alcohol has been proven to be safe during pregnancy. It is recommended to avoid it altogether

3

king mackerel

King mackerel may be a healthy source of omega-3 fatty acids for average individuals

But the high level of mercury in this particular fish can be potentially dangerous to your unborn, baby

Too much mercury can damage your baby's developing nervous system

the risks of consuming king mackerel fish while pregnant far outweigh the benefits

Especially when there are a lot of other fish you can eat instead

For those who really like mackerel, there are some other types of mackerel that are okay in moderation according to the American Pregnancy Association

Ensure you get the right amount of omega-3 fatty acids by eating healthy

Safer types of fish like salmon tilapia and shrimp and staying within the recommended guidelines for mercury consumption

to be safe

Skip raw fish when you order sushi

There are tons of rules and other dishes available to you that are much safer to eat and don't pose a risk to your unborn

baby

For a thneed coffee tea pop

The amount of caffeine a pregnant woman can safely consume has been widely argued by many experts

Caffeine can cross the placenta and affect your baby's heart rate

Many doctors recommend that pregnant women consume no more than 200 milligrams of caffeine per day on

Average an 8 ounce cup of coffee contains approximately

95 milligrams of caffeine an 8 ounce cup of tea contains about

47 milligrams and into 12 ounce pumpkin Taine's about 29 milligrams

If you're unsure about how much caffeine is safe, it's best to avoid it altogether until you talk to your doctor

Some doctors don't think it's a big deal to have caffeine in moderation while others advocate that caffeinated drinks should be avoided completely

So get the information they need from your doctor to make an informed decision about caffeine during your pregnancy

5

papaya

Papaya is said to stimulate an abortion. Hence is proved very dangerous to consume during pregnancy

raw and unripe papaya contains a substance called latex, which causes uterine contractions

The pain and preps in contents in papaya restricts fetal growth

It is advised by the nutritionists and experts to strictly avoid unripe papaya during pregnancy

6

brie, cheese

Brie, cheese similar to feet of cheese is commonly unpasteurized and can pose potential health risks to you and your unborn baby

These types of soft cheeses are commonly linked to food borne illnesses such as listeriosis

Listeriosis can be incredibly dangerous for pregnant women

Even a mild form of this infection can lead to miscarriage stillbirth or severe illness and newborn babies

Always check the label and avoid any foods that indicate that they are unpasteurized

Some doctors say that if the unpasteurized cheese is caught it is okay to eat

But you shouldn't take this chance until you've spoken with your doctor

Unpasteurized means that the milk the cheese is made with is raw, which is what gives it the potential to contain the Listeria disease

Cheeses that use pasteurized milk have a very low chance of carrying the disease

There are a surprising amount of cheeses that are commonly thought to be pasteurized but aren't so make sure the product label

Explicitly says it's best tries to cover your bases if you aren't sure don't risk it

Seven

pineapple

Pineapple contains an compound called bromelain which can cause softening of the cervix leading to unsuccessful labor to miscarriage it

Is believed that pineapple can get your body heated up rapidly, which can cause abortion or premature birth

Nonetheless having in small quantities is safe during pregnancy

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raw snork deli meats

Deli meats are a staple lunch item in households across North America

They're convenient and cheap make filling sandwiches and children generally like them

but their safety related to pregnant women has been a controversial topic for years in

General processed deli meats should be avoided during pregnancy. These meats have been linked to causing listeriosis

The average person would feel mild flu-like symptoms, but the disease is much more severe for women who are pregnant

Listeria is a rare disease

But pregnant women are more susceptible to getting the virus and unborn

Developing babies are at a higher risk of developing complications from the disease

Foods in this category include any processed deli meats, like ham turkey chicken

Salami, etc, as well as uncooked hotdogs

Either cook these meats until they are steaming hot or avoid them altogether

9

grapes

pregnant women should keep away from grapes particularly amid the last phases of

Conception as they additionally are found to hike up your body temperature prompting undesirable complexities

Grapes also contain a compound called resveratrol that can pose numerous difficulties by imbalancing the hormones of a pregnant lady

Over usage of grapes has additionally been connected to stomach related problems and difficulties

Ten

poisoning uncooked eggs

Many people toss a few uncooked eggs into their morning smoothies to give it a protein boost

But pregnant women should avoid eating uncooked eggs altogether

In their uncooked form expose a huge risk for salmonella poisoning

While an unborn baby can't have salmonella poisoning

The pregnant mother can't pass it on to the baby. There are several side effects that can impact the baby's health and labor

Some of these include causing early labor and dehydration since salmonella poisoning leads to vomiting and diarrhea

Cooked eggs are a good source of protein

Vitamins and minerals. So if you want to eat eggs throughout your pregnancy just make sure that they're caught

When cooking eggs, the egg whites and egg yolks should be solid

Some products to be wary of our ones made with raw or partially cooked eggs such as some Caesar salad dressings

Raw cookie dough and egg nog it's best to avoid these foods as much as possible during your pregnancy

Ensure the health of your unborn, baby

Six signs and symptoms of pregnancy that you must know

For those who are trying to conceive the sign of a missed period can give them hope and send them looking for a home pregnancy

kit

Although a missed period is a good early indicator of pregnancy

It is not the first sign as soon as you conceive your hormones kick into gear and several changes start occurring in your body

However, most women don't recognize the signals their bodies are sending by paying attention to what your body is telling you it

Will be easier for you to detect pregnancy at the earliest stage

It will help, you know, when to see your doctor for a pregnancy testing plan things accordingly

Here are the top six early signs of pregnancy

One a missed period

Missing a period is one of the early possible signs of pregnancy that most women are aware of

For a woman who is in her childbearing years and not using birth control

Measures a period that is laid by at least a week can indicate pregnancy

However, as no birth control measures are 100% effective a missed period should not be taken lightly in some

Cases, there may be a small amount of bleeding at the time of menstruation

This happens when the fertilized egg implants itself in the wall of your uterus. This kind of spotting or bleeding is usually harmless

abort from pregnancy other reasons that can lead to missed periods include odd changes excessive stress

Fluctuations in body weight hormonal changes in the body and some kind of illness if your period is late or absent

The only way to be sure of your pregnancies to take a pregnancy test

It is recommended to up for a test two to ten days after your cycle is normally due

To frequent urination as the bladder starts reacting to body changes caused by a new pregnancy

You may also need to visit the bathroom more frequently, even though you may not have increased your fluid intake

The increased volume of blood during pregnancies filtered by the kidneys making the bladder become full more quickly and resulting in more

Urination at the same time you may be more thirsty than usual

increased frequency of urination is common in all stages of pregnancy as

The uterus wall expands to allow the baby to develop and grow it reduces the amount of space for the bladder

This creates pressure on the bladder and makes you rush to the bathroom more often

Always see a doctor if you experience any burning or stinging sensations during urination

3 nausea

another common symptom associated with early pregnancies morning sickness

According to the American Congress of obstetrics and gynecology nausea and vomiting affects 70 to 85 percent of pregnant women

This queasiness and throwing up can strike at any time of the day or night?

This problem may start as early as two weeks after conception

The nausea feeling will go away by the beginning of the second trimester

Again, you can blame your hormones for the nausea

Along with hormones folic acid deficiency may trigger nausea during pregnancy

For some women morning sickness occurs only a month or two after conception and some lucky ones

Do not experience it at all throughout their pregnancy

To fight nausea eat something starchy first thing in the morning and stick to easy to digest foods also

drink water frequently to stay hydrated

for tender breasts

Once you have conceived the first symptom to show up is swollen heavier and tender breasts

The breasts become sensitive and swollen due to changes in the levels of the hormones estrogen and progesterone

It's similar to how your breasts feel before your period

Tenderness in the breasts can be experienced as early as one week after conception

the discomfort diminishes significantly after the first trimester

Until then the best way to relieve soreness is to wear a solid

Supportive bra in some cases the nipples become more protruding than usual

Also the areolas may appear darker and spotted

Breast tenderness Elza occurs during ovulation and right around the time of menstruation

five increased sensitivity to smell

Pregnancy can make you more sensitive to smells

In fact increased sensitivity to smell is one of the signs that women notice before they even realize they're pregnant

The ongoing hormonal changes in the estrogen level in the body affect the olfactory system

Which makes expectant mothers more sensitive and reactive to the sense around them?

The silent sense have smelled a certain sense or foods can lead to food cravings and aversions

It can cause morning sickness or a metallic taste in the mouth

If you suddenly find yourself

Disliking the smell of your favorite food or you are becoming aware of more smells around you then you may have conceived

six fatigued Antonis as

Soon as you conceive your body goes through a lot of changes

The rising level of progesterone makes you tire more easily leaving you feeling fatigued and exhausted frequently

Lower blood pressure and blood sugar level during pregnancy can also make you feel very tired at the same time

The body is creating the placenta the vital life-support system for the fetus

This takes up all your energy and causes you to feel tired

Fatigue is most common in the first and third trimesters

This early Sun is easy to miss as new mothers often relate it to normal fatigue

If you are feeling tired all of a sudden

Even though you got plenty of sleep and you are experiencing some of the other symptoms

Mentioned here opt for a pregnancy test if it comes back positive

Get plenty of rest and eat foods rich in proteins as well as iron

For more infomation >> 10 Food To Avoid During Pregnancy - Duration: 15:28.

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I'm Spider-Man - Spider-Man (2002) HD - Duration: 4:59.

I swear on my father's grave, Spider-Man will pay.

Thank God for you, Peter.

You're the only family I have.

No matter what I do...

...no matter how hard I try...

...the ones I love will always be the ones who pay.

You must miss him so much.

It's been so hard without him.

There's something I've been wanting to tell you.

When I was up there...

...and I thought I was gonna die...

...there was only one person who I was thinking of.

And it wasn't who I thought it'd be.

It was you, Pete.

I kept thinking:

"I hope I make it through this...

...so I can see Peter Parker's face one more time."

Really?

There's only one man who's always been there for me...

...who makes me feel...

...like I'm more than I ever thought I could be.

That I'm just...

...me.

And that's okay.

The truth is...

...I love you.

I love you so much, Peter.

All I wanted was to tell her how much I loved her.

I can't...

You can't what?

Tell you...

...everything. I mean, there's so much to tell.

Yeah. There's so much to tell.

I want you to know...

...that I will always be there for you.

I will always be there to take care of you.

I promise you that.

I will always be your friend.

Only a friend...

...Peter Parker?

That's all I have to give.

Whatever life holds in store for me...

...I will never forget these words:

"With great power comes great responsibility."

This is my gift.

My curse.

Who am I?

I'm Spider-Man.

For more infomation >> I'm Spider-Man - Spider-Man (2002) HD - Duration: 4:59.

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Dance Moms: Kendall Marks a Leap (Season 3 Flashback) | Lifetime - Duration: 2:29.

For more infomation >> Dance Moms: Kendall Marks a Leap (Season 3 Flashback) | Lifetime - Duration: 2:29.

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59 | Registering the New Shogun (Insurance and Montenegro Vignette) - Sailing Around the World - Duration: 10:26.

♫ Music ♫

We spent the last month preparing the boat to leave.

But in parallel, we also take care of the documentation.

Buying a boat isn't about only paying and sailing,

there's a bit of bureaucracy even in Europe and the United States.

First you have to decide the flag and then enter the documentation and wait to get there.

Only then you can get the navigation authorization in the country that you are.

We came here in the nautical shop today to buy our flags.

And one more polishing paste.

And we finding everything absurdly expensive here in Montenegro, especially.

We just spent 40 euros on 3 flags and a polishing paste ...

Wonderful.

In this episode we will show you how this process was and some things that we discovered along the way.

Today me and Betinho left to celebrate Valentine's Day.

We walked 5 kilometers, then I found a euro and gave him a Coke as a gift.

Uhul!

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But first, we would like to thank the new supporters who have come in the last few days

and also, of course, the usual supporters.

With this financial support, we are able to produce much more content

and we already think of having two videos a week.

If you want to be part of this supporters team, access our Apoia.se

or Patreon in the video description.

♫ Music ♫

Look, when we can find meat, it rains.

- Hey Renato, approved? - 100%, so good!

- Cassia, is the meat approved? - It's delicious!

What's up, Betinho?

♫ Music ♫

Nina gave us support to do the documentation through her partner who is in Slovenia.

Tomorrow we'll probably get our boat document,

which decided to make a long trip ...

It went through several countries to get here in Montenegro.

They made a mistake in the country, it went to Germany, came back ... Anyway.

We have been doing this since June 1st, it was the day that we started the documentation part.

So it took a week and a half, I think.

They say they will deliver until today, the 21st.

Until midnight.

But there's no way we can stay until midnight at the house where Beto ordered to deliver.

So let's see, if they call, we'll get a cab and get it.

But no news so far...

But it will get here.

What's up Betinho, this is it?

We changed our meeting place because the DHL guy couldn't find it.

How exciting!

♫ Music ♫

Come on Betinho, the most awaited moment!

After 20 days.

Uhul, Shogun, I want to see the name! Shogun, Shogun, Shogun!

Yaaay!

Oh, how great!

And this little card? Is there a card there?

- It's the registration. - That cool!

Now the boys came here for the sticker. Where's yours, Renato? Let me see.

Pharea, wow!

And ours, Betinho? Then we will open ... Wow, there are several!

♫ Music ♫

Half the things are done.

Document done. Withdrawn.

Sticker. Now it's only missing...

Insurance.

Insurance and pay the vignette from Montenegro, so we can get out on the boat.

There are only two things left, it's almost over. But it won't be today either.

A toast! To the document, to the stickers, uhul!

We just did the insurance.

The insurance here ... We decided to do in Montenegro, which is valid only in Montenegro.

It is valid for 30 days and we paid 88 euros.

We'll go to the bank now.

And then arriving in Croatia, we have already talked, already chose an insurance, we know the price and everything,

there in Croatia that we will make the insurance that will be valid for the entire Adriatic

and which is valid for one year.

Then we'll show you the costs later.

Because we have to do a inspection, someone has to go on the boat ...

So we preferred to do this in Croatia than in Montenegro.

Because we're going to stay here for another 20 days.

So we took this one for 30 days.

Now all is missing is the vignette.

And it's over, we can leave the marina. Thank God!

♫ Music ♫

Ready! Shogun is already renamed.

We took the name that was here, which was Snail, but the name of the boat was very small.

And now we have Shogun here and we also put the registration number down there in the bow.

And in our boat we also put Shogun.

♫ Music ♫

Yesterday we got the document, insurance and then today we came to do the vignette.

The vignette is a document that you need to pay in some countries and have this monthly, annual authorization ...

Fortnightly, you choose.

In the case of Montenegro, we will ask for a monthly one, but it could be a week or three months.

And then we came to the port, which probably will not be the one that we will leave the country,

but we came to the port, that's where we're going to do it.

And why did we come on foot and not with the boat?

Because as our boat ... For now, it is from nowhere, no one knows it is here in Montenegro.

So we had to come on foot exactly because we can't move the boat yet.

Let's do it now and we'll show you how much it costs.

♫ Music ♫

We just left the harbor master.

That's where we made the vignette.

So we paid 85 euros for the boat vignette for a month.

And also had a tourist fee that we did not know about.

According to the size of our boat, we paid 25 euros.

This tourism fee is valid also for one month.

So it was 110 euros? Is my math correct?

Plus the insurance.

Oh yeah, plus the insurance that we did yesterday that was also 88 euros.

All this for only a month here, okay?

If it is more, it increases.

Now we have come to celebrate, since the boat is ready to leave.

Since we've already spent a lot.

To stay here for a month.

Let's throw everything up in the air.

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Beto is already gluing over where it was.

This sticker is pretty hard to take it off.

Are you playing?

I'm registering our MMSI.

MMSI. Explain.

It's our VHF radio code.

Worldwide unique code.

That identifies us as much as when we call, or if there is any danger.

So they already know which boat it is, etc.

♫ Music ♫

Today, another step is completed. The radio.

For you who like to know the prices ...

Today we bought a nautical silicone, which in Brazil is usually about 15 or 20 reais

and here it was 13 euros.

But WD is cheaper and so is Cicaflex.

After this steps, we were able to take the first tour with Shogun, to test it while sailing.

Time is starting to get short as Google's quarantine is ending

and we need to pick him up in Venice, Italy, on August 19th.

In the next video, we'll show you our first tours with Shogun.

We went thought a big anchor test, with winds of more than 30 knots.

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Don't forget to leave your like and comment and share the video.

This helps the channel a lot, we count on you!

Hug and good winds!

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For more infomation >> 59 | Registering the New Shogun (Insurance and Montenegro Vignette) - Sailing Around the World - Duration: 10:26.

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The futuristic phone you don't want in your pocket (Vivo Nex review) - Duration: 8:29.

This is the Vivo NEX, the closest thing we've seen to a truly bezel-free phone yet

barring perhaps the Oppo find X which is equally crazy. You should check out David's review if you haven't already

So let's get this out of the way up front:

Is this a phone that you should lust after? Absolutely

But is this a phone you should actually run out and get? To that I'd have to say probably not

Stick with me here and I'll explain why

The best part of the move to truly bezel-free phones is the weird and wacky solutions to the question of where

to put all the stuff that used to live above and below the display

Front-facing cameras, fingerprint scanners, speakers and sensors all need relocating

if we're going to have proper full-screen phones. The Vivo NEX valiantly addresses

those necessities in pursuit of the industry's bezel free wet dream

It doesn't succeed on every front and there are more than a few caveats you need to be aware of

before you decide on importing one. But let's start with the good things...

The screen on the Vivo NEX is a great start; it's really big for a phone that's

barely any larger than a Pixel 2 XL, making the NEX surprisingly manageable

It has good white balance and the deep blacks and poppy colors you'd expect

from an OLED display. The lower resolution display won't please everyone, but it,

along with the battery saving benefits of OLED, will help you eke out a little

more from the four thousand milliamp hour battery. I didn't have any issues

with palm touch rejection and even though it didn't get bright enough for my

tastes outdoors, it wasn't any worse than most phones. But there's a lot more going

on here than just screen. By going very close to bezel-less, the NEX has had to

shuffle around a bunch of components. The front-facing camera is perhaps the most

exciting of these as it is a housed inside a small cavity on the top edge of

the phone. When you launch the front-facing camera it appears as if by magic

and retreats back into the frame when it's no longer needed.

No matter how many times I showed this to someone I was always asked to "do it again"

It's undeniably cool, but there's no doubt that adding a moving part to a smartphone

is a pretty bad idea. The good thing about the camera mechanism is that

I found it to be very resilient and sturdy, even if it is still very early days

I was intentionally rough on it, banging it on things and forcing it back

into the frame to see just how tough it was. After a couple of weeks of abuse

I expect it could take some pretty decent battle scars before you have any

problems with it. If you're worried about it breaking if you drop it, you probably

have more to worry about from breaking the screen than the camera

But again, if it didn't move, it couldn't break.

Because it's only needed for the front-facing camera though you won't need to use it anywhere near as much as

the Oppo find X which needs to elevate the entire top edge of the phone to

access either camera and even to unlock the phone. If you're not particularly

obsessed with selfies you're going to have even less to worry about on the NEX

It's there when you need it but out of the way when you don't

Plus, you'll know exactly when the NSA is spying on you in the toilet

The screen is also the earpiece speaker. There's a small vibration motor under the display that

transmits sound waves through the whole screen. It's barely audible to others around you,

around about the same as a normal in-call speaker, and the quality and volume

is on par with any other phone. Because there's no face unlocking going on here,

you'll also find a fingerprint scanner under the display. It works via a small

camera that peeps through a cut-out behind the screen. It's apparently better than

previous scanners, but in practice it's just plain unreliable and still much

slower than current capacitive scanners. Which begs the question: how much

inconvenience are you willing to put up with to have something as futuristic as

the vivo NEX in your pocket? Using it feels like being part of a significant

milestone in smartphone history, but it is still just a phone, and it brings with it

a whole bunch of all-too-familiar smartphone problems. I'm okay with

putting up with a dodgy under glass scanner for now, but it's pretty obvious

why Samsung and Apple haven't used one of these yet.

The NEX's specs are top-shelf: Snapdragon 845, 8GB of RAM, 256GB of storage, Android 8.1 Oreo

and so on, with the crazy performance you'd expect. But there's no IP rating for

obvious reasons, no NFC, wireless charging, or microSD expansion. These may matter to

you or they may not, but they're pretty standard smartphone complaints.

And this is a key point: the NEX is not a silver bullet

Vivo hasn't so much solved a problem as migrated existing problems into a new

form factor. If you wouldn't buy a Vivo phone before, I wouldn't recommend you

buy this one either. Case in point, the software. Of course, the NEX was made for

a Chinese audience where iPhone inspired launches are considered a good thing

But the app drawer-less iOS copy will irritate most Android fans. Even switching out the

launcher is an exercise in frustration, requiring a Chinese phone number so you

can create a Vivo account to allow the security permissions to change the

launcher to something less awful. It's pretty convoluted and even if you

go through all that you're just going to have other problems to contend with

There's no Google Play or Google apps out of the box, and while it's

straightforward enough to force install them, even then you'll have issues

downloading many other common Android apps. Notifications are also pretty patchy,

so you'll just have to cross your fingers on that front

There's no Google Assistant shortcut and not even a way to quickly access the

settings unless you have the app icon on your home screen

There's also weird formatting issues with Latin characters and various

other compatibility and reliability problems with many of your favorite apps

Vivo's Jovi virtual voice assistant gets a dedicated button, but because it only

supports the Chinese language and only works with Chinese apps and services

it's basically useless outside China. The Fun Touch OS experience is understandable

given an awareness of the NEX's target market, but the software as it stands

makes the NEX a phone that is fun to lust after, but not one you actually want

in your pocket unless you live in China.

Now, I can nitpick its faults all I like, but I still love this phone

How you feel about it will likely hinge on where you

stand on novelty and gimmicks versus polish and reliability

You'll either see the Vivo NEX as a technical marvel or as a daily driver fraught with issues

But the truth is, it's both of these things

Now, one area in which I was particularly surprised was the NEX's camera

While the shots from the front-facing camera are unfortunately soft and lack good detail and exposure,

the main cameras on the back are impressively competitive. I took a bunch of

shots alongside the Pixel 2, and in a lot of cases, the NEX came tantalizingly

close to besting it. The NEX camera's greatest weakness is its tendency to

overexpose. It also tends to over-saturate a bit and over-sharpen in post

Whether you like the shots it takes will depend if you judge your photos on

your smartphone screen or at 100% crop on your computer.

For me, I tend to bump saturation, contrast, and sharpness in an editing app anyway

so the NEX saves me a few steps. For others, it'll understandably be an affront to the

principles of good photography. Portrait mode is OK on the NEX, but as with most

phones it struggles with cutouts and artificial looking blur

Low-light is quite good with very little noise and clean images. Post-processing is clearly

in effect if you go looking for it, but the overall result is solid

Dynamic range is unfortunately not so great, largely due to the camera's tendency to

overexpose, blowing out the highlights in the process

But the camera does draw a lot of detail from shadowy areas, even more so than the

Pixel 2 in a lot of cases. Color reproduction is also very accurate,

notwithstanding the tendency to bump saturation a little bit too much

There's also 4K video at 30 frames per second and slow motion at 1080p

And while video is stabilized, it's not quite as good as that found on the P20 Pro or Pixel 2

The battery is a little bit less impressive at 4000 milliamp hours it's

bigger than most, but despite the Full HD OLED panel, the Vivo sucks the life out

of it a bit faster than I would like. I won't harp too much on it here as the

phone has receive multiple updates during my time with it and battery life may

very well change. It's also a Chinese unit being used in Europe so there's

that to consider as well. In any case, the 22.5W power brick can recharge

the whole thing in just over an hour and a half. You'll also get a case in the box

and some decent earbuds. But, given that the NEX has a 3.5 mm headphone jack,

you're probably better off just plugging in your favorite pair of wired

headphones because the V1 chip and built-in DAC produce really excellent audio

All in all I have loved my time with the NEX

Despite as futuristic appearance, it reminds us that phones are still phones

and they come with the same kinds of issue. Despite any misgivings, the Vivo

NEX makes the smartphone experience fun and exciting again, and that is no small

achievement. Perhaps even one big enough to make you look past its software and

other issues. So even if it isn't perfectly executed - and probably not a

phone you should use as your daily - I really hope it's ambitious example

influences other phones that come in its wake

As always, thank you so much for watching. Be sure to hit that notification bell so you know the next

time we upload a video and head on over to androidauthority.com for more on

the Vivo NEX because we are your source for all things Android

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VideoCast #22: Personal Boundaries - The Missing Link - Duration: 30:15.

This is Deliverance Ministry.FM videocast number 22.

Once again, we'd like to welcome you to another episode of Deliverance Ministry.FM where we

give you proven insights about the demonic realm in deliverance ministry so that you

can wage spiritual warfare more effectively.

Don Ibbitso here and I'm here with Dr Phyllis Tarbox, my co-host, and uh, she and I together

are going to take a look today at the whole topic of personal boundaries.

We're going to chat about that.

She's got some good stuff to share on personal boundaries.

Yeah.

You know, boundaries are important.

Well, that's, that's what we're going to talk about and I, and I just want to explain the

title for a moment, delivering.

We calling the title of this podcast on personal boundaries.

That missing link is kind of a mysterious topic, but the reason is because we, in our

counseling center here, we see so many people come in for counseling, for deliverance or

we try to help them.

But I think the lack of personal boundaries that people have in their life today is just,

it's horrific and it's contributing to a lot of the chaos at the rain.

Have you seen that too?

It's hard to watch.

It's really hard to watch when you see people's lives spinning out of control because there's

no order in their walking in, you know, they're walking in chaos and confusion and a lot of

different things.

The enemy can come in and kick up a big whirlwind without, without having proper boundaries.

Exactly.

And it's an it's, it's such an important topic.

And look, and I just want to set the scope for this topic today.

We're just going to scratch the surface where I'm really hoping that we can motivate you

to at least get started on getting a book.

Even just starting the simple as getting a book.

It's called boundaries.

It's like a classic by by two authors, cloud and townsend.

They actually have a series of books that they have a mean book is boundaries.

Then they have boundaries in marriage, bounding with kids and with teenagers and it's such

an important topic and such an expanded little library of resources that they had.

So we're hoping that you'll at least be motivated if you recognize yourself in this, that you'd

be motivated to start that process.

And quite frankly, the reason that we're talking about is because we see people in our counseling

office, we have to help them implement boundaries.

It's not a matter of reading the book, you know, and we can only and then just doing

it, it's sometimes is you can read it, but it's hard to implement.

That is, it is.

It's hard to take back the ground that the enemy has stolen cause you're gonna get resistance

and I think that's what people, they cower back, oh, that's never going to go over in

my house or I'm afraid to do that, but you know what time it is.

And so we're going to jump into that topic in the moment.

I just want to encourage you to stay tuned right till the very end.

We're going to talk to you about how to get a leave, a review for us on itunes and get

a copy of our deliverance ministry plain and simple manual, kind of a, a manual, but then

we're going to tell you about a new resource that we have.

The Counseling Academy website.

Yes.

All our resources totally free.

So let's jump in.

Phyllis, um, you know, kind of touched on it a little bit, but I want to elaborate why

we're doing this because we see grown adults.

I mean, you know, 20, 30, 40 year old people, fearful of standing up to other people in

their lives.

It is a problem.

I mean, I see that all the time while I have them say to me, I can't do that.

I, I don't, I wouldn't even begin to know how to say that.

I that I need to put that boundary down.

I've never done that before.

And you'll see that the, even women with children.

Oh my goodness.

I think that's one of the bigger ones that you and I see in counseling is where the children's

strong rail will children are tilt.

They rule the roost, yes, and that's a boundary.

People can look at whatever the one is discipline parental, but at the core of it, it's boundary.

It is sometimes through all this, the parents have gotten lazy.

It's easier to just let the children do what they want to do and rather than have to put

the boundaries down and say no, and deal with the temper tantrum early.

But as you and I were talking about this, you know, because I've had a couple of strong

willed children, those boundaries that you put down, they pay off in the long run because

you know, children that don't have the boundaries placed around them.

Husbands, wives that don't have boundaries.

Parents, you know, there's, there's bad fruit that comes down the pipe later on and then

it gets so far out of control and it's really difficult to begin to put the boundaries down.

You know, wherever you are in the process, it's never too late to start and to start.

And uh, so that's what we're going to talk about.

As I say, we're not, we're not going to get much and we're going to try to take short,

will be able to show you or tell you in this article or a podcast or other how to do it

and all the how tos of how to get them started.

This.

We want to hopefully motivate you to to look at yourself and say, wow, I do need boundaries

in my life.

And so the very simple thing that people I think to start off with is to answer the important

question is what is a boundary?

What, what, what are boundaries?

And at the, at the simplest level, for me it was always been clear as to visualize a

lot like your yard, maybe a fence or something.

It's you have a property line, your property.

It's laid out there by the county.

Wherever you live and and you know it at the bottom.

Boundary line denotes the beginning and end of something.

That's a property line.

So there's the end of my property and you see it out in the woods.

Many times you'll have these signs up, no trespassing signs, and so you know, when you're

looking at running with that, you have an option.

Well, depending if you're out in the woods and in Tennessee, you go in there so you know

that you have a decision to make.

I say I'm, what am I going to do with that?

And so, um, that's basically it.

And so the boundaries in and I think, you know, want to emphasize that people who hear

sometimes people say, well, they get the brownies confused.

They try to set, why can't set my husband, I can't get him to do what I want.

It's like you can't set somebodies boundaries.

All you can do is set yourself and we have control over certain things in our own life.

Right?

Right, right.

Like, or my car,

our boundaries as far as your thoughts, interactions.

Certainly you can take authority over those and win this battle.

But I do think a lot of times that as we've mentioned, that a lot of people feel that

they're doing things out of love and they're actually enabling.

And then that, that removes the boundaries.

And so, you know, I wipe that off the slate first of all because you know, this isn't,

I don't need to make my child's bed every day out of love.

You know, you're going to have a lazy child that's part of where you start taking back

the boundaries of I'm not going to make your bed every day.

I make that choice.

And then, you know, you set your own boundaries and your own line.

I think sometimes when you look at it, what people are saying, well let's love what is

it really?

Their motivation is motivated out of fear.

It's fear, fear of whatever being rejected or it they use the word love.

Or if I do this, they won't love me.

But really as you say, it's so important is so unhealthy.

It isn't healthy.

So we're going to talk about that a little bit.

What does a life without boundaries look like?

And see if you recognize yourself in this and, and, and why we need them.

But, but bottom line is, you know, we need to set our own boundaries and there's consequences

and like the property line.

And that's a good thing if you have a property line around your yard, let's say, or let's

say there's just, you know, not necessarily a fence or maybe there is a fence.

Yeah.

Let's say somebody comes over the fence.

I mean there's, there should be consequences for that action.

And that's setting the boundary of implementing it with boundaries.

There's consequences.

There shouldn't be.

And the problem is many times there's no consequences.

All ours idle threats or they don't follow through, they don't follow through.

Right in that, well that's a strategy.

If you do this, I'm going, I'm not going to take over, take your way, your ipad for a

week or I have women in the, you know, the kid has it back in or has it back in three

days or the husband gets to do that and two days later because they'll know the other

person will wear down, right?

There is no boundaries.

But the bottom line is it's a property notes, the beginning and the end of something.

And, and for us at, for individuals need to have the mindsets.

Like I have control over my attitudes, my behaviors.

I can take my thoughts captive, I can't control what other people do, but when they do this

to me, this is going to be my property line.

If they step over this property line, here's the consequence.

You know, keep coming on.

You don't call me coming home for dinner.

You know we're not going to eat.

The dinner will be in the free spirit of manipulation.

Right?

Exactly.

So you know, th.

That's basically it's a property line that the boundaries that you set for your life

in, in, in, you know, and, and there are some.

Now you know, we were going to look at some of the myths of boundaries because a lot of

wrong ideas, people believe about boundaries button in the bottom line is if a person doesn't

have boundaries in their life or they have minimal boundaries, are few boundaries, their

life is chaotic.

It's not their own.

It becomes the whim of what everybody else is trying to get from them.

More extract from them, especially people that are servant oriented.

You see them, they'll just get tugged around and dragged in every potluck dinner and running

every church function and doing everything because they can't say no

because they don't have a boundary.

Exactly.

And at the core, you know, and even in the book we talked about cloud and townsend, it's

a great phrase.

It says, learn when to say yes and when to say no, how to say no when I say yes, how

to take control of your life.

And that's just so many people are afraid to say no.

And so at the bottom line, if you know, if.

I'll give you an example, I had a lady I remember this was memorable and what does she remember

how old she was, but in hearing the counselling office one day and she's sitting there on

her phone rings and she looks at it and it just shuts it off.

Five who were sitting there talking and five minutes later the phone rings, she doesn't

answer, just punches it and shuts it off.

And it's like, I asked, well, what's going on?

Why aren't why?

Who's calling?

You says, oh, that's my mother.

She calls me like she'll just keep calling me no more until I answer and she just gets

so mad when I don't answer and it's linked.

Um, th on godly soul tie un-godly control, but this one was afraid of her mother and

her mother and she was kind of torn, you know, here she was talking with me and she didn't

want to answer her phone, but she also knew there was going to be grief because she didn't

pick up on her mother's call slang that, you know, she didn't and her mother kept calling

over and she says, Oh yeah, it happens all the time.

And so, you know, just of course he was frazzled, you know, there everybody was just taking

advantage over or she didn't know how to say no, I didn't know how to set boundaries are

going to be afraid.

So our life about boundaries is that people taking advantage of you, your time's not your

own.

Usually the people that are mentally, emotionally and physically exhausted.

Yeah.

That would wear you out.

Yeah.

Gosh, it is by the whims and the actions of others.

Now, granted there are some things we have obligations or things we have to do, but being

wise about that and making decisions, and I'm going to say yes to this note of that

and being able to do that from our, you know, a real healthy perspective is important.

So what are the things, some of the things that people have wrong about boundaries or

some of the common myths that people believe about boundaries,

I think.

Well, the first one is if you put a boundary down, you have the sense that you're being

selfish, um, that you're not being loving, that you're not being kind, that you're not

being nurturing, that you're not taking care of the other person properly, that you're

not coming under their submission properly or whatever it is.

So I think, you know, that's that you're being selfish and, and you'll see this a lot in

those, in those loving temperaments, you know, we call them the ones that want to wait on

people and serve and said, the minute you start to tell them no, you're taken advantage

of these people are using you.

You need to put your boundary down right away.

It's all internalized.

They, they want a self condemned.

Oh No.

In order to be a good Christian or a good wife or a good mother, I've got to do these

things and that would be selfish if I don't, but no, that's a big myth that you're not

being selfish.

Like Don said, there's boundaries here where your life, their life stops and your life

begins and you've gotta be able to figure that out

so you're not being selfish for not being selfish when you set boundaries and that's

the missing link.

If we don't have proper boundaries are life.

Anything we try to do as a, as a man of God, women of God, a husband, wife, mother, even

before the Lord, we're not going to be able to get it done effectively because we're going

to be jerked around by others so we're not.

It's not being selfish to have some boundaries.

Some people view boundaries is a sign of disobedience at the rebellion and really what you see with

people is sometimes people who eat the indicator that they're being used and abused, they will

be outwardly compliant.

They'll look like they're going along and doing, but inside they're full of anger and

resentment and fear not love is the motive.

So boundaries are not a sign of being disobedient.

They're really not.

Now it keeps you from having that spirit of rebellion rise up in you.

I mean really the people that are close to you are the ones that are going to see it

later on to when somebody steam rolls over, somebody you love, you know, and they just

kind of go along with it and then the backlash comes at home that could show up in marriages

where you have a compliance spouse, it's under ungodly authority or whatever during the day

and they're doing everybody else's work at work and they're just taking it and taking

it and taking it and then they come home and then that's where you see that anger because

they haven't set their proper boundaries at work.

You know, they have a tipping point at the end of the day, and so yeah, no, that, that,

that will definitely sees up inside of you if you're being steamrolled by others.

Another view that people have is if I set boundaries that other people are going to

hurt me, that I'm going to be hurt and we're going to flip.

The truth is really on the other side, that they're the people that we implement boundaries.

People who respect our boundaries will love our wills and our separateness.

They will love that about us.

They really will.

Now the issue of course in the whole thing of how to send them and what do you do with

people who won't respect your boundaries?

While that's part of the process of learning how to set them, you know, there's a bit of

a process to go through but, but w, you know, really the hurt will be less.

You'll, there'll be because you have proper boundaries.

You're not going to put yourself in a position to clients, clients

to, um, you know, if you don't want to go say to a social event, tell the person that

you can't go hurt their feelings.

There'll be, there'll be very upset if I don't come, they'll be very disappointed.

And I said, well then they don't.

They don't understand because I would much rather have you tell me no, I can't make it

then come and be miserable the whole time because I would, I would rather have you there

with quality time than you there under

duress and be miserable.

And people know when you come and you're under duress and you're miserable.

Trust me, you want to be in control of your own destiny.

And the good news is you implement boundaries is a process.

You can get there, get there overnight, but you can get there.

Another myth that people have voiced to them when they start setting boundaries.

You're just angry.

You're full of anger, angry while you're doing this and, and so that will stop people in

their tracks.

And that's one of the tactics of the enemy will use with people to try to come against

your boundaries because when you set up boundaries, if you've never done it before, then you can

definitely expect some resistance.

And you know, when in fact, some of the resistance indicators that the boundaries are working.

But that's one of the things people is you're just angry.

It's like, no, I'm.

And the other people concerned about what if I have set up boundaries, you know, people

that are gonna I'm going to feel guilty about having boundaries.

And it's like, no, no.

Um, you know, once again, if you start setting up, there'll be this element of for awhile,

but it's a good guilt because you'll know that you're getting control of what you know.

You're going to rejoice in the guilty feelings because you know that finally somebody, you're

stopping somebody and you're just going to be able to address that and say it's not a

bad thing, but it's hard to take back the ground once you've given it away, that are

operating in other people that try to say you're the one that the angry.

They're the one that's angry because they're getting their food source taken away of somebody

to make their bed and somebody to wait on them and somebody to do it or they're going

to be held accountable and they don't like it.

Well, exactly and I think while we're talking about boundaries is important to emphasize,

and we've talked about this and other podcasts.

There's this spiritual side of this too, that people in your lives could, could have demonic

strongholds in their life and that's a, you know, we're talking about dealing with things

in the natural which we need to do, but if somebody in your life, something significant

person is full of his demonic strongholds, anger, control, laziness for then part of

the warfare is to bind up those devils in there and loosed the Holy Spirit upon them.

Right?

Matthew Sixteen, 19, and you can find that on other podcasts here that we don't talk

about the power of binding and losing.

So that's an element that's definitely the spiritual side of it.

But once again, we, we're, we, we live in the natural and we do the spiritual warfare

part of it, but we got to have, do some things in the natural, some proper things.

In proper behaviors.

You're setting boundaries on others.

They are walking.

Listen, spiritual torments.

Assume it's going to rise, it's going to rise up.

Exactly.

You know, and if you don't know, do this or do this job, you don't take the garbage out,

this is what's going to happen and you're going to see that.

And so, you know.

Absolutely.

And you know, the other thing is that people think, well, if I set boundaries, I'm going

to be burning my bridges.

You know, and it's linked to the bottom line is you have control of your life.

When you're saying a no to something, it's always subject to your review.

You can renegotiate, you could change on this, I, I am going to do that now it's because

I want to do it.

So you're not burning any bridges.

Urine control.

You get control of your life, you know, can become a yes,

not a bad answer.

It's not a bad answer.

I learned to love them, no, after I came in to the saving knowledge of boundaries.

Now is a really good and then a lot of times, like you said, it just gave me time to really

think about it and then review it, but I wasn't going to let them.

Steam rolled me over.

At first I'd say, no, I don't think I can do that, or no, I need to go pray about that

first.

That's a good Christian Christian, but I need to pray to go pray about it and I know I am

not going to do it but I'm going to take some time.

But the opposite is open if I change my mind, you know?

Right, exactly.

However you get there, if it's no, then you say no one being able to say yes, I want to

say yes.

Yes.

That's the whole notion of boundaries and so I think once again here we're not trying

to rush through this thing and tell you how to do it because there's a process and people

need help.

They need counseling help and we help people implement boundaries because a lot of times

it's just involved in looking at individual decisions and things that their life, you

know, why are you going to handle this, what are you going to do?

And maybe help them to see another way of doing this.

But it is a process.

Like you say, if you, if you got a light without boundaries pan, it's going to get in the car.

You know, you're not going to go from zero to a hundred and 23 seconds.

I want you to know that a hundred and 20, you could probably do a hundred 20.

I like to be around to see that on the passenger seat.

But uh, but, um, but it can be a process and you just start off and doing it and they're

just, um, you know, the beauty of the book called Townsend written.

They tell you how it's going to look, how it's going to begin to unfold, that there's

going to be a resentment on your part.

You're going to want your sentence.

I would say my boundaries are violated.

You're going to be resentful for it, but it's an early warning signal.

It's like the red light on your car that your boundaries being violated.

And so over time you, you know, you'll, you'll, you know, as you implement your own boundaries,

you'll have more respect for other people who are setting boundaries and you'll be drawn

to that, to people and it just rocked.

So they talk about practicing baby.

No little nose, no, I'm not going to do a little victories like baby steps, right?

Toddlers don't all of a sudden start sprinting.

They, they toggle and it's like that.

Learn how to set boundaries.

People can do that.

Give your wife props for that with me because he was head of the women's group when I first

came in and um, you know, being able to say no to her safely without her coming back and

saying, oh no, you have to calm.

You have to be there.

You have to be at every function.

I was able to say no and safe circles with like Korean and different people that were

in my life and recognize that they weren't offended when I did say no and it was really

startling to me.

That kind of gave me ways I'm like, are you for the next time they didn't get all upset

they weren't going to to control me and manipulate me and you can start laying down healthy boundaries

with healthy people first and you are going to be surprised that they're not going to

come back at you.

Exactly.

You got to see those kinds of victories.

Yeah, exactly.

And so that's part of the process.

Um, practice baby knows and then you're just going to grow into the fact of doing some

grown up, knows, knows him and there's those who are going to be hard sometimes.

And I, I know of a situation of a family where, um, they had a daughter who, um, who was involved

in addictions and um, she wanted to come actually coming back from a trip and come back at home,

wasn't ready to go into treatment, just basically wanted to come back into their home and stay

there.

And um, they just said, no, we're not going to do that.

And that was hard, but they knew it was the right thing.

They ended up leaving her at the airport and it was a hard thing.

You know, a lot of times people think they're doing their kids a favor sometime and they

end up enabling them, you know, they, they get steam rolled.

And so, you know, it's just, I call it adult knows and getting grown to that place where

you're able to say no when you know by the spirit of God that it's the right decision

and the right choice and you need the grace of God in your flesh and your, your unrenewed.

And so mine is saying, yes, yes, yes.

[inaudible] or in going to saying no and you know, have, that's a proper, that's a boundary

to

is have children that never leave, you know, what's that old matthew mcconaughey movie

failure to launch where everything was being done for them and taking care of and their

learning.

He was like 40 something years old and his lunch was being packed for him and his mother

was ironing his clothes because there was no boundaries and he was never going to leave

and he was never going to be on his own.

And that can be, that can be a bad thing to have happen if you're not going to take back

those

boundaries earlier, set them.

Exactly.

And so, you know, once again, we're not trying to lay everything out here.

At one point we just want to say, do you recognize yourself in this is your life on a control,

you know, and, and you, you don't, you feel like you're being run by others.

And, and I'm going to say, you know, there's different types of boundaries that you need.

Boundaries everywhere we need boundaries with in marriage.

You know, people, husbands, wives are one flesh, but the fact is, um, you know, there,

there, there is a difference.

You can have boundaries and there can be some missionaries supposed to be mutual submission

even in a marriage.

And so there's a waste to do that.

And to encourage you with that boundary, being in a marriage doesn't mean being a doormat,

being used or abused.

And so there are proper boundaries that spouses need to have.

We needed, we talked about boundaries with our children.

Even boundaries at work.

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

I've had to have a place down a few boundaries and not with you don.

You're the perfect work man.

I can be all the Kudos for that.

In Corporate America there was a lot of boundaries.

You know, that you had to, he didn't want to have to just take on everybody else's work,

you know, or they dump it on you and then you were responsible for it and it took a

lot.

Lot of

work.

When you deal with people that are strong willed and they'll just, they just assume

you're going to pick up their slack for them and then you get resentful with that.

We need boundaries everywhere.

People in different environments are quite require different types of boundaries.

Karen, so exactly.

Evangelist in years past, right?

Angeles wife and how she kind of dealt with this thing.

I remember a story with Smith Wigglesworth and I don't remember where I heard it, some

subject to correction on this, but one of the stories was that she wanted to go to church

and he didn't want her to go and she went anyway, so he locked her out of the house

and she slept on the floor was obviously before he got saved.

I don't know where it was.

I ain't going to been just been angry whether two or something, you know, I think he had

a pretty strong temperament.

Smith, it anyway, locked her out of the house and she, um, she slept on the porch and then

she came in the next morning and she very lovingly made him breakfast and served him

and, but refused to come under subjection of, of you're not going to church, um, because

you know, she put God first in her life.

And I think that's important.

That's one clear way, you know, because they have a lot of women say, well, how do I know

when to submit to my husband?

I should I submit to him and everything you know, even when I know it's un-godly and I

went, now you really need to seek the Lord on that.

Seek the Lord and do what God asks you to do.

You know, certainly going to church as a healthy place to fellowship and God would never say

you can't go to church.

I mean, you know, you, he's created us for corporate worship and fellowship and things

of that nature.

So you know, you're going to be careful with that because it wasn't.

How does the scripture say?

It says that you submit to your husband as Christ is the head of the terms are to submit

to their husbands and husbands.

Also, it talks about mutual submission, right?

Right, but as he is the head of the church, so it's in a godly manner.

You don't have to submit to the devils that are operating in your spouses.

In other words, you know there's a good godly thing and you gotta be able to discern the

difference, but you want to move with God always first and then your spouse would come

behind.

Doesn't mean being a doormat doesn't mean having proper boundaries in marriage is important

and as you can probably tell from even as we had this discussion at the end, I mean

many times it's not totally obvious how to set up and implement boundaries are major

counseling areas that we help people with.

Yes, we do deliverance and we do marriage counseling and visual, but this whole realm

of boundaries, we see it.

It's the title as really one of the missing links in people's lives properly are improperly

implemented.

Boundaries, minimal or no boundaries is a recipe for chaos and so want to encourage

you though, you know, I guess as far as the next step is, Gosh, you know, striking a chord

with that book.

Look, get that boundaries book.

It's a very simple Barney's.

It's called read it starving.

So Lord just show you, you may need help if you need help guys, get counseling, get some

help somewhere.

I meet with us here where we are, we do it over the internet or probably find competent

people are passionate to help you with that as well.

Um, as I said, I made the case and I'll say it again, I believe it's essential.

Having proper boundaries in our life is really, I'm just mandatory for a really healthy or

productive walk with the Lord or it's too easy to get waylaid and we get our little

life will get sucked out of us mentally, emotionally, physically.

We get focused on the wrong things.

And so it's just such a vital, important part of our natural walk is having proper boundaries

in our life.

I think.

I think boundaries, yeah.

Keeps you from being in that place of bitterness, in that place of resentment where others are

eating your lunch and you know you have about boundary list life.

If there's a lot of confusion and chaos and no order in God is a god of order, and one

of the things you've got to recognize is if you're being spun into other people's chaos,

then you're right there in that whirlwind with them.

You're being pulled right into it and sucked into that, and so as you begin to come down

out of that and stand in the eye of that storm and stand in that place of that piece, you're

going to have peace when you set those boundaries.

So everybody else's whirlwind does not have to be your problem and there's peace in that

place.

And so I will give you hope that that boundary, a life full of boundaries and you know, maybe

you can denote your property line, but maybe it's time for you to start putting up some

fences over that property.

Exactly.

And there's fences to keep people out and then there's people come through and that's

basically the essence of it.

Doesn't mean keeping everything as selective as to who and what and how things were allowed

into your property.

So encourage you to, uh, to pursue that.

If that's an issue.

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10 ways to trick people to do what you want - Duration: 4:08.

10 ways to trick people to do what you want there are several ways to persuade

people with looks words and actions but how many ways are there to get something

done without even letting them realize plenty let's talk about few ways how you

can feel powerful yourself as you deal with your friends and work colleagues

every day one the talk and carry method attempt this when you want someone to

hold and carry something of yours like some books your grocery bags extra

bag etc as you walk with them keep on talking while you hand over your

things to that person and the person will carry your stuff without even

knowing unnecessarily to the fatherly advice number two in our list is about

advice passed down through the generations if

you find yourself as a person that others fail to take seriously the trick

is to state that whether the advice you give are passed down by your father

people tend to trust and accept recommendations passed down by fathers 3

a game of rock-paper-scissors rock-paper-scissors is a typical game of

decides on whose idea to accept or decision would win without a vote if you

want to win every game ask a question immediately before chanting

rock-paper-scissors they will almost immediately throw scissors for becoming

the Pathfinder 4th on our list is something you can attempt in a crowded

Street festival or a subway where you want to throw through

just direct your eyes towards the pathway you want to take and watch the

crowd following the logic is based on research studies that showed people

usually looking at other people's eye to make decisions on which way to walk fine

to become agreeable instantly fifth in our list is very easy you have to look

presentable and with a smile not whatever you talk and express ideas or

when you ask questions these actions will make the other person think that

they agree with your words and ultimately will be drawn to agree with

you six how to detect a stalker did you know that yawning is contagious it is a

common sight to see people yawning together whenever you feel like being

watched or stalked by someone try to yawn and look around if you spot someone

yawning the chances are that he or she is the stalker seven building attraction

to get someone to like you number seven in the list is when you want some on

specific to like you the scenario is simple give that person a warm handshake

before you confront and handshake make sure to keep your hands warm meaning

you're trustworthy inviting and friendly to that person also soon after keep up

with the conversation mimicking the other person's posture and actions will

give an idea of being like-minded and a good fit for another eight how to

confront your nemesis doesn't like people bad-mouthing all over whenever

there is a gathering meeting etc sit next to that person it's extremely

awkward talking bad about someone and being aggressive when they're just next

to you sitting at the same table this will prevent that person from being

aggressive and insulting since they're sitting close to you 9 become an

information magnet number 9 in our list about getting some information you

aren't straight out from a person this psychological trick is to ask him /her a

question then keep quiet for a few seconds and maintain eye contact this

trick will make that person talk and divulge necessary information

10 lastly make your kids eat broccoli like candies we have a simple straight

solution to get your kids to eat broccoli that is by getting them to

choose between two stomachs and five stalks of broccoli with those two being

the choices kids will go for the reasonable and lesser one of the two and

will end up eating properly

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Tweak The Environment - Ep. 43 - Duration: 2:59.

In today's episode, we'll look at an example of how tweaking the environment improved donation

rates even among the least likely to donate.

Lee Ross, who we met in last week's episode, and his co-author Richard Nisbett, in their

book "The Person And The Situation", tell a story of tweaking the environment to change

behavior.

They described research into why college students donate canned-food to charity and why they

don't.

Researchers interviewed students at Stanford and asked them to categorize their dorm-mates

into most likely to donate, a.k.a. the "saints", and least likely to donate, a.k.a. the "jerks".

The research question was, "Can we alter the situation so that the jerks donate too?"

They provided the students with one of two different letters.

In the control group, the letter was simply asking them to bring canned food to a booth

on Tresidder Plaza.

The other letter provided a map to the booth, a precise request for a can of beans, and

a suggestion to think about a time when they would be near Tresidder Plaza, so that they

wouldn't have to go out of their way.

The letters were randomly sent to "saints" and "jerks".

When they tallied up who had given and who hadn't, only 8% of the "saints" who

received the control letter gave and 0% of the "jerks" did.

Among those who received the detailed letter, 42% of "saints" donated and 25% of "jerks"

donated.

In other words, a "jerk" with a map was 3 times more likely to donate than a "saint"

without one.

As you go about your day, notice how your path has been tweaked.

Traffic engineers affect your driving behavior.

Grocery store managers want to keep you in the store longer so they put essentials like

milk at the back.

Office managers create open floor plans to encourage collaboration.

Many ATMs force you to remove your card before dispensing the cash so that you don't forget

to take your card.

Environmental tweaks are all around.

Now think about the changes you are trying to create for your team.

Are you trying to encourage more collaboration?

What subtle environmental tweaks can you make so that collaboration becomes easier?

Are you trying to create greater flow by limiting work-in-progress?

What ways can you shape the path so that people aren't tempted to pick up a second task

before completing the first one?

When trying to change behavior, we often reach for carrots and sticks, but we need to realize

that we actually have access to more tools than that.

If you change the path, you can change behavior.

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